Surviving Toxic Relationships Podcast with The Matadoras · Elizabeth Jane and Deana Lynn

Episode #75: Feeling Broken After Loss? Listen to This!

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Elizabeth says the loss forced her to “find me,” after years of disappearing into roles.

1. Surviving Toxic Relationships Podcast with The Matadoras centers on Elizabeth Jane and grief after a 25-year marriage ended suddenly. 2. Lizzie and Dina host Elizabeth Jane, who is described as an emotional well-being expert, artist, keynote speaker, and author of Free and First, Unlocking Your Ultimate Life. 3. The episode asks how someone can move through shock, divorce, and loss without staying stuck in “quicksand.” 4. Elizabeth says the breakup came with “absolutely no warning” after 25 years together and four children. 5. She describes the first stage as shock, followed by anger and a “rollercoaster of emotions.” 6. She says the ending of the marriage hit hardest when her twins were approaching their year 12 final exams and adult life. 7. Elizabeth admits she first tried to cope with champagne, vodka, and staying busy with friends. 8. She says those “mornings after” made the pain deeper and darker rather than better. 9. She explains that her book started as notes in her phone during an “eat, pray year” of testing what helped and what hurt. 10. She says girlfriends noticed improvement and pushed her to turn the tips into a book, alongside her paintings and the lotus flower image. 11. Elizabeth recommends a shock-stage list of “10 things that lift you up” and “10 quick things” for the next half hour or day. 12. Her examples include dancing to a silly song, picking flowers in the street, playing hopscotch with children next door, and calling a supportive girlfriend. 13. She warns that “should've, could've, would've” thinking signals the “drama of the spilt milk of the past.” 14. She also says people can drift into a “fantasy future” and start fatalizing what comes next. 15. Her present-moment reset includes painting, journaling, hobbies, stamp collecting, a dancing class, or even holding ice from the fridge. 16. She emphasizes “acknowledge, allow and accept” feelings instead of staying in performative busyness. 17. Elizabeth presents the ABC pattern as acknowledge, boundaries, and empowered conversation, with a toothpaste-lid example for direct communication. 18. The conversation is warm, reflective, and practical, with Lizzie and Dina asking follow-up questions that keep the focus on usable tools. 19. People dealing with gray divorce, grief, and emotional shutdown would likely benefit most. 20. Viewers wanting fast tips without relationship or faith framing might skip it.

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