LAUNCH: Parenting Tips for Raising Adult Children & Building Better Relationships · Shari Jonas - Parenting Consultant, Educator and Author

#45: How Our Mothers Influence Our Self and How We Parent | Healing the Mother Wound

·1 hr 9 min·4 clips

Nicole Weston says, "If you have a mother, you have a mother wound."

1. LAUNCH: Parenting Tips for Raising Adult Children & Building Better Relationships centers on Nicole Weston’s mother wound framework and how it affects parenting adult children. 2. Shari Jonas hosts Nicole Weston, a mom of two, transformational life coach, social worker, and creator of the Divine Leadership Framework. 3. The episode asks how unresolved pain with a mother can shape identity, confidence, and the way a parent shows up with adult children. 4. Weston says her work focuses on “the pain we carry from that most impressionable relationship” and on breaking old patterns instead of bringing them forward. 5. She traces her interest to a 2012 car accident, four weeks on the couch, and a moment when she realized no one was coming to rescue her. 6. After a two-hour intake and a six-week breakthrough, she identified a belief that she was unlovable. 7. She says she then set a goal for a “loving, healthy, nurturing, communicative relationship” by March 3rd, 2013, met her husband in April 2013, and is now married with two children. 8. Weston explains NLP as neuro linguistic programming and says it helps show how the brain interprets the same experience differently through language and the senses. 9. She describes quantum change process, or QCP, as deep forgiveness work that gets to the root of a wound. 10. She says the work matters because the unconscious mind stores memories and beliefs that keep people replaying old strategies in adult relationships and parenting. 11. Weston says she originally thought her father was the main issue, but therapy revealed she was very enmeshed with her mother and had taken on a caregiving role. 12. She says her mother taught her how to love, live, earn money, and be a mother, while also carrying unresolved trauma that came out in harmful ways. 13. Weston states, “If you have a mother, you have a mother wound,” and says sons can carry it too. 14. She adds that women often inherit a tension between ambition and staying home because they watched their mothers make that choice. 15. She says one sign of the wound is being highly independent because asking for help can feel burdensome or disappointing. 16. She also names a cruel inner voice, weak boundaries, and fear or control as common indicators. 17. Jonas agrees that those patterns are relatable and connects them to people-pleasing and difficulty knowing how to move forward. 18. The conversation stays reflective and practical, with Jonas pushing for concrete language about healing and Weston answering with examples from coaching and parenting. 19. Listeners who want language for healing mother-child patterns and parenting adult children. 20. Listeners who want theory without personal storytelling.

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A clear, reflective conversation about the mother wound, self-mothering, and how presence can matter more than explanation.

Shari Jonas and Nicole Weston keep the conversation centered on the mother wound, identity, self-confidence, inner child work, and the way early bonds shape parenting.

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For parents trying to stop old wounds from steering the next generation.

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