How Not To Suck At Divorce

Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport

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Divorce strategy with blunt warmth.

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How Not To Suck At Divorce treats separation as both an emotional emergency and a legal problem. Fast banter, plainspoken divorce strategy, and hard-earned perspective turn attorney communication, negotiation chaos, and ex control into something more readable.

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How Not To Suck At Divorce makes divorce feel less like a fog bank and more like a file that can be opened, sorted, and handled. The show is practical first. It cares about feelings, but it rarely lets feelings drive the car. Recent episodes circle the costly places where people get stuck: attorney communication, negotiation clutter, unrealistic expectations, controlling exes, co-parenting pressure, and the fear that nothing is moving. The advice often starts with a messy situation and then turns it into a usable rule. Keep the negotiation thread visible. Ask the lawyer sharper questions. Track proposals in one place. Look for patterns before assuming disaster. Do not mistake every delay for incompetence, because timing can sometimes be part of the strategy. That tactical lens gives the show its backbone. Its other strength is emotional translation. Anxiety, anger, brain fog, and the urge to fire off a response are treated as real, but not as reliable decision tools. The show repeatedly pushes toward being proactive instead of reactive, especially when children, money, and control are involved. It also brings perimenopause into the frame, linking hormonal changes and decision stress without turning the subject clinical. The tone moves quickly. One moment is a joke, the next is a reminder that court and co-parenting communication matter. That mix keeps the show approachable while still focused on consequences. Divorce is compared to a chess game, but the show is not cold about it. It understands that the board is covered in bills, communication, resentment, kid logistics, and panic. Mini episodes tighten that approach into smaller lessons about getting what is wanted in negotiations, surviving anxiety, and asking better attorney questions. Longer episodes spend more time on the behind-the-scenes logic of legal strategy and why a case may be getting expensive. The result is a clean, sharp companion for people who need to think clearly while everything feels personal. It is not legal advice, and the show says so. Its real function is helping overwhelmed people become better clients, better organizers, and less reactive decision-makers.

Made for: For people facing divorce, considering divorce, or trying to stay organized while legal, financial, parenting, and emotional pressures pile up. It especially fits listeners who want plain language rather than polished legal distance.

What sets it apart: The show pairs divorce strategy with fast, emotionally literate banter. It treats divorce logistics, perimenopause, anxiety, and ex conflict as connected pressures rather than separate problems.

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Get divorce advice that most attorneys aren't giving. We break down unpopular divorce opinions and practical divorce tips that can save you thousands of dollars in legal fees, reduce stress, and help you avoid costly mistakes. How Not to Suck at Divorce is the divorce podcast for people who want clarity, strategy, and support. Hosted by powerhouse family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill, head of family law at the largest firm in the country, and comedian-turned-marketing-guru Andrea Rappaport, this show helps you avoid the most common (and costly) divorce mistakes while protecting your kids, your finances, and your sanity. Each episode...

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Based on 5 episodes we listened to · September 2026

It makes the financial mechanics of divorce legible by connecting legal costs to communication, emotional control and attorney strategy.

How Not To Suck At Divorce treats divorce as a chain of decisions whose emotional and financial costs often reinforce each other. Morgan Stogsdill supplies the legal framing while Andrea Rappaport presses it with candid questions, giving their conversations the feel of a…

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Divorce is chess here, except the other player keeps sending aggressive emails.

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legal strategy that explains when silence beats a fast reply
a lawyer-comedian back-and-forth that keeps grim decisions human

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207. Is Your Divorce Lawyer Making Your Case More Expensive? What's Really Going On Behind The Scenes of Your Divorce...Apr 17, 2026

A blunt strategy guide focused on control, timing, and staying a step ahead.

This episode treats divorce as a matter of moves, control, and timing, returning often to the idea that answering on someone else’s schedule can strengthen the other side.

198. Divorce SOS: How to Respond to Threats and Aggressive EmailsMar 20, 2026

A pause before replying can do more than a fast answer.

The piece keeps its focus where it matters: do not answer a hostile divorce message in the heat of the moment. It recommends putting the phone down, letting the first impulse pass, and deciding whether a reply is needed at all.

191. Divorcing an Alcoholic: Trauma Bonds, Fear, and Self-PreservationFeb 20, 2026

A blunt, empathetic look at how fear can keep someone in a situation long after it stops making sense.

This episode frames divorce less as a legal process than as a test of whether someone can face fear, anxiety, and the unknown. The hard part, it suggests, is often the choice to leave. That idea lands plainly and without much fuss, which gives the conversation its strength.

190. The 8 Best-Kept Secrets to Avoid Expensive Divorce MistakesFeb 13, 2026

Practical divorce advice that treats strategy, trust, and cost as one problem.

The episode treats face-to-face time with an attorney as something that can be more valuable, and even more cost-effective, than leaning on email alone, especially when comfort with the strategy matters.

189. When Your Divorcing Spouse Is Still Trying to Control You ( It’s Hurting Your Case)Feb 6, 2026

A controlling ex can still damage a divorce case if the response keeps feeding the fight.

This episode treats a controlling ex as both a legal problem and a personal one. It makes a sharp point: when someone keeps answering, explaining, or trying to smooth things over, they may be helping the other side without meaning to.

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Episodes

Are You Ready for a Divorce? What to Do Before You Decide

Small Wins in Divorce Count More Than You Think

Divorce: Will Going Back to Work Cost You Spousal Support?

How Divorce Changed My Life in 3 Unexpected Ways

Divorce Problem: What to do if Your Spouse Won’t Accept That the Marriage is Over.

Divorce Questions Answered: A Stalling Spouse & a Lawyer Who Won’t Call Back

Divorce & Co-Parenting Conflict: When to Call Your Lawyer or GAL

Divorce & Co-Parenting- Holidays: What Your Parenting Plan Is Missing

Divorce: How to Take Your Power Back From a Controlling Ex

Divorce Advice Nobody Wants to Hear: 10 Unpopular Opinions

7 Divorce Mistakes That Make Your Case More Expensive

High-Conflict Divorce Survival Story: The Biggest Lessons Learned

Divorce: The Petty Fights That Cost You Thousands. What Top Attorneys Want You to Know...

Divorce & Narcissistic Manipulation: How to Stop Taking the Bait

Divorce and Emotional Endurance: 3 Special Tips to Survive a High-Conflict Divorce

Divorce Stories That Will Make You Feel Better About Your Own Divorce

Divorce and Hidden Money: What to do if You Suspect Hidden Crypto?

Divorce Anxiety: How to Stop Treating Everything Like an Emergency...at 2am

Divorce Anxiety Keeping You Awake? A Guided Meditation for Sleep

Divorce Myths That Could Be Costing You Thousands

Divorce Co-Parenting: Want a Better Relationship With Your Ex? Do This.

Divorce: When Being Too Nice Can Cost You Everything

Divorce: The Most Expensive Word You Can Say to Your Lawyer Is "Okay".

My Divorce Secret: The Shame I Carried About My Marriage (And Why Pretending Made Everything Worse)

Divorce: Why Smart, Successful People Stay in Toxic Marriages

Divorce Regrets: Celebrity Divorce Mistakes You Need to Learn From

Divorce: What to Do When the Outcome Doesn't Feel Fair

Divorce Cyberstalking: How to Prevent it and What to do If You Think Your Ex is Watching You Online

Divorce: How to Remain Strong When it Feels Impossible

Divorce SOS: What to Do When You’re Panicking

Divorce Custody: What a Guardian ad Litem Is Really Looking For

Divorce and Children: The Parenting Mistakes That Can Increase Your Child's Anxiety

Divorce: What to Do When Your Entire Life Feels Out of Control

Divorce and the Stay-at-Home Parent: How to Leave an Unhappy Marriage When You Don't Have Your Own Income

Divorce: The Fear Keeping You Stuck (And How to Break Free)

Divorce and The Biggest Mediation Mistakes to Avoid with Mediator and Former Judge Hon. Michele Lowrance

Divorce Mediation: Why Preparation Matters More than You Think (Mini Episode)

Divorce Anxiety Relief: A 5-Minute Guided Meditation for When Everything Feels Like Too Much

Divorce: How to Handle the Rejection When You Didn't Want the Divorce

Divorce and AI: The Smartest Ways (and Most Dangerous Ways) to Use ChatGPT During Divorce

Divorce Manipulation: How to "Out-Manipulate" the Manipulator

Divorce, Stepparents, and the Emotional Reality No One Talks About

Divorcing an Attorney, CEO, or Powerful Spouse: What You Need to Know

Divorce Attorneys: Should You Hire a Shark? What No One Else Will Tell You..

The Divorce Timeline Strategy: Win Your Case and Save Money in Attorney’s Fees

Divorce Inspo: 5 Positive Surprises in Divorce

Divorce: The Hidden Factor Affecting Your Biggest Decisions- Even GETTING a Divorce..

Divorce Question Answered: Why Your Attorney Might Not be Fighting For You...

5 Years After Divorce: What Life Can Look Like on the Other Side

Divorce Mistakes That Cost Thousands and How to Avoid Them

207. Is Your Divorce Lawyer Making Your Case More Expensive? What's Really Going On Behind The Scenes of Your Divorce...

205. Divorce Pro Tip: How to Get What You Want (Without Losing Track in Negotiations)- Mini Episode

204. Unrealistic Divorce Expectations That Are Making Your Case More Stressful and Expensive

203. Divorce Anxiety and Real Life Ways to Survive- Mini Episode

202. Divorce 101: The Best (and Worst) Questions to Ask Your Divorce Attorney

201. Real Life Divorce Support: 3 Things to do When You Want to Throat Punch Your Ex (Mini Episode)

200. What Your Divorce Attorney Is Really Saying (And How to Tell if Your Lawyer Is a Bad Communicator)

199. Divorce Advice That Will Save You Thousands And Some Humor that Will Save You Sanity

198. Divorce SOS: How to Respond to Threats and Aggressive Emails

197. 5 Things You Should NEVER Do During a Divorce- And an Embarrasing Story- Mini Episode

196. Divorce Questions Answered: Alimony, Custody, Community Property, GALs. Avoid Major Mistakes.

195. Divorce Feels Impossible Right Now- But It Gets Better (A Real Story) Mini Episode

194. Divorce After an Affair: How to Protect Your Divorce Strategy When Betrayal Wrecks Your Brain

193. When I Knew It Was Time to Leave My Marriage: Personal Divorce Story- Mini Episode

192. 5 People Who Suck at Divorce More Than You- Mini Episode

191. Divorcing an Alcoholic: Trauma Bonds, Fear, and Self-Preservation

190. The 8 Best-Kept Secrets to Avoid Expensive Divorce Mistakes

189. When Your Divorcing Spouse Is Still Trying to Control You ( It’s Hurting Your Case)

188. Top Divorce Regrets (and What to Do Instead)

187. Divorce Help. When the Other Side Won’t Respond: Motions to Compel, Subpoenas, and Strategy

186. Divorcing a “Narcissist”? What to Avoid So You Don’t Hurt Your Case