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S3 Ep 91 Real Talk on Parenting Teens with Sari Rose Barron

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Sari Rose Barron links parenting triggers to 9/11, deaths, and a lifetime of unsafety.

1. How We Get Thru Podcast’s S3 Ep 91, “Real Talk on Parenting Teens with Sari Rose Barron,” focuses on parenting teens, repair, and emotional regulation. 2. Jen, a licensed therapist and the host, interviews Sari Rose Barron, who is both a mom and a licensed therapist. 3. The episode asks how parents can stay connected to teens without relying on control, perfection, or constant fixing. 4. Jen and Sari Rose Barron say that “perfect parenting” does not foster secure attachment, while ordinary misattunements can be repaired. 5. Sari Rose Barron links parenting stress to the pressure to know “all the dangers” and to the shaming that makes parents feel they are “not doing it well.” 6. She reframes missteps as part of the relationship, saying the important part is finding “our way back to attunement through repair.” 7. The conversation shifts from behavior management to what sits underneath behavior, including need, dysregulation, and parental triggers. 8. Jen describes wanting to fix her daughter’s cold, and Sari Rose Barron contrasts fixing with repeating the child’s words and making them feel seen. 9. Sari Rose Barron says teens in fight-or-flight are less able to hear consequences, so parents should ground themselves before teaching. 10. She uses the “window of tolerance” to describe an optimal zone where people can respond rather than react. 11. One of the strongest moments comes when Sari Rose Barron says she feels helpless when her kids are out of control and that this connects to “unsafe” experiences in her life. 12. She names being at the World Trade Center during 9/11, plus losses including two cousins, a friend with an aneurysm, and a baby who died of SIDS. 13. Sari Rose Barron says those experiences can make her jump to fixing, overprotection, and catastrophic thinking when her kids seem unsafe. 14. Jen and Sari Rose Barron discuss how teens saying “I hate you” can activate a parent’s need for love, respect, and reassurance. 15. Sari Rose Barron says co-regulation means lending children calm, but only after the parent has started to calm down themselves. 16. She also talks about codependency in parent-child dynamics, where each person’s state can become a test of whether the other is okay. 17. The tone is conversational, direct, and self-reflective, with both women naming their own triggers and mistakes in real time. 18. The format stays interview-based, but it often becomes a back-and-forth coaching conversation with examples from their own children. 19. Parents of teens who want practical repair language will get the most from this episode. 20. Listeners wanting a story-heavy teen behavior episode may skip the slower reflective sections.

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A look at parenting teens that centers connection, regulation, and repair.

The episode looks at parenting teens as a daily mix of boundaries, connection, and repair. It is strongest when it resists turning control into the goal and stays with the harder work of showing up when a teen pushes back, goes quiet, or fills the room with emotion.

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When your teen blows up and your own nervous system goes with them.

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