Dating, grief, effort, and emotional clarity.
The gist
Unwineding is a conversational society-and-culture show built around emotional check-ins, relationship patterns, and self-worth. Its best moments feel casual and funny, then suddenly precise about anxiety, grief, effort, and the cost of accepting less than clarity.
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About Unwineding
Unwineding is a deeply conversational show about relationships, self-worth, grief, ambition, friendship, and the daily work of staying honest with oneself. It has a casual rhythm, but the emotional stakes are real. Episodes often begin in a loose register: an outfit check, a dating joke, a half-serious aside, or a familiar greeting that makes the room feel informal. Then the conversation turns. A solo episode about being kept around becomes a clear-eyed look at the difference between intimacy and commitment. A discussion of attachment styles becomes a map of catastrophizing, nervous-system alarm, and old patterns that can make distance feel safer than closeness. A conversation on grief makes space for the practical awkwardness of loss: friends forgetting important dates, people offering well-meant but unhelpful comfort, and the shock of watching ordinary life continue after a parent dies. The show does not flatten hard topics into tidy lessons. It lets contradiction sit on the table. Medication can be helpful and uncertain. Dating can feel intimate without being secure. Effort can look polished from the outside while being built from discipline, boredom, recovery, rejection, and repetition. Unwineding is especially strong when it names the private mental scripts people carry into relationships. The host-side voice in the excerpts is funny, blunt, self-questioning, and quick to turn a personal anxiety into a larger question. Conversations add range without making the show feel formal. Dr. Morgan brings clinical language around attachment and secure relating. Alyssa Pettinato brings playful, chaotic dating commentary. Angie Lassman fits the friendship lane, where affection and teasing sit side by side. Destinee Clowe brings a serious conversation about grief, faith, memory, and support. Across formats, the show keeps returning to one central concern: what it takes to stop overriding one’s own needs. It suits listeners who like emotional candor with jokes still intact. It is not detached advice. It is a running debrief on trying, healing, choosing better, and saying the quiet part clearly.
Made for: Unwineding is for listeners who like candid relationship talk, emotionally literate solo reflections, and conversations that move easily between jokes and serious self-examination.
What sets it apart: The show’s edge is its mix of blunt dating instincts, vulnerable mental-health disclosure, and fast, informal chemistry. It treats self-work as messy and specific, not as a polished wellness slogan.
In their own words
Like you're on FaceTime with your best friend. Every Tuesday, hosted by Lisa Gilmore.
As heard by us
Based on 6 episodes we listened to · September 2026
Lisa makes relationship patterns and emotional strain legible by testing big ideas against candid personal experience and precise everyday situations.
Unwineding turns private uncertainty into candid conversation, with Lisa moving between solo reflection and guest-led discussions about grief, dating, attachment, self-trust, and mental health.
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This is where your attachment spiral gets a clinical explainer, then a feral group-chat debrief.
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- help separating the facts from the catastrophic story your brain wrote
- dating talk that admits distance can feel safer than actual availability
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Episodes
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body image, self-criticism, and learning how to be kinder to yourself
·26m - 2
are we making dating harder than it needs to be? ft. Alyssa Pettinato
·48m - 3
solicited advice on: feeling unfulfilled in your career, becoming confident as f*ck, & why you’re NOT behind in life (even if you feel like you are)
·59m - 4
how to be unbothered as f*ck
·17m - 5
being kept around vs. being chosen in dating
·18m - 6
do you know your best friend’s love language? ft. Angie Lassman
·44m - 7
the myth of being effortless
·24m - 8
navigating grief: whether you're in it or loving someone through it ft. Destinee Clowe
·53m - 9
how your attachment style shows up in relationships
·35m - 10
being single is better than settling: healing after a breakup & dating with standards ft. Emma Paige
·49m - 11
little things that make me happier, smarter & sexier
·24m - 12
the dating advice women actually need ft. Niko Emanuilidis
·52m - 13
lover girls w/ trust issues ft. Destinee Clowe
·38m - 14
how to become your own best friend (& actually trust yourself)
·27m - 15
how to stop playing it safe & build your dream life ft. Taylor Popik
·59m - 16
lessons about life, love & friendship I wish I knew sooner
·44m - 17
the friendship & relationship advice we needed sooner ft. my bff, Anne
·41m - 18
THE DEBRIEF: why being sensitive is a gift
·24m - 19
what men wish women knew about dating ft. Ben Hart
·49m - 20
we’re part-time baddies ft. Alexis Waters
·43m - 21
mastering detachment, becoming magnetic, & attracting the love you want ft. Sabrina Bendory
·1h 6m - 22
how to love the life you're in (even if it's not where you thought you'd be) ft. Lindsey Simcik of Almost 30
·47m - 23
recent gems life has given me
·18m - 24
storytelling is your strategy: building a brand with purpose ft. YouMe Lin
·45m - 25
the rules of modern friendship ft. Angie Lassman
·48m - 26
two bff’s talking about dating, friendship, & other bad decisions
·45m - 27
what your attachment style says about the way you love ft. Sabrina Zohar
·54m - 28
why do we all look the same? (beauty standards, trends, & validation) ft. Natalie McMillan
·54m - 29
the complexities of female friendship ft. Zayit Bemmel
·48m - 30
when “discipline” was really an eating disorder ft. Danielle Dietzek
·47m - 31
relationship hot takes, friendship rules, & dating a latina 101 ft. Andrea Lugo
·54m - 32
the law of detachment: why letting go gets you everything you want
·23m - 33
hyper-independence, attachment styles, & being too much ft. Emma Paige
·56m - 34
are you in love... or just settling? ft. Amber Rae
·44m - 35
when healing and loving happen at the same time ft. Laurice Imani
·58m - 36
why female friendship is so complex (and so worth it) ft. Kelsey Lapolla & Emily Osmow
·49m - 37
how your attachment style affects your relationships ft. Dr. Morgan Anderson
·53m - 38
how to catch a cheater, fall in love, & stay (kinda) sane ft. Alexis Waters
·1h 12m - 39
how being a bad friend made us better ones, ft. Angie Lassman
·52m - 40
when being perfect feels safer than being real ft. Remy Hernandez
·56m - 41
the love of your life wouldn’t do that to you ft. my bff, Emily
·52m - 42
advice that altered my brain chemistry
·15m - 43
become the content creator you’d follow & build a brand you love ft. Kira Jones
·52m - 44
high standards or nothing (in love & friendship)
·46m - 45
how to meet your first husband ft. Zack Signore
·40m - 46
the friendship playbook: the art of being (& having) the best friends ever, ft. Angie Lassman
·54m - 47
how to change your thoughts & create your dream life
·26m - 48
building a 7-figure swimwear brand with Nyud Co-owner, Emily Osmow
·38m - 49
how to stop overthinking & trust yourself more
·20m - 50
how to mentally glow up & stop self-sabotaging
·33m - 51
recent gems life has given me (on dating, body image, & the fear of judgment)
·25m - 52
listen to this when life feels heavy
·24m - 53
solicited advice on: having a different love language than your partner, dealbreakers vs. preferences, jealousy in friendships, & why situationships hurt so much
·59m - 54
I read "The Let Them Theory" so you don't have to
·33m - 55
how therapy absolutely changed my life
·34m - 56
you’re not asking for too much, you’re just asking the wrong person ft. Zayit Bemmel
·56m - 57
if your only job was to adore yourself, what would you do?
·17m - 58
the confidence code: science-backed strategies to build true confidence
·27m - 59
how to cultivate strong friendships, believe you deserve the best, & feel confident when you can’t fake it
·50m - 60
big sister advice: learning to love myself, the ‘let them’ theory, & the power of friendship
·45m - 61
the art of influence, confidence, & not giving a f*ck w/ Emilie Sobel
·1h 8m - 62
how to create your dream life
·44m - 63
things you accomplished this year that you're probably forgetting about
·26m - 64
10 lessons to bring into 2025, ft. my bff Anastasia
·54m - 65
5 things cool girls do
·22m - 66
navigating the holidays (family dynamics, comparison, food & body image, new year mindset, & more)
·45m - 67
what men really think: breaking down dating & relationships w/ my best guy friend
·1h 14m - 68
the pep talk you didn't know you needed
·15m - 69
HEART-TO-HEART: post-election feels, Chicago recap, & how friendship has changed my life
·40m - 70
being a woman is close to impossible (ft. my bff Mungi)
·40m - 71
things I wanna love but don't
·17m - 72
for the girls ft. Stephany Arevalo
·1h 8m - 73
how to navigate a bad body image day
·33m - 74
your WINTER ARC guide: making the most of the next 3 months
·20m - 75
slowing down & self-compassion ft. Danielle Deserves
·35m - 76
the ‘mirror, window, door’ theory: who you attract and why
·16m - 77
best-TEA time: solicited advice on friendship & dating (ft. my bff Mungi)
·1h 6m - 78
what we learned from dusty a$$ men ft. Koko
·57m - 79
divorces, dead dads, & dream jobs ft. Angie Lassman
·1h 4m - 80
how to get out of your own way
·22m - 81
breakup lessons, confidence, singlehood, & the power of female friendship ft. Natalie Barbu
·56m - 82
a comprehensive guide to falling in love ft. Zack Signore
·58m - 83
SOLICITED ADVICE: anxiety in the early stages of dating, feeling jealous of your BFF, navigating a copycat friend, & comparison
·38m - 84
superficial things that make me hot & happy
·48m - 85
things men will never understand ft. Koko
·48m - 86
friendship breakups ft. Koko
·44m - 87
how to get a summer mind vs. a summer body ft. Carolina Salazar
·43m - 88
branding 101 ft. Tintiko Studio Founder, Carolina Espinosa
·59m - 89
how to be the coolest person in any room
·29m - 90
5 mantras I live by
·20m - 91
jealousy, confidence, & friendships ft. Queen Maria
·41m - 92
how to become the person you've always wanted to be
·12m - 93
HOT & HEALTHY GIRL SUMMER (ft. personal trainer & dieting coach, @cucufit)
·1h 15m - 94
5 hard truths (& reminders) about female friendships
·31m - 95
my bff got married & I got drunk: how to celebrate the people you love
·28m - 96
hot girls go to therapy
·33m - 97
how to live your best single life
·1h 7m - 98
how to check-in with yourself: a quick reset guide
·21m - 99
how to achieve everything you want before the year ends
The host encourages listeners to take inventory of their year and make intentional adjustments to achieve their goals before the end of 2025, without adding stress.
·29m - 100
Drea Ocejo on: her YouTube career, building LINK’D, reclaiming her confidence, & her journey with weight loss
The host shares personal updates, including her recovery from illness, obsession with the show Traitors, a teaser about a new project, and a preview of an interview with Drea Ocejo about her YouTube career, building LINK'D, reclaiming confidence, and weight loss journey.
·56m - 101
reminders you need when life feels hard & uncertain
Hidden gemThe host shares personal struggles with a sibling's mental health and offers reminders for navigating life's difficulties.
Apr 14, 2026·27m·1 clip - 102
how your attachment style affects your relationships ft. Dr. Morgan Anderson
Unwineding interviews clinical psychologist and attachment expert Dr.
Apr 7, 2026·53m·3 clips - 103
are we making dating harder than it needs to be? ft. Alyssa Pettinato
Unwineding hosts Alyssa Pettinato of Misjudged discuss whether modern dating needs a rebrand, focusing on relationship labels, loneliness, compatibility, and unrealistic standards.
Mar 31, 2026·48m·3 clips - 104
being kept around vs. being chosen in dating
The host discusses the difference between being kept around and being chosen in dating, exploring how these dynamics can feel similar initially but have distinct implications.
Mar 24, 2026·18m·1 clip - 105
do you know your best friend’s love language? ft. Angie Lassman
A lighthearted conversation about friendship, love languages, and outfit coordination with meteorologist Angie Lassman.
Mar 17, 2026·44m - 106
the myth of being effortless
Hidden gem["Unwinding's the myth of being effortless argues that people confuse visible effort with failure, even when the host says her podcast, online growth, and relationships all depend on it.", "She links that pressure to dating rules like 'don't text first' and 'be unbothered,' then says trust, safety, and vulnerability require communication.", "Oprah Winfrey, Maria Sharapova, LeBron James, and a skill-acquisition study that puts talent at roughly one to three percent of performance differences all serve as evidence that repetition does the real work.", "The closing turn points to journaling, hobbies, building in public, and de-influencing as signs that people want permission to care again."]
Mar 10, 2026·24m·2 clips - 107
navigating grief: whether you're in it or loving someone through it ft. Destinee Clowe
Hidden gemUnwineding centers a grief conversation with Destiny about what changes after a parent dies.
Mar 3, 2026·53m·3 clips - 108
how your attachment style shows up in relationships
Hidden gemUnwineding uses attachment styles to explain why Lauren and her co-host react so differently to closeness, reassurance, and distance in relationships.
Feb 24, 2026·35m·2 clips - 109
being single is better than settling: healing after a breakup & dating with standards ft. Emma Paige
Feb 17, 2026·49m - 110
little things that make me happier, smarter & sexier
Feb 10, 2026·24m - 111
the dating advice women actually need ft. Niko Emanuilidis
Feb 3, 2026·52m - 112
lover girls w/ trust issues ft. Destinee Clowe
Jan 27, 2026·38m - 113
how to become your own best friend (& actually trust yourself)
Hidden gemUnwineding focuses on "how to actually be your own best friend" through practical habits the host says changed her life.
Jan 20, 2026·27m·1 clip - 114
how to stop playing it safe & build your dream life ft. Taylor Popik
Jan 13, 2026·59m - 115
lessons about life, love & friendship I wish I knew sooner
Jan 6, 2026·44m - 116
the friendship & relationship advice we needed sooner ft. my bff, Anne
Dec 16, 2025·41m - 117
THE DEBRIEF: why being sensitive is a gift
Dec 9, 2025·24m - 118
what men wish women knew about dating ft. Ben Hart
Dec 2, 2025·49m - 119
we’re part-time baddies ft. Alexis Waters
Nov 25, 2025·43m - 120
mastering detachment, becoming magnetic, & attracting the love you want ft. Sabrina Bendory
Nov 18, 2025·1h 6m - 121
how to love the life you're in (even if it's not where you thought you'd be) ft. Lindsey Simcik of Almost 30
Nov 11, 2025·47m - 122
recent gems life has given me
Nov 4, 2025·18m - 123
storytelling is your strategy: building a brand with purpose ft. YouMe Lin
Oct 31, 2025·45m - 124
the rules of modern friendship ft. Angie Lassman
Oct 21, 2025·48m - 125
two bff’s talking about dating, friendship, & other bad decisions
Oct 14, 2025·45m - 126
what your attachment style says about the way you love ft. Sabrina Zohar
Oct 7, 2025·54m - 127
why do we all look the same? (beauty standards, trends, & validation) ft. Natalie McMillan
Sep 23, 2025·54m - 128
how to achieve everything you want before the year ends
Sep 16, 2025·29m - 129
the complexities of female friendship ft. Zayit Bemmel
Sep 9, 2025·48m - 130
when “discipline” was really an eating disorder ft. Danielle Dietzek
Sep 2, 2025·47m - 131
relationship hot takes, friendship rules, & dating a latina 101 ft. Andrea Lugo
Aug 26, 2025·54m - 132
the law of detachment: why letting go gets you everything you want
Aug 19, 2025·23m - 133
hyper-independence, attachment styles, & being too much ft. Emma Paige
Aug 12, 2025·56m - 134
are you in love... or just settling? ft. Amber Rae
Aug 5, 2025·44m - 135
when healing and loving happen at the same time ft. Laurice Imani
Jul 29, 2025·58m - 136
why female friendship is so complex (and so worth it) ft. Kelsey Lapolla & Emily Osmow
Jul 22, 2025·49m - 137
body image, self-criticism, and learning how to be kinder to yourself
Jul 15, 2025·26m - 138
how to catch a cheater, fall in love, & stay (kinda) sane ft. Alexis Waters
Jul 8, 2025·1h 12m - 139
how being a bad friend made us better ones, ft. Angie Lassman
Jul 1, 2025·52m - 140
when being perfect feels safer than being real ft. Remy Hernandez
Jun 24, 2025·56m - 141
the love of your life wouldn’t do that to you ft. my bff, Emily
Jun 17, 2025·52m - 142
advice that altered my brain chemistry
Jun 17, 2025·15m - 143
become the content creator you’d follow & build a brand you love ft. Kira Jones
Jun 3, 2025·52m - 144
high standards or nothing (in love & friendship)
May 27, 2025·46m - 145
how to meet your first husband ft. Zack Signore
May 20, 2025·40m - 146
the friendship playbook: the art of being (& having) the best friends ever, ft. Angie Lassman
May 18, 2025·54m - 147
how to change your thoughts & create your dream life
May 6, 2025·26m - 148
building a 7-figure swimwear brand with Nyud Co-owner, Emily Osmow
Emily Osmow, co-owner of Nyud Co, discusses scaling her swimwear brand to seven figures in three years.
Apr 29, 2025·38m - 149
how to stop overthinking & trust yourself more
The host discusses overthinking from a personal perspective, offering insights and comfort to fellow overthinkers.
Apr 24, 2025·20m - 150
how to mentally glow up & stop self-sabotaging
The host shares five favorite lessons from the book 'The Mountain Is You' by Brianna Wiest, focusing on self-sabotage as a protective mechanism and other insights for personal growth.
Apr 15, 2025·33m