De relatie met je ouders. Over familie, afkomst, contact, schuld, rouw en liefde met Mathilda van den Hof
Patrick Kicken interviews Mathilda van den Hof for the second time on Leven Zonder Stress. The episode opens with a light discussion on impatience and modern instant gratification. Mathilda updates listeners on her life since their last talk, including winning the public prize Literary Parel for her self-published book. She reflects that the real highlight was seeing her mother's pride. The conversation delves into family relationships, focusing on guilt, emotional adulthood, and balancing giving and taking with parents. Mathilda describes her visit to Sobibor in Poland, where her grandfather was deported, and how the cold and conversations with a clinical psychologist impacted her Jewish identity. She explains 'unprocessed grief' as grief not only for deaths but for losses like relationships or jobs, and how it manifests. Mathilda outlines her coaching approach, which includes creating genograms, writing unsent letters to parents, and using role-playing with chairs to address family patterns. She discusses her transition from a secure corporate management role to entrepreneurship, describing the 'golden cage' she left because her soul was unhappy. The talk covers parenting a teenage son, blending families with her partner, and the challenges of bonus children. Mathilda shares her weekly review practice and emphasizes mildness and self-love. She touches on broader societal issues like anti-Semitism, polarization, and the education system. The episode concludes with Mathilda explaining how she helps individuals and organizations through systemic work, focusing on underlying patterns and personal leadership.
