Tom and Vicki Dau
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Welcome to "Reframing Life and Love," a transformative podcast where Tom Dau shares his journey of supporting his wife's healing from childhood sexual trauma. Designed specifically for men committed to understanding and aiding their partners, our show provides a safe space to discuss the unique challenges that arise and the skills needed to foster a fulfilling relationship. In each episode, you’ll hear from Tom, offering valuable insights from his perspective. He shares practical blueprints and tools to help men not just survive, but thrive in their relationships. With topics ranging from understanding repressed memories to building trust to enhancing in...
A failed first bath sends Tom and Vicki into a text exchange you might recognize.
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Practical, compassionate guidance for loving well when trauma shapes a relationship.
Tom and Vicki shape the episode around the everyday work of loving a trauma survivor: listening without rushing to fix, checking in about the day, and treating triggers as part of the relationship rather than the whole of it. The most useful parts are the practical ones.
A compassionate, practical conversation for partners working to make safety real.
The episode focuses on how a husband or partner can respond when childhood sexual abuse affects a relationship, with safety, patience, and trust at the center.
A grounded, practical take on honoring family without giving up boundaries.
Tom and Vicki treat Mother's Day as a question of boundaries as much as care: how do you honor a mother while still feeling safe? The discussion stays practical, moving from the emotional strain to simple choices like mailing something, setting contact in advance, or talking…
Jonquilyn Hill chases one listener question per episode to the experts who can answer it.
Three hosts and psychologist Dr Emily talk vulnerability, therapy, and imperfection with guests.
Fearne Cotton interviews guests like Boy George and Bryony Gordon about mental health and identity.
Dr. Joy Harden Bradford pairs therapy insight with Black TV recaps, maternal health, and history.
Tom and Vicki Dow frame this episode around "three things every husband must know" if his wife was sexually abused: "it's not your fault," "she needs you," and "don't try to fix it." Tom ties those points to their own marriage, saying Vicki's abuse memories resurfaced 18 years in and that he once had to learn why a hand on her shoulder or even whistling could trigger a strong reaction.
Tom and Vicki discuss Mother's Day through the lens of childhood sexual abuse trauma, offering insights on setting boundaries with mothers, navigating parenting as survivors, and leveraging partner support for healing.
Tom and Vicki use “How to Love a Trauma Survivor” to separate three situations: a survivor committed to healing, a survivor living in victimhood, and a survivor who treats past abuse as a non-issue.
Tom Dau shares his personal journey of fatherhood, including his adoption story, struggles with his adoptive father, and lessons learned from supporting his wife through trauma.
Tom and Vicki discuss how to communicate with trauma survivors, emphasizing empathic listening over fixing, sharing personal examples like miscarriage, and avoiding harmful phrases.
Tom and Vicki define faith as a personal belief in God or another higher power, while describing religion as the practice that expresses it.
Mary Knight discusses her 2022 memoir, three highly triggering essays, and how writing abuse details lets her focus conversations on healing.
Tom and Vicki, married almost 38 years, use a failed first bath in their renovated bathroom to examine communication and emotional assumptions.