A scandal-soaked opener that settles into crisp etiquette advice.
Dan Savage opens this Lovecast with sexual humiliation and political scandal, and the fresh gossip keeps the Brian Noem story alive even after it might have seemed played out.

Adult advice with teeth.
Savage Lovecast answers messy adult questions with a sharp mix of sexual candor, moral clarity, and political irritation. Calls and listener stories move from gym crushes and wedding drama to queer survival, kink negotiation, and the etiquette of desire.
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Savage Lovecast is a sex and relationship advice show built for adults who can handle blunt talk and complicated people. It is quick on its feet. The show often starts with a political or cultural grievance, then swings into listener questions, erotic logistics, and stories from people who tried something new. That structure can feel chaotic on the surface, but the advice usually lands on practical ground: communicate, negotiate, slow down, stop performing, and notice who is actually being harmed. The subject matter is broad and unapologetically adult. Recent episodes move through public attraction, friendship fallout around destination wedding expectations, anal anxiety, three-person sexual dynamics, fantasy role-play, sex parties, and queer resilience under political pressure. The tone is dry and confrontational, but not careless. The show keeps returning to privacy, context, and the difference between private desire and public behavior. A caller asking whether it is normal to notice attractive strangers gets a simple answer, then a sharper lesson about keeping other people comfortable in shared spaces. A discussion of penetration becomes less about novelty and more about patience, pleasure, and fear. Listener-story segments add another gear, with Marie, Ember, Sarah, and others describing experiments rather than polished fantasies. Those segments give the show a documentary edge: people explain the awkward details, the planning, the limits, and the moments when theory meets real bodies and real nerves. Politics is not background noise. Donald Trump, J.D. Vance, Kristi Noem, Brian Noem, Corey Lewandowski, and media scandal culture appear as part of the same argument about hypocrisy, power, sexuality, and public shame. LGBTQ rights and queer pleasure sit close together here, because the show treats private life and public policy as inseparable. It can be abrasive. It can also be reassuring. The real appeal is not shock value; it is the combination of comic impatience, hard-won sexual literacy, and a refusal to pretend grown-up life is tidy. For the right audience, that bluntness feels less like provocation than relief.
Made for: For adults who want sex and relationship advice that is frank, queer-aware, politically alert, and allergic to euphemism. It suits listeners comfortable with mature themes, kink discussion, and messy moral questions.
What sets it apart: The show stands apart by treating sexual ethics, queer politics, and everyday relationship drama as one continuous conversation. It can pivot from a public scandal to a caller’s private dilemma without losing its argumentative spine.
Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex and relationship questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, record your question and send it to [email protected], or call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savage.love and get yourself a subscription.
Based on 6 episodes we listened to · September 2026
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A scandal-soaked opener that settles into crisp etiquette advice.
Dan Savage opens this Lovecast with sexual humiliation and political scandal, and the fresh gossip keeps the Brian Noem story alive even after it might have seemed played out.
Marie turns a foot-focused proposition into a clear-eyed story about curiosity, boundaries, preparation, and fair pay.
Marie, a married woman in her mid-50s who is openly polyamorous and has run a small business for almost 20 years, approaches a foot-focused sexual proposition less as a dare than as a negotiation.
A blunt two-part rant about sex scandal spectacle and wedding pressure.
Savage opens with the Daily Mail story about Brian Noem, then slides into a brisk run through sex terms, including bimbofication, sissyfication, forced feminization, and the related identity labels.
Anal advice works best here when patience, pleasure, and the receiving partner's comfort set the pace.
Anal sex is framed as a negotiation of pleasure, patience, and trust, not a stunt with a deadline. Dan Savage keeps the focus on the person being penetrated: prepare ahead, leave room for breathing and relaxation, and let kissing and self-stimulation guide the first attempt.
A loose, blunt episode about marriage, longing, and what monogamy can fairly ask someone to live without.
Dan Savage frames sex and relationship advice as part of the same unruly cultural climate that also contains the Oscars, the manosphere, and a revived fight over polyamory.
A blunt relationship dilemma gets an Olympic drug-test detour before the episode points toward Nico Carney.
The Savage Lovecast starts with an odd Olympic swerve: Ross Robaliati won the men's giant snowboard slalom at the 1998 Winter Olympics in Japan, then lost the gold after a drug test that did not find a performance-enhancing drug.
A foot-fetish gig becomes a sharp little lesson in pricing, preparation, and meeting a stranger with a plan.
A foot-fetish offer turns into a compact look at how sexual novelty becomes work: terms, prep, pricing, and a little self-knowledge. Marie, a married woman in her mid-50s who is openly polyamorous, recalls her first time as a foot fetish model around a con.






Dan Savage opens with the story of Ross Rebagliati, a snowboarder stripped of his 1998 Olympic gold medal for cannabis use, drawing a parallel to modern athlete Kurt Adams Rosenthal, who faces a ban for his OnlyFans account.
Dan Savage interviews Marie, a married polyamorous woman in her mid-50s, about her first experience as a sex worker.
Dan Savage critiques the HBO series Euphoria and discusses the political and social media backlash to a related ad, touching on addiction portrayal and celebrity culture.
Dan Savage breaks his promise to focus only on sex and relationships to discuss the murder of Alex Preddy by an ICE agent in Minneapolis, connecting it to broader issues of injustice.
Julia, a bisexual Australian guest on Dan Savage’s After Action Report, describes a Bali hookup after a genital herpes diagnosis.
Dan Savage opens with Howard Crabtree’s 1996 musical When Pigs Fly and its Hawaiian wedding song.
Dan Savage opens Savage Lovecast with Kristen Sinema’s Senate record and Chris Gallant’s leather-modeling photos.
Dan opens by revisiting the Brian Noem scandal and the way it landed after the show was already out.
Savage Lovecast’s After Action Report follows Marie, a married woman in her mid-50s who lives in a mid-Atlantic city, is openly polyamorous, and retired after selling a small business.
Dan Savage opens by tearing into the Daily Mail's story about Brian Noem.
This episode features an interview with Ember, a 32-year-old trans man who shares his experience of throwing his first sex party and discusses maintaining queer joy amidst societal challenges.
This episode critiques Donald Trump and J.D.
Micro-cheating claws its way back into the Lovecast, and Dan Savage is ready to shove the idea back into the dirt.
Savage Lovecast's "Masochistic Macaques" starts with Dan Savage arguing that recent polyamory memoirs by Lindy West, Molly Rodham Winter, Rachel Krantz, Sophie Lucido Johnson, Sadie Smith, and Natalie Davis make women look like the usual reluctant partner.
Dan Savage discusses how the overwhelming modern news cycle causes him to miss major stories, leading to awkward social situations at parties.
Dan Savage humorously avoids discussing Hitler's alleged micropenis and Trump-related blowjob rumors while reaffirming his pro-dick, anti-Hitler stance on his sex and relationship podcast.
Dan Savage is interrupted by Peter Rothpletz during his podcast intro about recent negative court rulings, leading to a debate about whether to focus on political wins or losses.