School Of Attraction Podcast

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Men’s dating advice with sharper edges.

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School Of Attraction Podcast is a direct, advice-driven show about dating, attraction, masculinity, sexuality, and life philosophy. Its episodes move between practical coaching, guest conversations, and arguments about how modern relationships are shaped by apps, gender politics, and changing social expectations.

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About School Of Attraction Podcast

School Of Attraction Podcast presents dating as a learned craft, not a mystery to be solved by luck or slogans. Its center of gravity is men’s dating and attraction coaching, but the conversations often widen into masculinity, sexuality, life philosophy, politics, and the uneasy rules of modern relationships. The show is direct. It is also comfortable arguing. In one episode, Damian Deeker tests ChatGPT against the kind of feedback a human dating coach might give, using online conversation examples and rating where the tool succeeds or falls short. That episode is practical and surprisingly specific, focusing on message tone, playful teasing, and the common panic of not knowing what a romantic situation means. In another, Michelle Hoffman discusses finding a lasting partner through clarity, intention, and emotional availability. The emphasis there is slower and more relationship-minded. It is less about pickup and more about choosing who belongs in a future life. Other episodes turn sharper. Marc Defant appears in a discussion about evolutionary psychology, feminist critiques, patriarchy, discrimination, and the biological explanations people accept or reject when talking about sex and power. The show does not treat dating as separate from culture. It repeatedly frames attraction as something shaped by technology, history, social pressure, and the stories men and women tell about each other. A conversation with Chris moves through Thailand, Chiang Mai, dating apps, cold approaching, and the dating-coach scene, with a more casual feel and some skepticism about the industry. Across these excerpts, the show’s rhythm is loose but purposeful. There are monologues, interviews, thought experiments, and examples from client-style scenarios. The copy is not polished into neutral wellness language. It has opinions, contradictions, and a willingness to say when something feels ineffective, overhyped, or socially confused. Listeners looking for gentle relationship reassurance may find it too pointed. Listeners who want a candid men’s dating show that connects tactics to larger arguments about gender and society will understand its appeal quickly.

Made for: The show is for men interested in improving dating skills, understanding attraction, and thinking through modern relationship dynamics. It especially suits listeners who want practical coaching mixed with debate about masculinity, technology, and sexual politics.

What sets it apart: Unlike narrower dating-tip shows, School Of Attraction Podcast moves between applied coaching and broader arguments about culture, science, ideology, and relationship expectations. It is as interested in why dating feels difficult as in what to say next.

In their own words

A place for men to learn about everything from approaching and attracting beautiful women, to men's personal development, the politics of sex and much much more. There's no topic Damien won't discuss as we dive down the rabbit hole of learned seduction and men's health. https://schoolofattraction.com https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction https://www.tiktok.com/@schoolofattaction

men’s dating coachingattraction psychologylong-term partner selectiononline dating conversationscold approachingevolutionary psychologymasculinity and sexualityAI as dating coach

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Episodes

  1. 1

    What 100,000+ Personality Test Results Taught Me About My Clients

    ·17m
  2. 2

    When Science Meets Ideology: A Geochemist Dismantles Feminist Critiques of Evolutionary Psychology

    ·1h 1m
  3. 3

    Deconstructing the Red Pill: A Nuanced Take on Hypergamy, Dating Markets, and Modern Masculinity

    ·1h 2m
  4. 4

    Dating in Thailand, Apps vs. Cold Approaching, and the Future of Modern Relationships

    ·1h 1m
  5. 5

    Inside the Sugar Dating World: Myths, Money & Modern Relationships

    ·49m
  6. 6

    Modern Masculinity: Healthy Strength vs. Toxic Myths With Tim Wienecke

    ·1h 1m
  7. 7

    Taking Back Our Masculinity - Andre Paradis

    ·1h 4m
  8. 8

    Dating in the Digital Age: Why Modern Men Are Struggling (and How to Break Free)

    ·45m
  9. 9

    How Modern Victim Mentality Is Destroy Men's Sucess In Dating - Ryan Dixon

    ·51m
  10. 10

    The Curse Of Social Media On Modern Dating - Hayley Quinn

    ·39m
  11. 11

    Developing Healthy Masculinity And Recovering From Dating Trauma - Timothy Wienecke

    ·1h
  12. 12

    The Best Dating Coach You Haven’t Used (Yet) | ChatGPT vs Human Coach

    ·35m
  13. 13

    Complete Roadmap To Attracting Women - From Start To Finish

    ·21m
  14. 14

    Flip Her Attraction Switch: The Underrated Power of Rapport

    ·25m
  15. 15

    From 1 Date A Year To 4 Dates A Week (With No Cold Approaching)

    ·21m
  16. 16

    How To Level Up With Women Fast - Starting Today

    ·20m
  17. 17

    Stop Getting Instantly Rejected By Women

    ·17m
  18. 18

    The Toxic Side Of Feminism - Ruining It For Everyone

    ·24m
  19. 19

    Why Do Women Cheat? Here Are The Biggest Red Flags

    ·25m
  20. 20

    Iron John & the Wild Man Within: What Modern Men Are Missing

    ·15m
  21. 21

    A Female Dating Coach's Perspective - How To Approach Women?

    ·1h
  22. 22

    How To Approach A Woman In A Bar - All Scenarios Covered

    ·17m
  23. 23

    CONFIDENCE FAIL! 5 Myths You Need to Stop Believing

    ·15m
  24. 24

    Self-Perception vs Reality: What Holds Men Back

    ·14m
  25. 25

    11 Signs A Girl Likes You

    ·13m
  26. 26

    Why Men Rage Quit Dating: The 3 Barriers Holding You Back

    ·16m
  27. 27

    How To Stop Getting Instantly Rejected By Women

    ·17m
  28. 28

    The Ultimate Tinder Strategy for 2025: 3 Steps to Win Big

    ·12m
  29. 29

    The Ugly Truth - Dating And Attraction For Men

    ·27m
  30. 30

    Should Men Avoid Marriage? The Statistical Evidence

    ·17m
  31. 31

    How To Sexually Flirt With Women (With Examples)

    ·13m
  32. 32

    How I Beat Panic And Anxiety When Nothing Else Worked

    ·21m
  33. 33

    5 Steps To Build Confidence As An Introvert

    ·21m
  34. 34

    The Dark Side of Seeking Empowerment: Men, Red Pill, and Mental Health

    ·18m
  35. 35

    The Surprising Reason Smart Men Struggle With Women

    ·16m
  36. 36

    Style Hacks from a Nobel Laureate: Heuristic Attraction 🔥

    ·15m
  37. 37

    Healing Sexual Shame and Becoming A Better Lover

    ·1h 6m
  38. 38

    The Quiet Charm: How To Be Introverted and Successful with Women

    ·16m
  39. 39

    Women’s Sexual Liberation - Empowerment Or Social Erosion?

    ·16m
  40. 40

    6 Red Flags When Meeting Women In Bars/Clubs

    ·16m
  41. 41

    Flake-Proofing Your Profile: Client's Tinder Hack Revealed

    ·11m
  42. 42

    Reframe Your Mindset: How to Be More Attractive to Women

    ·11m
  43. 43

    Passport Bros: A Valid Solution To A Real Problem?

    ·15m
  44. 44

    Why 90% Of Men Struggle To Build Attraction

    ·13m
  45. 45

    Tinder VS ChatGPT: Testing AI-Powered Openers

    ·19m
  46. 46

    Long Term Partner Green Flags - Choosing The Perfect Mate

    ·13m
  47. 47

    Should Men Care About Women's Body Count? - Let's Analyse The Data

    ·18m
  48. 48

    Is Dating Easier For Men Or Women?

    ·19m
  49. 49

    I Did A Tantra Workshop - Things Got Spicy 🌶 🌶

    ·20m
  50. 50

    Do Age Gap Relationships Work?

    ·28m
  51. 51

    4 Truths To Leading An Uncommon and Extraordinary Life - Terry Tucker

    ·44m
  52. 52

    How To Build Powerful Banter Skills - Interview With Comedienne Kristen Carney

    ·1h 4m
  53. 53

    Man's Need For Intimate Connection For Mental Health - Simon Rinne

    ·49m
  54. 54

    A Female Dating Coach Perspective - Biggest Mistakes Men And Women Make - Laurie Gerber

    ·54m
  55. 55

    Attachment Styles And The Power Of Psychedelic Assisted Therapy - Thomas Westenholz

    ·55m
  56. 56

    3 Steps For Men To Enter Their Masculine - GS Youngblood

    ·55m
  57. 57

    The Importance of Deep Social Connections To Mental Health - Florance Ann Romano

    ·41m
  58. 58

    How To Make Her First Time In Bed With You Amazing - With Leah Piper

    ·56m
  59. 59

    How To Increase Your Testosterone - Interview With Nick Soulias

    ·36m
  60. 60

    Do Women Hold All The Power When You Approach Them?

    ·14m
  61. 61

    7 Ways To Build Sexual Tension With A Woman

    ·23m
  62. 62

    Sexual Esclation Vs Sexual Tension - A Mistake Many Guys Make

    ·12m
  63. 63

    How Bad Are Racial Dating Preferences? - A Critique Of The ‘OK Cupid’ Statistics

    ·15m
  64. 64

    No Luck Online Dating? Here’s A Completely Novel Approach

    ·11m
  65. 65

    Why One Night Stands Are A BAD Casual Sex Strategy

    ·12m
  66. 66

    Should You Be More Masculine To Attract Women?

    ·10m
  67. 67

    My Funniest Dating Failures - Best Ways I've Crashed And Burned

    ·15m
  68. 68

    What's The Best Way To Meet Women These Days?

    ·16m
  69. 69

    Feeling Stuck With Women - Use This Checklist To Get To The Next Level

    ·20m
  70. 70

    How To Set Boundaries Witih Women - And Be Respected

    ·13m
  71. 71

    How To Approach A Girl At A Bar - Without Being A D-Bag

    ·13m
  72. 72

    Being Needy Vs Confidently Expressing Desire - A Crucial Distinction

    ·11m
  73. 73

    How To Exploit The Tinder Algorithm In 2022 - Niching, Netflix, And Venn Diagrams

    ·10m
  74. 74

    Is It Worth Turning To Tantra To Build Our Sexual Self Esteem? Interview With Marcin - Kinky Guru

    ·51m
  75. 75

    Why All Men Need To Learn How To Connect Deeply To Others

    ·50m
  76. 76

    Learning To Overcome The Grief Of Breakup

    ·47m
  77. 77

    Using Online Video Chat To Safely Explore Our Kinks - Interview With Femme Fatale From Arousr

    ·36m
  78. 78

    How To Stop NEEDING Things From Women - Divya Darling Makes Me Squirm In Very Personal Interview

    ·54m
  79. 79

    A Scientific Look At The Red Pill Ideology - Interview With Author Cynthia Payne

    ·46m
  80. 80

    How Has Dating Changed The Last Few Years? - Interview With Lloyd From The Single Guy

    ·1h 20m
  81. 81

    Being Present And In Your Masculine Around Women - Interview With A Mentor

    ·53m
  82. 82

    What Top Salesmen Can Teach Us About Attracting Women?

    ·13m
  83. 83

    New Hinge Dating Statistics - What Photos Get The Most Matches?

    ·17m
  84. 84

    Dating Preferences And Race - Is Racial Fetishization Bad? Not Necessarily....

    ·18m
  85. 85

    How To Get Lucky With Women - Choosing Your Relationship To Luck And Loss

    ·13m
  86. 86

    To Attract Beautiful Women - You Must First Walk Away From Them

    ·11m
  87. 87

    Women Aren't That Complicated - You Are!

    ·9m
  88. 88

    Why Can I Break Dating "Rules" - And Still Be Successful

    ·12m
  89. 89

    Want To Be Successful At Life? - Consider A Therapist

    ·7m
  90. 90

    Evolutionary Theory Of Attraction - Fact Or Fiction?

    ·15m
  91. 91

    Do You Flirt With Women From The Wrong Tribes - And Always Fail?

    ·12m
  92. 92

    How To Have Fun With Girls - Accessing Your Inner Child

    ·12m
  93. 93

    Dating Younger Women - A Complex Morality

    ·14m
  94. 94

    Stop Being Shy With Girls | Overcome Social Anxiety The Easy Way

    ·9m
  95. 95

    When To Sexually Escalate - Many Guys Get This Wrong

    ·10m
  96. 96

    3 Radical Strategies to Become More Confident With Girls

    ·13m
  97. 97

    How To Make Her Chase You - Without Being Manipulative

    ·18m
  98. 98

    How To Discover Your Kink - And Become Amazing In Bed - Interview With Priestess Ava

    ·47m
  99. 99

    Why Do Nice Guys Finish Last?

    ·13m
  100. 100

    How To Become Grokking Successful At Everything

    ·11m
  101. 101

    The Misunderstood Art of Finding The Right Long Term Partner

    Hidden gem

    Damien Deeker interviews Michelle Hoffman on the School of Attraction podcast about how to identify a long-term partner instead of settling for chemistry alone.

    Apr 15, 2026·51m·3 clips
  102. 102

    Healing Sexual Shame and Becoming A Better Lover

    Apr 2, 2026·1h 6m
  103. 103

    When Science Meets Ideology: A Geochemist Dismantles Feminist Critiques of Evolutionary Psychology

    Marc Defant, a geochemist and professor at the University of South Florida, joins host Damian Deeker on the School of Attraction podcast to argue that feminist critiques of evolutionary psychology lack empirical grounding and that patriarchal social structures are an emergent product of human evolution rather than a male conspiracy.

    Jan 28, 2026·1h 1m·3 clips
  104. 104

    Deconstructing the Red Pill: A Nuanced Take on Hypergamy, Dating Markets, and Modern Masculinity

    Jan 22, 2026·1h 2m
  105. 105

    Dating in Thailand, Apps vs. Cold Approaching, and the Future of Modern Relationships

    Damien Deeker introduces a guest, Chris, a fellow dating coach, and discusses their long-standing acquaintance and Chris's reputation as a decent person in the dating coaching industry.

    Sep 29, 2025·1h 1m
  106. 106

    Inside the Sugar Dating World: Myths, Money & Modern Relationships

    Marcus's six-hour date ended with a soulmate disappearing, a prison discovery, and a U.S. Marshal returning her dog.

    Sep 22, 2025·49m·2 clips
  107. 107

    Modern Masculinity: Healthy Strength vs. Toxic Myths With Tim Wienecke

    Sep 15, 2025·1h 1m
  108. 108

    Dating in the Digital Age: Why Modern Men Are Struggling (and How to Break Free)

    Denny Jones tells Damian Deeker that young men now face higher social anxiety, online pressure, and fewer face-to-face interactions.

    Sep 8, 2025·45m·2 clips
  109. 109

    How Modern Victim Mentality Is Destroy Men's Sucess In Dating - Ryan Dixon

    Sep 1, 2025·51m
  110. 110

    The Curse Of Social Media On Modern Dating - Hayley Quinn

    Aug 25, 2025·39m
  111. 111

    Developing Healthy Masculinity And Recovering From Dating Trauma - Timothy Wienecke

    Aug 18, 2025·1h
  112. 112

    The Best Dating Coach You Haven’t Used (Yet) | ChatGPT vs Human Coach

    Hidden gem

    Damian Deeker of the School Of Attraction podcast tests whether ChatGPT can do the work of a dating coach after 17 years in the field.

    Aug 11, 2025·35m·2 clips
  113. 113

    Complete Roadmap To Attracting Women - From Start To Finish

    Aug 4, 2025·21m
  114. 114

    Flip Her Attraction Switch: The Underrated Power of Rapport

    Jul 28, 2025·25m
  115. 115

    From 1 Date A Year To 4 Dates A Week (With No Cold Approaching)

    Jul 21, 2025·21m
  116. 116

    How To Level Up With Women Fast - Starting Today

    Jul 14, 2025·20m
  117. 117

    Stop Getting Instantly Rejected By Women

    Jul 7, 2025·17m
  118. 118

    The Toxic Side Of Feminism - Ruining It For Everyone

    Jun 30, 2025·24m
  119. 119

    Why Do Women Cheat? Here Are The Biggest Red Flags

    Jun 23, 2025·25m
  120. 120

    Iron John & the Wild Man Within: What Modern Men Are Missing

    May 7, 2025·15m
  121. 121

    A Female Dating Coach's Perspective - How To Approach Women?

    Apr 27, 2025·1h
  122. 122

    How To Approach A Woman In A Bar - All Scenarios Covered

    Apr 20, 2025·17m
  123. 123

    CONFIDENCE FAIL! 5 Myths You Need to Stop Believing

    Apr 16, 2025·15m
  124. 124

    Self-Perception vs Reality: What Holds Men Back

    Apr 13, 2025·14m
  125. 125

    Why Men Rage Quit Dating: The 3 Barriers Holding You Back

    Apr 9, 2025·16m
  126. 126

    How To Stop Getting Instantly Rejected By Women

    Apr 6, 2025·17m
  127. 127

    The Ultimate Tinder Strategy for 2025: 3 Steps to Win Big

    Apr 2, 2025·12m
  128. 128

    The Ugly Truth - Dating And Attraction For Men

    Mar 30, 2025·27m
  129. 129

    Should Men Avoid Marriage? The Statistical Evidence

    Mar 26, 2025·17m
  130. 130

    How To Sexually Flirt With Women (With Examples)

    Mar 23, 2025·13m
  131. 131

    How I Beat Panic And Anxiety When Nothing Else Worked

    Mar 19, 2025·21m
  132. 132

    5 Steps To Build Confidence As An Introvert

    Mar 16, 2025·21m
  133. 133

    The Dark Side of Seeking Empowerment: Men, Red Pill, and Mental Health

    Mar 12, 2025·18m
  134. 134

    The Surprising Reason Smart Men Struggle With Women

    Mar 9, 2025·16m
  135. 135

    Style Hacks from a Nobel Laureate: Heuristic Attraction 🔥

    Mar 5, 2025·15m
  136. 136

    What 100,000+ Personality Test Results Taught Me About My Clients

    Mar 2, 2025·17m
  137. 137

    The Quiet Charm: How To Be Introverted and Successful with Women

    Feb 26, 2025·16m
  138. 138

    Women’s Sexual Liberation - Empowerment Or Social Erosion?

    Feb 23, 2025·16m
  139. 139

    6 Red Flags When Meeting Women In Bars/Clubs

    Feb 19, 2025·16m
  140. 140

    Flake-Proofing Your Profile: Client's Tinder Hack Revealed

    Feb 12, 2025·11m
  141. 141

    11 Signs A Girl Likes You

    Feb 9, 2025·13m
  142. 142

    Reframe Your Mindset: How to Be More Attractive to Women

    Feb 5, 2025·11m
  143. 143

    Passport Bros: A Valid Solution To A Real Problem?

    Feb 2, 2025·15m
  144. 144

    Why 90% Of Men Struggle To Build Attraction

    Jan 29, 2025·13m
  145. 145

    Tinder VS ChatGPT: Testing AI-Powered Openers

    Jan 26, 2025·19m
  146. 146

    Long Term Partner Green Flags - Choosing The Perfect Mate

    Jan 22, 2025·13m
  147. 147

    Should Men Care About Women's Body Count? - Let's Analyse The Data

    Jan 19, 2025·18m
  148. 148

    Is Dating Easier For Men Or Women?

    Jan 15, 2025·19m
  149. 149

    I Did A Tantra Workshop - Things Got Spicy 🌶 🌶

    Jan 12, 2025·20m
  150. 150

    Do Age Gap Relationships Work?

    Jan 9, 2025·28m