The sexual blueprint is described as “the horny teenager of the erotic blueprints.”
1. Backdoor BOINK’s “Erotic Blueprints” episode breaks down five erotic styles: energetic, sensual, sexual, kinky, and shapeshifter.
2. Kayla says she is a certified relationship and intimacy coach, and MJ joins as the co-host who keeps the banter moving.
3. The episode asks what the erotic blueprint is for, then answers that it is a way to understand what turns a person on.
4. Kayla says the concept was developed by Jaya, a somatic sexologist, and she contrasts that hands-on approach with her own hands-off sexology work.
5. MJ says Goop on Netflix is part of how he first heard about the erotic blueprint, and Kayla says clients also send her Goop material.
6. The energetic blueprint is described as arousal from “a buildup of energy, like the suspense, the anticipation.”
7. Kayla says energetic pleasure can come from hovering hands, breathing, and the feeling of energy without touching.
8. The sensual blueprint is framed as slower than energetic and focused on “touches, feel, smells, sounds, sights.”
9. Kayla and MJ mention Nuru massage, massage candles, massage oils, and full-body contact as examples of sensual context.
10. The sexual blueprint is described as the cultural norm, where suggestive touch and direct genital focus can move things quickly.
11. Kayla calls sexual energy “the horny teenager of the erotic blueprints,” and she warns that orgasm focus can make arousal harder.
12. The kinky blueprint is defined as being turned on by taboo, with both psychological and physical forms named in the conversation.
13. Kayla says she is drawn to taboo ideas, while MJ distinguishes his own interest in the physical side, including bondage and pain.
14. The episode names shame as the shadow side of kink and says communication and education are important for staying safe.
15. The shapeshifter blueprint is described as being turned on by “everything,” including energetic, sensual, sexual, and kinky types.
16. The hosts say a shapeshifter can be “an amazing lover to anyone,” but the shadow side is wanting “more, more, more” and neglecting personal needs.
17. The tone is casual, profane, and playful, with a lot of teasing between the hosts.
18. The format is a back-and-forth co-host conversation that mixes definitions, jokes, and a short partner exercise.
19. People interested in sexual self-knowledge and couples communication will get the most from it.
20. People who want a clinical or non-explicit discussion may skip it.
