The New Man

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Men’s issues without the performance.

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The New Man treats masculinity as a practical question, not a costume. Recent conversations move through trauma, anxiety, family pressure, relationship blame, procrastination, and the uneasy gap between what a man says matters and how he actually spends his attention.

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About The New Man

The New Man is a men’s issues show with a practical, confrontational streak. It is less interested in masculine branding than in how a man behaves when he is stressed, afraid, resentful, or unsure what to do next. Recent episodes circle around a core question: what would change if responsibility replaced avoidance? The answers are rarely tidy. Conversations move through anxiety, trauma, psychedelic therapy, relationship pressure, holiday guilt, procrastination, and the uneasy hunger to reach some imagined full potential. The tone is direct and conversational. It can be sharp, but the sharpness usually points toward clarity rather than performance. The show challenges the idea that looking tough, talking tough, or collecting masculine symbols proves maturity. It measures adulthood through contribution, emotional honesty, boundaries, and the willingness to face discomfort without handing control to blame or fear. Career and money topics appear through purpose, commitment, and the discipline of treating important work like it actually matters. Relationship episodes often examine the hidden expectations that make people angry, the expectations that go unspoken, and the difference between asking clearly and waiting to be rescued. Stress is treated as partly circumstantial and partly chosen through old habits. Family pressure becomes a chance to notice guilt, obligation, and automatic compliance. Trauma is discussed beyond obvious catastrophic events, with attention to nervous-system patterns that can turn small moments into oversized reactions. The show also questions self-improvement itself. More books, more advice, and more analysis are not always presented as progress. Sometimes the needed move is doing less, removing noise, walking, meditating, or taking one concrete step. That gives the show a useful resistance to hustle-culture optimism. It respects ambition, but it keeps asking what kind of fuel ambition is burning. Listeners get candid talk about men’s interior lives without a sermon about becoming either harder or softer. The recurring promise is simpler: become more present, more accountable, and less ruled by the reflexes that once kept life small.

Made for: The New Man suits men who are questioning old patterns around work, relationships, confidence, stress, and responsibility. It also fits listeners drawn to candid conversations about adulthood, purpose, and emotional regulation.

What sets it apart: The show separates maturity from masculine image-making. Its strongest moments come from blunt, practical exchanges that connect inner fear to everyday behavior in relationships, family systems, career choices, and follow-through.

In their own words

Advice for Men to Align Career, Sex, Relationships, and Money

anxiety and controltrauma and nervous-system patternsrelationship blame and resentmentholiday guilt and family pressureperformative masculinitypurpose and career commitmentprocrastination and avoidancedoing less to act better

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Is Psychedelic Therapy Worth the Hype? Will Van Derveer MDMar 30, 2026

Trauma, outsized reactions, and the fear behind everyday choices.

The conversation asks whether trauma can grow from experiences that seem too small to count. One speaker distinguishes a single dramatic event from smaller experiences that accumulate, then describes trauma as a pattern of nervous system dysregulation.

What’s Really Holding You Back: How to Get Stuff Done — Alyson and Tripp LanierMar 18, 2026

A practical conversation about making room for meaningful work without turning competing priorities into self-blame.

What would change if a person treated a goal like professional work? The speakers make that question concrete: whom would they hire, what space would they clear, and which boundaries would protect the time?

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Episodes

  1. 1

    Rickson Gracie - How to Find Comfort in Darkness

    ·49m
  2. 2

    Is Marriage Killing Your Aliveness? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·38m
  3. 3

    Is it Cheating to Watch Porn? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·32m
  4. 4

    Is Healing for the Weak? - Jeff Boss (fmr Navy SEAL turned therapist)

    ·48m
  5. 5

    What’s Really Holding You Back: How to Get Stuff Done — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·53m
  6. 6

    The Trap of Trying to Reach Your Full Potential — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·47m
  7. 7

    I Shouldn’t Have to Ask: When Relationships Feel One-Sided — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·57m
  8. 8

    Staying Stuck vs Moving Forward: Doing the Hard Thing — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·33m
  9. 9

    Why Being Perfect Makes Us Weak — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·39m
  10. 10

    What Do You Really Want? Getting Out of Autopilot and the Prescribed Life — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·50m
  11. 11

    Are They Busy or Just Not That Into You? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·41m
  12. 12

    How to Deal with Holiday Stress, Guilt, and Family Pressure — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·36m
  13. 13

    The Sexless Marriage: Can it Be Repaired? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·56m
  14. 14

    Is Money Killing Your Relationship? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·43m
  15. 15

    Macho Jerks and Neutered Nice Guys: Let’s Talk Masculine and Feminine Energy — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·41m
  16. 16

    The Mindset That Keeps you Stuck, Overwhelmed, or Lost — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·35m
  17. 17

    How to Spot a Toxic Person Before It’s Too Late — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·38m
  18. 18

    Success Without Soul: Dropping Comparisons and Proving — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·38m
  19. 19

    Stop “Shoulding” All Over Yourself — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·46m
  20. 20

    When Your Partner Feels Like an Adversary: Ditch the Bickering and Disrespect — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·46m
  21. 21

    Drama Triangle: Getting out of the Blame Game — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·52m
  22. 22

    Feeling Stuck and Uncertain: Moving from Anxiety to Clarity — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·44m
  23. 23

    Is It Healthy to Use AI for Therapy? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·38m
  24. 24

    Why We’re Attracted to the Wrong People (and What to Do About It) — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·51m
  25. 25

    How to Have Deeper Conversations — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·55m
  26. 26

    Should You Settle in Your Relationship? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·45m
  27. 27

    Am I On The Wrong Path? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·45m
  28. 28

    Striving to be Set for Life — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·45m
  29. 29

    Can Your Sex Life Be Saved? — Ruth Ramsay

    ·59m
  30. 30

    Struggling with Spirituality — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·47m
  31. 31

    Randy Blythe (lamb of god) on Drinking, Death, and God

    ·1h 3m
  32. 32

    Feeling Stuck and Out of Alignment — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·45m
  33. 33

    Why Finding Your Purpose is So Frustrating — Jordan Grumet, The Purpose Code

    ·47m
  34. 34

    Why People Pleasing is Killing Your Sex Life and Career — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·30m
  35. 35

    How Being Guarded Kills Aliveness, Meaning, and Purpose — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·55m
  36. 36

    Are You Jealous About Her Sexual Past? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·37m
  37. 37

    Is Psychedelic Therapy Worth the Hype? Will Van Derveer MD

    ·56m
  38. 38

    Am I On The Wrong Path? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·34m
  39. 39

    Build True Confidence by Understanding Unhealthy Self-Esteem — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·40m
  40. 40

    Dealing with Anger and Emotional Constipation — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·49m
  41. 41

    Avoiding Vulnerability Leads to Feeling Empty — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·35m
  42. 42

    Facing the Fear of Being Alone — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·1h 7m
  43. 43

    Is Therapy Frustrating? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·39m
  44. 44

    Can a Nerd Become a Stud? Reinventing Yourself — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·29m
  45. 45

    Can You Learn to Trust Your Gut? — Mark Divine (Uncommon: Simple Principles for an Extraordinary Life)

    ·58m
  46. 46

    Sebastian Junger’s Near Death Experience — Sebastian Junger (In My Time of Dying)

    ·1h
  47. 47

    Feeling Pressured to Get Married — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·45m
  48. 48

    Motivation, Resistance, and The Cult of Success — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

  49. 49

    Finding Your Gold and Essence — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·53m
  50. 50

    Spiritual But Not Religious? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·46m
  51. 51

    How to Tell if You’re Soul Mates — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·54m
  52. 52

    Going to War with Yourself — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·44m
  53. 53

    Commitment Issues: What Would Make You Excited to Commit? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·50m
  54. 54

    Getting Your Partner to Change — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·48m
  55. 55

    Making Sense of Science and Spirituality — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    ·52m
  56. 56

    Needing the Approval of Others — Coaching Call with Tripp Lanier

    ·49m
  57. 57

    Are You Playing the Wrong Game? — Brian Johnson Areté

    ·57m
  58. 58

    How to Beat Procrastination — Coaching Call with Tripp Lanier

    ·37m
  59. 59

    The Workaholic Curse — Coaching Call with Tripp Lanier

    ·47m
  60. 60

    Stop Running Away from Your Problems — Coaching Call with Tripp Lanier

    ·49m
  61. 61

    Putting Yourself Out There — Coaching Call with Tripp Lanier

    ·38m
  62. 62

    Feeling Like You’re Not Enough — Coaching Call with Tripp Lanier

    ·46m
  63. 63

    Fighting Resistance and Laziness — Coaching Call with Tripp Lanier

    ·54m
  64. 64

    Rat Racer Mentality: When the Best isn’t Enough — Coaching Call with Tripp Lanier

    ·1h 7m
  65. 65

    Moving from Anxiety to Confidence — Coaching Call with Tripp Lanier

    ·42m
  66. 66

    The Need to Be Legit — Coaching Call with Tripp Lanier

    ·46m
  67. 67

    Coaching Call: The Pressure to Succeed — Tripp Lanier

    ·46m
  68. 68

    From Rumination to Mental Strength - Anson Whitmer (Calm/Mental App)

    ·1h 2m
  69. 69

    Imposter Syndrome and Proving Your Value — Coaching Call with Tripp Lanier

    ·1h 7m
  70. 70

    Coaching Call: Why Goals Are Exhausting You — Tripp Lanier

    ·1h 3m
  71. 71

    Coaching Call: Dealing with Burnout — Tripp Lanier

    ·49m
  72. 72

    Coaching Call: “I’m Stuck and I Don’t Know Where to Go Next” — Tripp Lanier

    ·1h 7m
  73. 73

    Coaching Call: Dealing with Marriage Money Drama — Tripp Lanier

    ·1h 1m
  74. 74

    Coaching Call: Fear of Failure | Why Is It So Hard to Commit? — Tripp Lanier

    ·1h
  75. 75

    Old is Just a Mindset - Steven Kotler

    ·58m
  76. 76

    Coaching Call: Have You Outgrown Your Career? — Tripp Lanier

    ·1h 1m
  77. 77

    Can Sexual Attraction Be Repaired? — Shana James

    ·56m
  78. 78

    Coaching Call: When Your Business is Choking You — Tripp Lanier

    ·1h 4m
  79. 79

    Mark Manson Made a Movie — The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F

    ·26m
  80. 80

    Coaching Call: How to Deal with Money Fears — Tripp Lanier

    ·1h 16m
  81. 81

    Phil Stutz + Barry Michels - The Tools to Defeat Your Inner Enemy (Encore)

    ·47m
  82. 82

    Coaching Call: How to Deal with Nice Guy Syndrome — Tripp Lanier

    ·1h 13m
  83. 83

    Phil Stutz + Barry Michels on The Tools (Encore)

    ·43m
  84. 84

    Coaching Call: Am I Stuck in the Wrong Career? — Tripp Lanier

    ·1h 5m
  85. 85

    Coaching Call: The Painful Reason You’re Burned Out — Tripp Lanier

    ·1h 17m
  86. 86

    Integral Theory and The Cultural Dumpster Fire — Jeff Salzman, The Daily Evolver (Encore)

    ·36m
  87. 87

    What is Mastery of Self? — don Miguel Ruiz Jr. (Encore)

    ·38m
  88. 88

    Pressure, Anxiety, and Doing What You Love — Chip Conley (Encore)

    ·37m
  89. 89

    How to Train the Brain to Overcome Fear – Jaimal Yogis (Encore)

    ·39m
  90. 90

    Should You End Your Relationship? - Alyson Lanier (Encore)

    ·1h 3m
  91. 91

    Mark Manson on Why the World is Going Crazy - Mark Manson (Encore)

    ·49m
  92. 92

    How to Have (Really) Difficult Conversations – Mark J Silverman(Encore)

    ·45m
  93. 93

    Why Do Dolphins Get Stoned? The High Performance Benefits of Altered States - Jamie Wheal (Encore)

    ·34m
  94. 94

    How to Turn an Enemy into an Ally – Bill Shireman (Encore)

    ·32m
  95. 95

    Why We’re All Full of Sh*t - Jonathan Haidt (Encore)

    ·34m
  96. 96

    They Cheated on You. Now What? — Adam Nisenson, A Man’s Guide to Partner Betrayal

    Adam Nisenson discusses partner betrayal, arguing that cheating is never justified and that unhappy partners should communicate rather than stray.

    ·34m
  97. 97

    Too Nice? Too Smart? Too Stuck? Why Men Struggle with Power, Emotions, and Sex — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Tripp Lanier discusses why men struggle with power, emotions, and sex, and promotes his book 'This Book Will Make You Dangerous'.

    ·54m
  98. 98

    What’s Wrong with Meditation? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Tripp and Alyson Lanier discuss the pros and cons of meditation and spiritual practice in a casual coffee date conversation.

    ·38m
  99. 99

    Dealing with Blame and Big Emotions in Your Relationship — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Alyson and Tripp Lanier discuss handling blame and big emotions in relationships.

    ·37m
  100. 100

    Less Information. More Taking Action. — Coaching Call with Tripp Lanier

    A coaching call where Tripp Lanier discusses the value of doing less and taking action instead of consuming information.

    ·49m
  101. 101

    Is Psychedelic Therapy Worth the Hype? Will Van Derveer MD

    Hidden gem

    Dr.

    Mar 30, 2026·56m·2 clips
  102. 102

    What’s Really Holding You Back: How to Get Stuff Done — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Hidden gem

    Alyson and Tripp Lanier discuss what holds people back from getting things done, touching on fear, confidence, and purpose, with a humorous tangent about dating apps and memory care.

    Mar 18, 2026·53m·2 clips
  103. 103

    The Trap of Trying to Reach Your Full Potential — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Hidden gem

    The New Man examines why Tom de la Cruz's accomplishments and lifelong checklist have left him feeling empty, lonely, and disconnected.

    Mar 3, 2026·47m·3 clips
  104. 104

    I Shouldn’t Have to Ask: When Relationships Feel One-Sided — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    The New Man episode “I Shouldn’t Have to Ask” features men’s coach Tripp Lanier and Alyson discussing resentment when one partner feels responsible for work, childcare, meals, and household tasks.

    Feb 17, 2026·57m·4 clips
  105. 105

    Staying Stuck vs Moving Forward: Doing the Hard Thing — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Tripp Lanier and Alyson examine why people keep funding a failing business or maintaining a dead marriage instead of taking an uncomfortable action.

    Feb 2, 2026·33m·2 clips
  106. 106

    Why Being Perfect Makes Us Weak — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Jan 19, 2026·39m
  107. 107

    What Do You Really Want? Getting Out of Autopilot and the Prescribed Life — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Jan 6, 2026·50m
  108. 108

    Are They Busy or Just Not That Into You? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Dec 16, 2025·41m
  109. 109

    How to Deal with Holiday Stress, Guilt, and Family Pressure — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Nov 30, 2025·36m
  110. 110

    The Sexless Marriage: Can it Be Repaired? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Nov 18, 2025·56m
  111. 111

    Is Money Killing Your Relationship? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Nov 4, 2025·43m
  112. 112

    Too Nice? Too Smart? Too Stuck? Why Men Struggle with Power, Emotions, and Sex — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    The New Man examines why men can be “ballers” at work yet disconnected from sexual desire and relationship power.

    Oct 22, 2025·54m·2 clips
  113. 113

    Macho Jerks and Neutered Nice Guys: Let’s Talk Masculine and Feminine Energy — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Oct 8, 2025·41m
  114. 114

    The Mindset That Keeps you Stuck, Overwhelmed, or Lost — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Sep 24, 2025·35m
  115. 115

    How to Spot a Toxic Person Before It’s Too Late — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Sep 9, 2025·38m
  116. 116

    Success Without Soul: Dropping Comparisons and Proving — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Aug 27, 2025·38m
  117. 117

    Stop “Shoulding” All Over Yourself — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Aug 12, 2025·46m
  118. 118

    When Your Partner Feels Like an Adversary: Ditch the Bickering and Disrespect — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Jul 30, 2025·46m
  119. 119

    Drama Triangle: Getting out of the Blame Game — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Jul 16, 2025·52m
  120. 120

    Feeling Stuck and Uncertain: Moving from Anxiety to Clarity — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Jul 1, 2025·44m
  121. 121

    Is It Healthy to Use AI for Therapy? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Jun 17, 2025·38m
  122. 122

    Why We’re Attracted to the Wrong People (and What to Do About It) — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Jun 3, 2025·51m
  123. 123

    How to Have Deeper Conversations — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    May 21, 2025·55m
  124. 124

    Should You Settle in Your Relationship? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    May 6, 2025·45m
  125. 125

    Am I On The Wrong Path? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Apr 22, 2025·45m
  126. 126

    Dealing with Blame and Big Emotions in Your Relationship — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Apr 8, 2025·37m
  127. 127

    Striving to be Set for Life — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Mar 25, 2025·45m
  128. 128

    They Cheated on You. Now What? — Adam Nisenson, A Man’s Guide to Partner Betrayal

    Mar 11, 2025·34m
  129. 129

    Can Your Sex Life Be Saved? — Ruth Ramsay

    Feb 25, 2025·59m
  130. 130

    Struggling with Spirituality — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Feb 11, 2025·47m
  131. 131

    Randy Blythe (lamb of god) on Drinking, Death, and God

    Jan 28, 2025·1h 3m
  132. 132

    Feeling Stuck and Out of Alignment — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Jan 13, 2025·45m
  133. 133

    Why Finding Your Purpose is So Frustrating — Jordan Grumet, The Purpose Code

    Dec 30, 2024·47m
  134. 134

    Why People Pleasing is Killing Your Sex Life and Career — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Dec 17, 2024·30m
  135. 135

    How Being Guarded Kills Aliveness, Meaning, and Purpose — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Dec 3, 2024·55m
  136. 136

    Are You Jealous About Her Sexual Past? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Nov 19, 2024·37m
  137. 137

    Rickson Gracie - How to Find Comfort in Darkness

    Nov 5, 2024·49m
  138. 138

    Am I On The Wrong Path? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Oct 22, 2024·34m
  139. 139

    Build True Confidence by Understanding Unhealthy Self-Esteem — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Oct 8, 2024·40m
  140. 140

    Dealing with Anger and Emotional Constipation — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Sep 17, 2024·49m
  141. 141

    Avoiding Vulnerability Leads to Feeling Empty — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Sep 3, 2024·35m
  142. 142

    Facing the Fear of Being Alone — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Aug 20, 2024·1h 7m
  143. 143

    Is Therapy Frustrating? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Aug 6, 2024·39m
  144. 144

    Can a Nerd Become a Stud? Reinventing Yourself — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Jul 23, 2024·29m
  145. 145

    Can You Learn to Trust Your Gut? — Mark Divine (Uncommon: Simple Principles for an Extraordinary Life)

    Jul 9, 2024·58m
  146. 146

    Sebastian Junger’s Near Death Experience — Sebastian Junger (In My Time of Dying)

    Jun 25, 2024·1h
  147. 147

    Feeling Pressured to Get Married — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Jun 13, 2024·45m
  148. 148

    Finding Your Gold and Essence — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    May 14, 2024·53m
  149. 149

    Spiritual But Not Religious? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

    Apr 30, 2024·46m