
Perfectionism, translated into usable operating instructions.
The gist
Perfectionism Rewired reframes perfectionism as a pattern to understand, measure, and redirect rather than a flaw to shame away. Episodes move quickly through burnout, rumination, self-criticism, emotional regulation, and the show's recurring "person account" model.
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About Perfectionism Rewired
Perfectionism Rewired is a coaching-forward mental health show about the mechanics of perfectionism. It is not gentle background audio. CLG speaks in a quick, emphatic style that mirrors the speed of an overactive perfectionist brain, then turns that urgency into models, definitions, and action steps. Recent episodes return often to the idea of a "person account," the internal resource balance that can be drained by work, exercise, social effort, anxiety, rumination, and emotional strain. The metaphor gives the show a practical center. Instead of treating burnout as a moral failure, Perfectionism Rewired frames it as an overdraft that changes patience, focus, learning, memory, mood, and decision-making. That makes the advice feel less like generic wellness and more like a diagnostic language for people who are used to counting output instead of measuring capacity. The show repeatedly challenges the fantasy of powering through. It asks what achievement costs when sleep, steadiness, relationships, and enjoyment keep getting spent to preserve an image of competence. Episodes on feelings push back against the idea that thoughts always come first, emphasizing attention, meaning-making, and skill building. Client examples add texture. Manon appears in a story about sensory overload, a child's marker disaster, and the difference between snapping and redirecting attention long enough to stay present. Stacey appears as an example of severe depletion before learning how to recognize the account was already deeply overdrawn. The show also spends time on cognitive rigidity, avoidance of discomfort, and the way chronic stress can trap a brain inside old predictions. Its audience is not casual self-improvement dabblers. It is aimed at ambitious, Type-A, high-performing people who value accuracy, growth, control, and competence, but no longer feel rewarded by achievement alone. The voice can be dramatic, sometimes provocative, and very certain. That intensity is part of the product. Perfectionism Rewired gives listeners names for loops they may have privately normalized: rereading messages, replaying mistakes, catastrophizing, comparing, over-researching, and mistaking exhaustion for lack of discipline. Its most distinctive move is refusing to make perfectionism the enemy. The show argues for owning the tendency with better tools rather than fighting the identity itself.
Made for: Designed for ambitious, Type-A perfectionists who feel depleted, over-responsible, self-critical, or stuck despite doing the work. It suits listeners who like direct coaching, fast pacing, and conceptual frameworks.
What sets it apart: The show stands out through its recurring "person account" framework, using resource accounting to explain burnout, rumination, emotional overload, and rigidity. Its tone is sharper and more systems-oriented than typical reassurance-based perfectionism recovery content.
In their own words
How do I stop living in fear of failure? Why can't I stop overthinking? When will I feel good enough? Why am I so hard on myself? Why do I self-sabotage? Will ruminating + catastrophizing ever end? There's a BETTER Way to Perfectionism, that's empowering highly driven, Type-A, ambitious perfectionists to OWN their perfectionistic tendencies instead of being owned by it. Perfectionism Rewired host Courtney Love Gavin (CLG) illuminates this in every episode. Listen for fierce insights for perfectionists on exiting victim mentality, what self-sabotage *really is*, how to stop people pleasing without compromising kindness, overthinking, catastrophizing, ruminating and black and white thinking, s…
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Episodes
- 1
Perfectionism is the New ADHD
·8m - 2
How To Feel Your Feelings (So They Stop Controlling You)
·32m - 3
Access Your Abilities in a Way Burnt Out You Could Never Compete With
·19m - 4
The #1 Thing That Stops Perfectionists from Growth
·17m - 5
Neuroplasticity
·7m - 6
Can’t Stop Ruminating? Here's Why
·22m - 7
Perfectionist Tendencies Begin In Your Brain
·17m - 8
Tired of Feeling Overwhelmed? Start Here
·22m - 9
The Right Way To Compare Yourself
·24m - 10
Listening to the podcast + interested in learning more about services
·2m - 11
How Can I Stop Comparing Myself
·24m - 12
Comparing Yourself
·23m - 13
Overexplaining
·24m - 14
Needing to Be 100% Certain + Uncertainty Avoidance
·8m - 15
Waiting For the Right Time
·9m - 16
How to Get More Confidence (Instead of Waiting For It)
·10m - 17
What Happens When Perfectionists STOP WAITING FOR More Information
·17m - 18
Impeccable Boundaries - Your Path To Peace + Power
·37m - 19
It's Always Something! 3 Key Areas Perfectionists Must Fix to Stop Overwhelm
·16m - 20
Be Proud of Yourself: Training Your Brain to SEE Your Value
·14m - 21
Confessions of an Approval Seeking Perfectionist: From Insecure to Empowered Oscar Winner
·18m - 22
How to Stop Feeling Guilty (lessons from perfectionist parent)
·17m - 23
What Fear of Failure is Masking
·19m - 24
The Crucial Role of Perfectionism Coaching for Women in Leadership
·15m - 25
How Proving Yourself is Career Poison (+ the Cure for Unrivaled Growth)
·9m - 26
The REAL Reason Your Inner Critic Won't Shut Up
·19m - 27
Feeling Clenchy? Fascinating Connection Btwn Your Pelvic Floor + Perfectionism
·19m - 28
How to Prevent Passing Anxiety on to Your Kids
·16m - 29
Fascia: The Missing Puzzle Piece for Perfectionists
·12m - 30
The Most Important De-Stress Skill for Perfectionists
·12m - 31
From Pushing Through To Presence (lessons from perfectionist architect)
·12m - 32
On Vacation, Can't Relax
·10m - 33
The Secret Solution to Removing OVERWHELM Revealed
·12m - 34
Upgrade Compartmentalize for Confidence
·8m - 35
How to Harmonize Striving For Excellence w/ A High-Stakes Career
·9m - 36
"I Should Know This" Lies We Tell Ourselves in Rumination
·8m - 37
White Knuckling & the High Price of Powering Through
·18m - 38
Unlearning Learned Helplessness
·19m - 39
How To Let Go Of Resentment (w/o Exploding On Your Partner)
·15m - 40
High Performance ANXIOUS: Building Resilience + Calming Internal Chaos
·10m - 41
Recovering Perfectionist vs REWIRED Perfectionist (lessons from Perfectionist CEO)
·22m - 42
6 Self-Sabotaging Patterns Perfectionists Unknowingly Nurture
·11m - 43
Self Critic Screams: What Your Body Is Dying To Tell You
·12m - 44
Why Am I So Hard On Myself
·21m - 45
Self-Criticism Won’t Quit? Confidently Shut.It.Down
·20m - 46
The Surprising Relief of RAISING Your Standards
·16m - 47
Never Good Enough...Ends Now
·13m - 48
Catastrophize. Ruminate. Overthink. People Pleaser: Upgrading Your Tools
·25m - 49
If I'm Not Judgmental..how do I know i'm right?
·17m - 50
Perfectionism in Relationships: Resentment
·18m - 51
LAST CHANCE: Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator
·2m - 52
How To Rise From Setbacks *without* Beating Yourself Up
·16m - 53
Getting To The Root of Your Overthinking + Ruminating
·5m - 54
Why Asking for Help is Harder for Perfectionists
·7m - 55
Overcome Your Perfectionism the Feel Good Way!
·12m - 56
Lighten Your Load: Caring Deeply without Taking on Too Much
·17m - 57
From Seeking Right Answers to Pursuing the Correct Ones for YOU
·12m - 58
BACK ONLINE: When Perfectionists Broke The Internet
·2m - 59
Maybe it's Not Your Fault: Medical Gaslighting
·23m - 60
Perfectionist Sunk Cost Fallacy: When Loyalty Becomes Lethal
·19m - 61
When You Get Support & It *Sucks* Navigating Advocating as a Perfectionist
·13m - 62
More you Control, Less powerful you Feel?
·25m - 63
I'm So Stressed Out!
·14m - 64
Not A Popularity Contest but if it was...You've Already Won
·14m - 65
Everything You Need to Know About Self Regulation as a Perfectionist
·13m - 66
Will Save Your Sanity (Might Just Change Your Life)
·21m - 67
When Taking A Few Deep Breaths Isn't Enough
·22m - 68
Got that *I have too much to do!!* feeling!?
·2m - 69
When You're Mortified You Made SUCH A Careless Mistake
·17m - 70
Obsessing Over Your Mistakes
·10m - 71
Calm Anxiety + Take Control With the Worry Window
·18m - 72
Catastrophizing
·12m - 73
Meeting Yourself Where You're At NOT Where Think You Should Be
·19m - 74
Never Suffer From Crippling Perfectionism Again
·13m - 75
Finding Your Perfect Episode Just Got Easier
·1m - 76
When You Are So Perfectionist You End Up Doing Nothing
·18m - 77
How to Get Ahead in a Demanding Career (lessons from Perfectionist lawyer)
·11m - 78
Ending Your Self Loathing Legacy: The Gift Every Perfectionist Deserves
·12m - 79
Flipping Your Drama Triangles to Empowerment
·15m - 80
Perfectionistic Drama Triangle
·21m - 81
Why Perfectionists Burnout
·27m - 82
Transform Your Perfectionism Into Strength with Neurosculpting
·11m - 83
Tired of Being A Perfectionist? How Science Gives Perfectionists A Peaceful Path to Change
·12m - 84
"Help! Perfectionism Is KILLING My Dream of Being a Writer"
·10m - 85
Got Health Insurance? Here's How It Can Cover Your Perfectionism Coaching
·10m - 86
How to Start Fail-Proofing your Perfectionism Today!
·15m - 87
Feel Better Faster: Avoiding Perfectionist Mistakes In Expressing EMOTIONS
·15m - 88
Quickest Way To Permanently Overcome Perfectionism
·15m - 89
2 Questions Every Perfectionist Must Ask To Avoid The Trickery of Achievement
·14m - 90
Secret Signs You're a Perfectionist: What You Didn’t Know!
·18m - 91
If You're Hungry For Change Here's YOUR Perfect Start
·5m - 92
Rewiring Perfectionist Habits: "Just One More Minute"
·10m - 93
How To Have Difficult Conversations
·12m - 94
How To Be Less Demanding
·10m - 95
You Must Let Go Of THIS for Inner Peace
·18m - 96
How To Enjoy Your Thanksgiving *No Matter What*
·12m - 97
Ending Your Stress At The Holidays
·8m - 98
Holiday Perfectionism
·9m - 99
What's A Perfectionism Coach (avoiding imposters)
·17m - 100
Perfectionist Unplugged: Enjoying vs Enduring Striving
The host discusses upgrading from control to power and embracing the challenges of growth as a perfectionist.
·26m - 101
White Knuckling & the High Price of Powering Through
Perfectionism Rewired examines “white knuckling” through CLG’s 2025 capacity crisis and her decision to stop powering through.
Jun 22, 2025·18m·1 clip - 102
How To Feel Your Feelings (So They Stop Controlling You)
Hidden gemThis episode teaches how to feel your feelings to stop them from controlling you, debunking myths about thoughts driving feelings.
May 8, 2025·32m·2 clips - 103
Access Your Abilities in a Way Burnt Out You Could Never Compete With
Apr 8, 2025·19m - 104
The #1 Thing That Stops Perfectionists from Growth
Mar 28, 2025·17m - 105
Neuroplasticity
Mar 24, 2025·7m - 106
Can’t Stop Ruminating? Here's Why
Hidden gemPerfectionism Rewired episode 250 explains why the perfectionistic brain misses prediction errors, using Courtney Love Gavin's model of predictions, sensory data, and learning.
Mar 15, 2025·22m·1 clip - 107
Perfectionist Tendencies Begin In Your Brain
Mar 1, 2025·17m - 108
Tired of Feeling Overwhelmed? Start Here
Feb 17, 2025·22m - 109
The Right Way To Compare Yourself
Feb 6, 2025·24m - 110
Listening to the podcast + interested in learning more about services
Feb 4, 2025·2m - 111
How Can I Stop Comparing Myself
Jan 30, 2025·24m - 112
Comparing Yourself
Perfectionism Rewired's Comparing Yourself episode identifies three comparison targets: past self, other people, and an imagined future self.
Jan 29, 2025·23m·1 clip - 113
Overexplaining
Over-explaining is presented as a perfectionistic defense against judgment that can turn clear messages into repeated requests for approval.
Oct 27, 2024·24m·1 clip - 114
Needing to Be 100% Certain + Uncertainty Avoidance
Oct 9, 2024·8m - 115
Waiting For the Right Time
Oct 8, 2024·9m - 116
How to Get More Confidence (Instead of Waiting For It)
Oct 6, 2024·10m - 117
What Happens When Perfectionists STOP WAITING FOR More Information
Oct 6, 2024·17m - 118
Impeccable Boundaries - Your Path To Peace + Power
Sep 30, 2024·37m - 119
It's Always Something! 3 Key Areas Perfectionists Must Fix to Stop Overwhelm
Sep 24, 2024·16m - 120
Be Proud of Yourself: Training Your Brain to SEE Your Value
Sep 11, 2024·14m - 121
Confessions of an Approval Seeking Perfectionist: From Insecure to Empowered Oscar Winner
Aug 22, 2024·18m - 122
How to Stop Feeling Guilty (lessons from perfectionist parent)
Aug 17, 2024·17m - 123
What Fear of Failure is Masking
Jul 21, 2024·19m - 124
The Crucial Role of Perfectionism Coaching for Women in Leadership
Jul 13, 2024·15m - 125
How Proving Yourself is Career Poison (+ the Cure for Unrivaled Growth)
Jul 10, 2024·9m - 126
The REAL Reason Your Inner Critic Won't Shut Up
Jul 5, 2024·19m - 127
Feeling Clenchy? Fascinating Connection Btwn Your Pelvic Floor + Perfectionism
Jun 27, 2024·19m - 128
How to Prevent Passing Anxiety on to Your Kids
Jun 23, 2024·16m - 129
Fascia: The Missing Puzzle Piece for Perfectionists
Jun 20, 2024·12m - 130
The Most Important De-Stress Skill for Perfectionists
Jun 15, 2024·12m - 131
From Pushing Through To Presence (lessons from perfectionist architect)
Jun 13, 2024·12m - 132
On Vacation, Can't Relax
Jun 12, 2024·10m - 133
The Secret Solution to Removing OVERWHELM Revealed
Jun 11, 2024·12m - 134
Upgrade Compartmentalize for Confidence
Jun 6, 2024·8m - 135
How to Harmonize Striving For Excellence w/ A High-Stakes Career
May 11, 2024·9m - 136
"I Should Know This" Lies We Tell Ourselves in Rumination
May 3, 2024·8m - 137
Perfectionism is the New ADHD
Apr 27, 2024·8m - 138
Unlearning Learned Helplessness
Apr 22, 2024·19m - 139
How To Let Go Of Resentment (w/o Exploding On Your Partner)
Apr 17, 2024·15m - 140
High Performance ANXIOUS: Building Resilience + Calming Internal Chaos
Apr 10, 2024·10m - 141
Recovering Perfectionist vs REWIRED Perfectionist (lessons from Perfectionist CEO)
This episode explores the hidden benefits of perfectionism and how to harness it for fulfillment instead of burnout.
Apr 3, 2024·22m - 142
6 Self-Sabotaging Patterns Perfectionists Unknowingly Nurture
Mar 29, 2024·11m - 143
Self Critic Screams: What Your Body Is Dying To Tell You
Mar 26, 2024·12m - 144
Why Am I So Hard On Myself
This episode explains how to break free from self-criticism and perfectionism by changing one key behavior.
Mar 18, 2024·21m - 145
Self-Criticism Won’t Quit? Confidently Shut.It.Down
Mar 15, 2024·20m - 146
The Surprising Relief of RAISING Your Standards
Mar 14, 2024·16m - 147
Never Good Enough...Ends Now
Mar 12, 2024·13m - 148
Catastrophize. Ruminate. Overthink. People Pleaser: Upgrading Your Tools
Mar 5, 2024·25m - 149
If I'm Not Judgmental..how do I know i'm right?
Feb 23, 2024·17m - 150
Perfectionism in Relationships: Resentment
Feb 21, 2024·18m