So What Now? with Carla and Dex

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Messy life updates, sharper than they seem.

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So What Now? with Carla and Dex turns catch-ups into sharp, funny conversations about womanhood in motion. The show moves from trips and cat updates to dating standards, motherhood interruptions, body tweaks, and the emotional meaning of a white couch.

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About So What Now? with Carla and Dex

So What Now? with Carla and Dex feels like a living-room conversation that keeps finding bigger meaning in the smallest updates. A bag purchase can turn into a joke about guilt. A trip can lead to animals, parenting, bodies, and the strange expectations placed on women. A stray cat can become a full relationship arc. A white couch can stand in for work, sacrifice, domestic freedom, and the relief of finally having a space that stays yours. The show moves fast, but its speed feels social rather than rushed. Carla and Dex interrupt, tease, backtrack, laugh, and keep the thought moving until a casual story turns into a point about dating, family, womanhood, or survival fatigue. Dating comes up often, especially the gap between what people claim to want and what they can actually offer. So does motherhood, including the real-time comedy of recording around children and responsibilities. Body changes and beauty choices are treated with candor instead of ceremony. The conversations are warm, but they are not soft-edged. The show can be blunt about partners, money, emotional labor, and the fantasy of traditional roles without traditional support. It also makes room for reinvention, from empty-nester independence to restarting routines after a long break. The best episodes have a layered quality: quick laughs on the surface, lived experience underneath. Listener reviews and advice segments help keep the community feeling close to the microphone. The main appeal is the conversational shorthand. It is not a tidy advice show. It is a candid, funny, women-centered check-in about what life looks like after plans change and the next decision still has to be made.

Made for: For listeners who like warm, fast women-led conversation about parenting, dating, reinvention, and the private details that become bigger life lessons. It especially fits people who want honesty with humor instead of polished self-help.

What sets it apart: The show turns ordinary catch-up material into structure: a child walking into the room, a cat on the porch, a couch, a trip, or a dating red flag can all become the episode’s real argument. Its intimacy comes from the interruptions and side roads, not from pretending they are not there.

In their own words

So What Now? with Carla and Dex is the podcast that meets women exactly where they are—in transition, in hustle, in healing, in joy. From motherhood and womanhood to news, culture, and personal reinvention, Carla and Dex bring humor, candor, and lived experience to the mic. Each episode is a mix of perspective, real talk, and connection that leaves you with something to think about long after the laughs fade.

As heard by us

Based on 5 episodes we listened to · August 2026

A candid adult conversation show for family listeners, with humor around relationships, money, identity, pressure, and personal reset.

So What Now? with Carla and Dex lands on the Kids & Family beat from the adult side of the house. The sampled episodes are loose, talk-forward conversations about dating expectations, money, social media pressure, cultural identity, faith-adjacent reflection, body choices,…

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A stray cat named Devo becomes your gateway to dating standards, reality-TV red flags, and glorious detours.

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  • Carla and Dex to dissect suspicious dating behavior before you start yelling at the screen
  • your relationship standards affirmed without pretending love should feel like survival training
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Ep 66: Dating Intentions & Messy Reality ChecksMar 17, 2026

A blunt look at a dating story that keeps changing shape.

The episode stays with a dating story that keeps changing shape, and the conversation treats each new detail as a check on whether the relationship can survive a straight answer.

EP 65: Disney Adventures and Finally got my Lipo!Mar 10, 2026

Disney animals, dating rules, and a comeback episode that stays loose without losing its bite.

This episode moves from Disney otters and rhinos to Mount Everest, then into the economics of dating, where nails, hair, bills, and the phrase "survive love" land with real clarity.

EP 62: New Year, Same UsJan 5, 2026

A relaxed New Year check-in where Devo nearly steals the show.

So What Now? opens 2026 as a relaxed check-in between Karla Bomares and Dexty, with the first eight days of the year treated as a kind of long reset.

EP 218: Finding Balance and Authenticity with Sofia Aguilar

A loose opening gives way to a plainspoken meditation on mixed identity and belonging.

The episode leaves enough room for the speaker to sort through identity in a specific, lived-in way, moving from a jokey opening into talk about Black, Puerto Rican, and Hispanic roots, Canada, the island, and the people she has come to hold close.

EP 209: How ADHD Became Our Superpower

A candid pivot story about family strain, money, and staying rooted.

Pivot with Purpose treats pivoting as both a family reckoning and a proof of momentum. The host speaks plainly about turning 30 after a failed marriage, a failed engagement, and a fractured bond with her immediate family, then links that history to a thriving business, an…

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Episodes

  1. 1

    EP 31: What She Wore vs. What He Did: The Real Issue

    ·1h
  2. 2

    Ep 66: Dating Intentions & Messy Reality Checks

    ·1h 6m
  3. 3

    EP 65: Disney Adventures and Finally got my Lipo!

    ·1h 10m
  4. 4

    EP 64: Glow-Up Guilt, Unsupportive Partners, and Soft Exits

    ·35m
  5. 5

    EP 63: White Couch Era, Tax Season Scams & Lawsuits

    ·54m
  6. 6

    EP 18: Is Gentle Parenting Making Our Kids Soft? and Would You End a 20-Year Friendship Over a Man?

    ·1h 2m
  7. 7

    EP 62: New Year, Same Us

    ·50m
  8. 8

    EP 61: Let's Run It Back: The Best Moments of the Year

    ·47m
  9. 9

    EP 60: 2025 Was Wild…

    ·54m
  10. 10

    EP 59: Why I'm Choosing Experiences Over Perfection

    ·39m
  11. 11

    EP 58: Is Holiday Season Making Us Delusional… or Honest?

    ·1h 2m
  12. 12

    EP 57: Rooted in Scripture, Surrounded by Foolishness

    ·1h 4m
  13. 13

    EP 56: Fall Feelings, Family Nonsense & Friendsgiving Joy

    ·1h 1m
  14. 14

    EP 55: One Year Later: So What Now?

    ·49m
  15. 15

    Facing Death Without Fear: The Heart Behind Dead Honest

    ·1m
  16. 16

    EP 54: Robots Are Coming! Automation, Innovation, and a Little Confrontation

    ·1h 7m
  17. 17

    EP 53: Let's Get Spooky! From Face Creams to Fatal Attractions

    ·52m
  18. 18

    EP52: Not Sure If This Is an Ebb or a Flow, But We're Here for It

    ·1h 5m
  19. 19

    EP 51: The Math Ain't Mathin – Life Path Numbers & Listener Letters

    ·49m
  20. 20

    EP 50:Black Cat Energy: Is Dex Pivoting her Opinion on Men?

    ·56m
  21. 21

    EP 49: Did The Rapture Happen? + Cardi's Baby Daddy Drama & Platonic Marriage Proposals

    ·53m
  22. 22

    EP 48: Pop Culture, Probable Cause & Pretty Girl Preferences

    ·1h 19m
  23. 23

    EP 47: Security Guards, Spoilers & Side-Eyes

    ·46m
  24. 24

    EP 46: AI Dating Concierges, $1K Pre-Date Deposits & Free UK Childcare?!

    ·59m
  25. 25

    EP 45: For Men Only: Proposals, Budgets & Back Door Business

    ·45m
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    EP 44: Brunch Budgets, Water Bill Nightmares & Khloé's Caretaking

    ·1h 7m
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    EP 43: Mailbag: Marriage Pressure, Broke Behavior & Too Independent?

    ·1h 8m
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    EP 42: Wife Material & Mom Mode: We Can't Catch a Break

    ·38m
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    EP 40: Multitasking, Mess, and a Little Mayhem

    ·49m
  30. 30

    EP 38: Hot Takes, Bali Dreams, and Petty Truths

    ·1h 2m
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    EP 37: Are You Too Comfortable? Here's What That Could Be Telling You

    ·44m
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    EP 36: Fasting, Ghosting & Pardoning – Just Another Week in America

    ·1h 1m
  33. 33

    EP 35: Voicenote Devotionals, Selfie Request and The Last Straw

    ·1h 4m
  34. 34

    EP 34: Body Language, Dating Games & Big Beautiful Bills

    ·56m
  35. 35

    EP 33: Single Mom to CEO: Jena Mehlberg on Faith and Raising Boys

    ·1h 2m
  36. 36

    EP 32: Pro-Choice, Pro-Chaos, Probably Problematic

    ·49m
  37. 37

    EP 67: Pleasure Over Pressure

    ·53m
  38. 38

    EP 30: Babies on Board, Husbands at Risk & $5K Ain't It

    ·1h 3m
  39. 39

    EP 29: Serving Hottie Sauce, Auntie Vibes & Labor Glam

    ·1h 3m
  40. 40

    EP 28: Birthday Blues & Ride-or-Die Red Flags

    ·58m
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    EP 27: Did We Self-Love Ourselves Into Loneliness?

    ·1h 20m
  42. 42

    EP 26: The Truth About 50/50 Love and Trauma Bonds

    ·49m
  43. 43

    EP 25: Dex Is a Liar & Carla's in Denial — 25 Questions for 25 Episodes!

    ·1h 7m
  44. 44

    EP 24: The Parenting Debate "Do Kids Need Their Own Room?" + Friendship Breakups? We Went There!

    ·38m
  45. 45

    EP 23: Ozempic Regrets, Disney Trips Without Kids, and Why Moms Can't Win

    ·55m
  46. 46

    EP22: She Had the Baby Anyway—Was That a Mistake? Plus Too Old for Nudes, Too Grown for Bad Baby Daddies?

    ·1h 2m
  47. 47

    EP21: Casey Anthony the Advocate?! Girl, Be Serious

    ·1h 4m
  48. 48

    EP20: Why You're Always Tired, Craving Chocolate, Gaining Weight, and Coach Netra on PCOS

    ·57m
  49. 49

    EP19: Dex is Messy, Carla is Cutting People Off, & the Internet is Wild

    ·51m
  50. 50

    EP 17: Red Flags & Maternal Regret: Are We the Problem?

    ·1h 7m
  51. 51

    EP 16: Ex-posed: When Outing Your Ex Goes Too Far & Unpacking Love Themes in Classic Black Cinema

    ·1h
  52. 52

    EP 15: Roses Are Red, Kirk's Lies Never End, Cleo Had Drama, Here's A Playlist We Recommend

    ·56m
  53. 53

    EP14: Hookah, Hookups, and Hopes for Something More

    ·59m
  54. 54

    EP13: Beyoncé Cancels, Carla Confesses, and LA's Crisis

    ·51m
  55. 55

    EP12: What is Closure??

    ·45m
  56. 56

    EP11: Libido Low, Vibrator on High: Moms Need Lovin Too!

    ·1h 6m
  57. 57

    EP10: Goodbye 2024: We Came, We Saw, We Hit Record

    ·1h 28m
  58. 58

    EP 8: The Real Cost of Influencing: Plastic Surgery & Keeping up with the Joneses

    ·1h 2m
  59. 59

    EP 7: Holiday Drama, Traditions, and Boundaries: Surviving Toxicity During the Holidays

    ·43m
  60. 60

    EP 6: Burnout Diaries: Navigating Motherhood and Rediscovering Joy

    ·52m
  61. 61

    EP 5: It's Giving Thanks: Gratitude, Ambition & the "Miracle Baby"

    ·59m
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    EP 4: Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids & The Power of Saying No

    ·59m
  63. 63

    EP 3: Still Processing Rejection

    ·45m
  64. 64

    EP 2: Motherhood in the Digital Age & Evolving Friendships

    ·1h
  65. 65

    EP 1: GUESS WHO'S BACK! The Official Reunion

    ·50m
  66. 66

    So What Now? Coming 11:11

    ·2m
  67. 67

    EP 238 Spooky Stories: High Speed Chase, Professor Exposing Himself, Dating and Held Hostage

    ·1h 2m
  68. 68

    EP 238: Life After Freedom ft Melodia Shekia

    ·1h 20m
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    EP 237: Hidden Gems: Lessons from Women Evolve

    ·47m
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    EP 236: Breaking the Mold (Ft Ariana Gonzalez aka Ari ADHD)

    ·1h 32m
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    EP 235: Breaking Rules and Breaking Barriers

    ·54m
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    EP 234: Law, Politics, and the Power of Informed Voting Pt 2. (Ft Attorney James Smith)

    ·1h 8m
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    EP 233: Law, Politics, and the Power of Informed Voting Pt 1. (Ft Attorney James Smith)

    ·55m
  74. 74

    EP 232: Humor in the Hustle: Entrepreneurial Wins (Ft. Didi Ramos)

    ·1h 4m
  75. 75

    EP 231: Running On Crazy

    ·1h 2m
  76. 76

    EP 230: Dealing with Conflict

    ·52m
  77. 77

    EP 229: Overcoming Challenges with Hope and Humor

    ·41m
  78. 78

    EP 228: Miami Madness and Real Talk (Feat Dexty)

    ·1h 12m
  79. 79

    EP 227: Intersection of Mental Health and Security (Feat. Ariel B)

    ·1h
  80. 80

    EP 226: Laughter, Loss, and Spiritual Growth

    ·1h 7m
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    EP 225: Heartbreak to Healing: Love's Turbulence

    ·1h 5m
  82. 82

    EP 224: Navigating Life and Success Behind the Scenes (Feat. Andrew Nguyen)

    ·1h 18m
  83. 83

    EP 223: Family Hustle (Ft. Carlos & Carolina Flores)

    ·1h
  84. 84

    EP 222: Fitness, Fun, and Family Feels ft Dexty

    ·49m
  85. 85

    EP 221: Learning How To Receive (Ft Antoinette)

    ·1h 38m
  86. 86

    EP 220: Behind Closed Doors: The Ashley Madison Controversy

    ·1h
  87. 87

    EP 219: I'm Not a Victim..But Sure Felt Like It All Over Again

    ·39m
  88. 88

    EP 217:Breaking Barriers in Business with Denise Woodard

    ·57m
  89. 89

    EP 216: Loud Budgeting and Financial Freedom with Giovanna González

    ·1h 12m
  90. 90

    EP 215: Life Update: Personal Struggles and Professional Triumphs

    ·25m
  91. 91

    EP 214: Should I Get a Doula?

    ·1h 20m
  92. 92

    EP 213: Dinero, a Prenup, and How to be FNF! feat Jannese Torres

    ·1h 13m
  93. 93

    EP 212: He Married/Divorced a Narcissist TWICE!

    ·1h 12m
  94. 94

    EP 211: Juggling the Highs and Lows of Love, Finances, and Self-Discovery

    ·1h 7m
  95. 95

    EP 210: Embracing Identity, Building Boundaries, and Paternity Tests feat Dexty

    ·1h 9m
  96. 96

    EP 218: Finding Balance and Authenticity with Sofia Aguilar

    Hidden gem

    ["Carla Walmaris and Sofia Aguilar spend the episode on one blunt question: why do people keep consuming TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube advice without acting on it?", "Sofia says she went from teaching salsa and bachata and running a dance company to social media strategy, then built a service around creating 30 days of content in one day.", "The conversation gets more personal when Sofia talks about growing up Colombian in Canada, while Carla compares that to being read as Black, Hispanic, mixed, or Puerto Rican.", "Carla and Sofia land on practical business basics like Stripe, QuickBooks, and clear client boundaries, plus the idea that social media is a tool rather than a place to live."]

    ·1h 8m·5 clips
  97. 97

    EP 209: How ADHD Became Our Superpower

    Host Carla interviews business coach and digital sales expert Isis Brianna in Orlando.

    ·1h 31m·5 clips
  98. 98

    EP 41: Traci's Luggage, Kamala's Future, and Karrueche's Dating

    The hosts discuss moving to a new recording space and desire for a more intimate, homey feel, while also touching on topics like Traci's luggage, Kamala's future, and Karrueche's dating.

    ·1h 1m
  99. 99

    EP9: Parenting Without Help: Defiant Teens, Deadbeat Dads, and the Fight for Control

    A single mother discusses the challenges of raising defiant teens without support from their father, exploring themes of control and discipline.

    ·1h 14m
  100. 100

    EP 39: Cakes, Confessions, and Coldplay Chaos

    The hosts chat about back-to-school shopping, TikTok trends, and their return to the studio after a long hiatus.

    ·1h 1m
  101. 101

    EP 67: Pleasure Over Pressure

    Mar 24, 2026·53m
  102. 102

    Ep 66: Dating Intentions & Messy Reality Checks

    Hidden gem

    Carla and Dex open with a sponsor read for Monday.com before shifting into their week, including Carla's reaction to Tayari Jones's new book Kin and Ashley Hopps narrating it.

    Mar 17, 2026·1h 6m·4 clips
  103. 103

    EP 65: Disney Adventures and Finally got my Lipo!

    Hidden gem

    Carla and Dex spend much of EP 65 moving between Disney World details, dating talk, and a personal health update that includes an upper bluff, chin tuck, Botox, teeth whitening, and skin sculpture.

    Mar 10, 2026·1h 10m·4 clips
  104. 104

    EP 64: Glow-Up Guilt, Unsupportive Partners, and Soft Exits

    Hidden gem

    So What Now?

    Jan 19, 2026·35m·2 clips
  105. 105

    EP 63: White Couch Era, Tax Season Scams & Lawsuits

    Two women discuss their different life stages, including one's pride in her white couch as a symbol of her hard-earned freedom and the other's experience with a protective couch cover.

    Jan 12, 2026·54m
  106. 106

    EP 62: New Year, Same Us

    Hosts Carla Bomares and Dex return for the first episode of 2026 on So What Now, catching up on holidays, a 25-person Christmas bar crawl where a shy man retreated after Carla said she was going outside to smoke, and Dex's 21-day church fast from sugar, TV, and Amazon.

    Jan 5, 2026·50m·3 clips
  107. 107

    EP 61: Let's Run It Back: The Best Moments of the Year

    Dec 29, 2025·47m
  108. 108

    EP 60: 2025 Was Wild…

    Dec 22, 2025·54m
  109. 109

    EP 59: Why I'm Choosing Experiences Over Perfection

    Dec 15, 2025·39m
  110. 110

    EP 58: Is Holiday Season Making Us Delusional… or Honest?

    Dec 9, 2025·1h 2m
  111. 111

    EP 57: Rooted in Scripture, Surrounded by Foolishness

    Dec 1, 2025·1h 4m
  112. 112

    EP 56: Fall Feelings, Family Nonsense & Friendsgiving Joy

    Nov 17, 2025·1h 1m
  113. 113

    EP 55: One Year Later: So What Now?

    Nov 12, 2025·49m
  114. 114

    EP 54: Robots Are Coming! Automation, Innovation, and a Little Confrontation

    Nov 5, 2025·1h 7m
  115. 115

    EP 53: Let's Get Spooky! From Face Creams to Fatal Attractions

    Oct 27, 2025·52m
  116. 116

    EP52: Not Sure If This Is an Ebb or a Flow, But We're Here for It

    Oct 20, 2025·1h 5m
  117. 117

    EP 51: The Math Ain't Mathin – Life Path Numbers & Listener Letters

    Oct 13, 2025·49m
  118. 118

    EP 50:Black Cat Energy: Is Dex Pivoting her Opinion on Men?

    Oct 6, 2025·56m
  119. 119

    EP 49: Did The Rapture Happen? + Cardi's Baby Daddy Drama & Platonic Marriage Proposals

    Sep 29, 2025·53m
  120. 120

    EP 48: Pop Culture, Probable Cause & Pretty Girl Preferences

    Sep 22, 2025·1h 19m
  121. 121

    EP 47: Security Guards, Spoilers & Side-Eyes

    Sep 15, 2025·46m
  122. 122

    EP 46: AI Dating Concierges, $1K Pre-Date Deposits & Free UK Childcare?!

    Sep 9, 2025·59m
  123. 123

    EP 45: For Men Only: Proposals, Budgets & Back Door Business

    Sep 1, 2025·45m
  124. 124

    EP 44: Brunch Budgets, Water Bill Nightmares & Khloé's Caretaking

    Aug 25, 2025·1h 7m
  125. 125

    EP 43: Mailbag: Marriage Pressure, Broke Behavior & Too Independent?

    Aug 18, 2025·1h 8m
  126. 126

    EP 42: Wife Material & Mom Mode: We Can't Catch a Break

    Aug 12, 2025·38m
  127. 127

    EP 41: Traci's Luggage, Kamala's Future, and Karrueche's Dating

    Aug 4, 2025·1h 1m
  128. 128

    EP 40: Multitasking, Mess, and a Little Mayhem

    Jul 29, 2025·49m
  129. 129

    EP 39: Cakes, Confessions, and Coldplay Chaos

    Jul 22, 2025·1h 1m
  130. 130

    EP 38: Hot Takes, Bali Dreams, and Petty Truths

    Jul 15, 2025·1h 2m
  131. 131

    EP 37: Are You Too Comfortable? Here's What That Could Be Telling You

    Jul 9, 2025·44m
  132. 132

    EP 36: Fasting, Ghosting & Pardoning – Just Another Week in America

    Jun 30, 2025·1h 1m
  133. 133

    EP 35: Voicenote Devotionals, Selfie Request and The Last Straw

    Jun 23, 2025·1h 4m
  134. 134

    EP 34: Body Language, Dating Games & Big Beautiful Bills

    Jun 16, 2025·56m
  135. 135

    EP 33: Single Mom to CEO: Jena Mehlberg on Faith and Raising Boys

    Jun 9, 2025·1h 2m
  136. 136

    EP 32: Pro-Choice, Pro-Chaos, Probably Problematic

    Jun 2, 2025·49m
  137. 137

    EP 31: What She Wore vs. What He Did: The Real Issue

    The hosts chat about cowboy fashion, plans for the day, and a podcast that resonated with them.

    May 26, 2025·1h
  138. 138

    EP 30: Babies on Board, Husbands at Risk & $5K Ain't It

    May 19, 2025·1h 3m
  139. 139

    EP 29: Serving Hottie Sauce, Auntie Vibes & Labor Glam

    May 12, 2025·1h 3m
  140. 140

    EP 28: Birthday Blues & Ride-or-Die Red Flags

    May 5, 2025·58m
  141. 141

    EP 27: Did We Self-Love Ourselves Into Loneliness?

    Apr 28, 2025·1h 20m
  142. 142

    EP 26: The Truth About 50/50 Love and Trauma Bonds

    Apr 21, 2025·49m
  143. 143

    EP 25: Dex Is a Liar & Carla's in Denial — 25 Questions for 25 Episodes!

    Apr 14, 2025·1h 7m
  144. 144

    EP 24: The Parenting Debate "Do Kids Need Their Own Room?" + Friendship Breakups? We Went There!

    Apr 7, 2025·38m
  145. 145

    EP 23: Ozempic Regrets, Disney Trips Without Kids, and Why Moms Can't Win

    Moms discuss the guilt and judgment around using Ozempic, taking Disney trips without kids, and the impossible standards of motherhood.

    Mar 31, 2025·55m
  146. 146

    EP22: She Had the Baby Anyway—Was That a Mistake? Plus Too Old for Nudes, Too Grown for Bad Baby Daddies?

    Mar 24, 2025·1h 2m
  147. 147

    EP21: Casey Anthony the Advocate?! Girl, Be Serious

    Mar 17, 2025·1h 4m
  148. 148

    EP20: Why You're Always Tired, Craving Chocolate, Gaining Weight, and Coach Netra on PCOS

    Mar 10, 2025·57m
  149. 149

    EP19: Dex is Messy, Carla is Cutting People Off, & the Internet is Wild

    Mar 3, 2025·51m