We Recover Loudly – Personal Recovery and Mental Health Stories · Shell Righini

S3 Episode 03 Neil Hudson-Basing Recovering Loudly … People-Pleasing, Neurodivergence, and the Freedom of Sobriety

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Neil says he calls himself "a stupid bitch 72 times a day" while working on self-kindness.

1. We Recover Loudly centers this episode on Neil Hudson-Basing and the House of Happiness scene around sobriety, burnout, and neurodivergence. 2. Shell introduces Neil as a co-founder of House of Happiness, a writer for Lono Drinker magazine, and the host of Pause and Rewind. 3. The conversation asks what recovery means when it is not built around addiction, rock bottom, or a single identity. 4. Neil says he and Janie used "alcohol-free" for years because "sober" did not feel comfortable. 5. Shell and Neil connect that discomfort to changing language around sobriety, recovery, sexuality, and gender identity. 6. Neil says he has been sober for six years and now feels proud to call himself sober. 7. He says people do not get to decide how the word "sober" is used. 8. Shell reframes recovery around people-pleasing, burnout, overwhelm, and prioritizing others. 9. Neil says he always put other people first and worried that people would not like him if he said no. 10. He says his 2023 burnout was severe, lasted about six months, and came after neglecting exercise, community, and me time. 11. Neil says perimenopause made him feel worthless and disconnected from identity, work, and femininity. 12. Shell says women in menopause groups describe feeling like they belong on "the trash heap," and Neil says workplace support matters. 13. Neil says he calls himself "a stupid bitch 72 times a day" and is trying to be kinder to himself. 14. He describes suspected ADHD traits like fixating on people and projects, then dropping them quickly. 15. Neil says sobriety, coaching, counseling, and self-awareness help him respond instead of react. 16. He says the "powerful pause" and even typing and deleting a "shitty email" can stop a spiral. 17. Shell and Neil talk in a direct, high-energy interview style with frequent swearing and quick back-and-forth responses. 18. The episode moves from personal history into practical examples, then into the House of Happiness origin story and club-night details. 19. Listeners interested in sobriety, neurodivergence, burnout, and queer-friendly spaces. 20. Listeners wanting a lightly structured celebrity interview or polished wellness talk.

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