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Sexy & I Know It

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Kayla reveals 20 things that make feminine people feel unsexy, from cellulite to shame.

Hosts Kayla, a certified relationship coach, and MJ explore the concept of feeling sexy, especially during the holiday season. They discuss how internal and external factors can impact one's sense of sexiness and self-confidence. The conversation aims to provide practical advice for listeners to reconnect with their own sensual selves. MJ shares that a receding hairline or unwanted body hair can affect his feelings of sexiness, while Kayla lists numerous concerns for feminine-presenting people, from unwashed hair to cellulite. Both hosts acknowledge carrying hurtful comments from their past that resurface and undermine self-image. They reference childhood influences like Barbie and Ken dolls, which set unrealistic physical standards. The episode notes that not feeling sexy can lead to avoiding sex, nudity, or flirtation, and can even impact daily confidence at work or in social situations. Kayla emphasizes the importance of not letting an occasional "off" day become a persistent negative trend. A key insight is that feeling sexy is more about internal perception than external appearance, with MJ stating that confidence itself can be sexy. Kayla introduces a detailed "mirror exercise" where one examines and thanks body parts they feel insecure about, like stretch marks or "bat wings." Practical tips include taking a shower, buying a new inexpensive shirt, or trying a new makeup look to boost mood. The hosts suggest that simple, sensual self-touch, like rubbing the inside of your thigh, can spark a feeling of sexiness. They strongly recommend looking at educational resources like the "Wall of Vulvas" or "Wall of Penises" to appreciate the natural diversity of genitalia and combat shame. The tone is casual, humorous, and explicitly adult, with playful banter and personal anecdotes shared between the co-hosts. The style is conversational and educational, blending coaching advice with the hosts' own lived experiences. Listeners interested in practical, body-positive strategies for improving self-image and sexual confidence would enjoy this episode. Those uncomfortable with explicit sexual language or candid discussions about genitalia might prefer to skip it.

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A candid, loose episode about feeling sexy that stays grounded in the mirror exercise and the work of facing yourself honestly.

"Sexy & I Know It" keeps things blunt and easygoing while staying on the question underneath it: what it means to feel sexy, why that matters, and what gets in the way.

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A feeling-sexy episode when you want a mirror check without the polished act.

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