How We Get Thru Podcast: Wellness, Healing & Spiritual Tools for Growth in Real Life · Jen Hershey

S3 Ep 85 Becoming Trigger-Proof: Heal Attachment Wounds w/ Dr. Nima Rahmany

·1 hr 15 min·5 clips

Dr. Nima links abuse, attachment trauma, polyvagal theory, and inner-child work to his own turning point.

1. How We Get Thru Podcast: Wellness, Healing & Spiritual Tools for Growth in Real Life features Dr. Nima Rahmany on becoming trigger-proof and healing attachment wounds. 2. Dr. Nima Rahmany is the guest, and Jen hosts the conversation while he also describes himself as a nervous system specialist and a chiropractor of 20 years. 3. The episode asks what it takes to stop repeating anxious and avoidant relationship patterns and build "secure relationships" at home. 4. Dr. Nima says his shift began when chiropractic patients improved faster after his 2009 workshops called "life skills for a stressful world." 5. He says his own divorce and "a series of eight or nine failed relationships" exposed the same pattern of wanting connection and then pulling away. 6. He describes a four-year relationship that started in 2016, blew up in 2018, and became volatile and abusive. 7. He says that crisis led him into attachment trauma, the polyvagal theory, shadow work, parts work, inner child work, nervous-system regulation, and somatic experiencing. 8. He defines "trigger proof" as learning to expand the space between stimulus and response instead of reacting automatically. 9. He says trauma is "what's happening inside of us" without a safe and empathetic witness to help process it. 10. He explains the four trauma responses as fight, flight, freeze, and fawn, and he links them to attachment distress during arguments and ruptures. 11. He says an avoidant partner often runs and hides, while an anxious partner often moves into criticism and blame. 12. He calls that pattern an "infinite loop of doom" where chasing and pushing away keep feeding each other. 13. He says trigger proof does not mean "trigger less," because activation can regress an adult into a childlike state. 14. He argues that adults cannot create secure relationships while reacting from the same childhood wound that created the survival response. 15. He says different dynamics can change the response, so one person can be a fighter in one setting and a fawner in another. 16. He says people have a multiplicity of parts, and the goal is to bring the adult "CEO" or executive center online. 17. Jen shares that her own divorce and caretaking role made her feel responsible for her partner's pain, and Dr. Nima names that pattern as enmeshment. 18. He says guilt is "the price of admission" for breaking the cycle, and he links growth to being willing to become the villain in someone else's story. 19. Listeners who like attachment theory, nervous-system language, and relationship repair will get the most from this conversation. 20. Listeners looking for light wellness chat without deep relationship work may skip it.

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A direct, personal look at why changing relationship patterns can feel so hard.

Dr. Nima Rahmany gives the conversation a personal edge by putting attachment issues up close instead of speaking about them in the abstract. The episode stays on familiar but painful ground: enmeshment, codependency, nervous system habits, and the choice between staying and…

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For when the same relationship pattern keeps finding you.

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