The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast · Kate Anthony, CPCC

Episode 319: When the Healer Harms: Speaking out Against Lundy Bancroft

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Kate Anthony reveals her struggle to expose abuse by a healer she once deeply respected.

This episode features host Kate Anthony addressing allegations of harm caused by a prominent figure in the relationship coaching and abuse recovery field. Anthony explains she conducted extensive research before deciding to publicly discuss this sensitive topic. The episode centers on breaking down the alleged harms committed by someone whose work she once deeply respected. Anthony states her primary goal is to protect people, not to hurt the individual in question. She directly addresses women who feel they have been abused, isolated, and left with no one to talk to by this figure. A core message is that these individuals are not alone and what happened was not their fault. The host advocates for critically vetting public figures and celebrities, especially those who seem "too good to be true." She references the concept of a "healer" causing harm, which forms the episode's central theme. Anthony mentions the figure Lundy Bancroft, an author known for his work on abusive men. She expresses a wish for this individual to simply stop his activities and take a sabbatical to deal with his own issues. One surprising claim is that a respected expert in abuse recovery could himself be a source of harm and isolation. The episode suggests that seeking help can sometimes lead to further victimization within spaces meant to provide safety. Anthony’s personal stance of moving from deep respect to public critique after her own investigation is a key narrative element. The idea that followers are "allowed" to question and verify the backgrounds of influential figures is presented as a vital takeaway. A memorable moment is the host’s repeated, emphatic assurance to listeners that "It's not your fault." The tone is compassionate yet firm, blending personal conviction with a sense of public duty. The style is a direct, monologue-driven address from the host, creating an intimate and serious atmosphere. This episode would deeply resonate with listeners who have followed relationship coaches or abuse recovery experts and have felt confused or hurt by their experiences. Listeners seeking purely logistical divorce advice or light-hearted content might find this subject matter too intense or specific.

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