Perfectionism Rewired

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Perfectionism, translated into usable operating instructions.

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Perfectionism Rewired reframes perfectionism as a pattern to understand, measure, and redirect rather than a flaw to shame away. Episodes move quickly through burnout, rumination, self-criticism, emotional regulation, and the show's recurring "person account" model.

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Perfectionism Rewired is a coaching-forward mental health show about the mechanics of perfectionism. It is not gentle background audio. CLG speaks in a quick, emphatic style that mirrors the speed of an overactive perfectionist brain, then turns that urgency into models, definitions, and action steps. Recent episodes return often to the idea of a "person account," the internal resource balance that can be drained by work, exercise, social effort, anxiety, rumination, and emotional strain. The metaphor gives the show a practical center. Instead of treating burnout as a moral failure, Perfectionism Rewired frames it as an overdraft that changes patience, focus, learning, memory, mood, and decision-making. That makes the advice feel less like generic wellness and more like a diagnostic language for people who are used to counting output instead of measuring capacity. The show repeatedly challenges the fantasy of powering through. It asks what achievement costs when sleep, steadiness, relationships, and enjoyment keep getting spent to preserve an image of competence. Episodes on feelings push back against the idea that thoughts always come first, emphasizing attention, meaning-making, and skill building. Client examples add texture. Manon appears in a story about sensory overload, a child's marker disaster, and the difference between snapping and redirecting attention long enough to stay present. Stacey appears as an example of severe depletion before learning how to recognize the account was already deeply overdrawn. The show also spends time on cognitive rigidity, avoidance of discomfort, and the way chronic stress can trap a brain inside old predictions. Its audience is not casual self-improvement dabblers. It is aimed at ambitious, Type-A, high-performing people who value accuracy, growth, control, and competence, but no longer feel rewarded by achievement alone. The voice can be dramatic, sometimes provocative, and very certain. That intensity is part of the product. Perfectionism Rewired gives listeners names for loops they may have privately normalized: rereading messages, replaying mistakes, catastrophizing, comparing, over-researching, and mistaking exhaustion for lack of discipline. Its most distinctive move is refusing to make perfectionism the enemy. The show argues for owning the tendency with better tools rather than fighting the identity itself.

Made for: Designed for ambitious, Type-A perfectionists who feel depleted, over-responsible, self-critical, or stuck despite doing the work. It suits listeners who like direct coaching, fast pacing, and conceptual frameworks.

What sets it apart: The show stands out through its recurring "person account" framework, using resource accounting to explain burnout, rumination, emotional overload, and rigidity. Its tone is sharper and more systems-oriented than typical reassurance-based perfectionism recovery content.

In their own words

How do I stop living in fear of failure? Why can't I stop overthinking? When will I feel good enough? Why am I so hard on myself? Why do I self-sabotage? Will ruminating + catastrophizing ever end? There's a BETTER Way to Perfectionism, that's empowering highly driven, Type-A, ambitious perfectionists to OWN their perfectionistic tendencies instead of being owned by it. Perfectionism Rewired host Courtney Love Gavin (CLG) illuminates this in every episode. Listen for fierce insights for perfectionists on exiting victim mentality, what self-sabotage *really is*, how to stop people pleasing without compromising kindness, overthinking, catastrophizing, ruminating and black and white thinking, s…

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  1. 1

    Perfectionism is the New ADHD

    ·8m
  2. 2

    How To Feel Your Feelings (So They Stop Controlling You)

    ·32m
  3. 3

    Access Your Abilities in a Way Burnt Out You Could Never Compete With

    ·19m
  4. 4

    The #1 Thing That Stops Perfectionists from Growth

    ·17m
  5. 5

    Neuroplasticity

    ·7m
  6. 6

    Can’t Stop Ruminating? Here's Why

    ·22m
  7. 7

    Perfectionist Tendencies Begin In Your Brain

    ·17m
  8. 8

    Tired of Feeling Overwhelmed? Start Here

    ·22m
  9. 9

    The Right Way To Compare Yourself

    ·24m
  10. 10

    Listening to the podcast + interested in learning more about services

    ·2m
  11. 11

    How Can I Stop Comparing Myself

    ·24m
  12. 12

    Comparing Yourself

    ·23m
  13. 13

    Overexplaining

    ·24m
  14. 14

    Needing to Be 100% Certain + Uncertainty Avoidance

    ·8m
  15. 15

    Waiting For the Right Time

    ·9m
  16. 16

    How to Get More Confidence (Instead of Waiting For It)

    ·10m
  17. 17

    What Happens When Perfectionists STOP WAITING FOR More Information

    ·17m
  18. 18

    Impeccable Boundaries - Your Path To Peace + Power

    ·37m
  19. 19

    It's Always Something! 3 Key Areas Perfectionists Must Fix to Stop Overwhelm

    ·16m
  20. 20

    Be Proud of Yourself: Training Your Brain to SEE Your Value

    ·14m
  21. 21

    Confessions of an Approval Seeking Perfectionist: From Insecure to Empowered Oscar Winner

    ·18m
  22. 22

    How to Stop Feeling Guilty (lessons from perfectionist parent)

    ·17m
  23. 23

    What Fear of Failure is Masking

    ·19m
  24. 24

    The Crucial Role of Perfectionism Coaching for Women in Leadership

    ·15m
  25. 25

    How Proving Yourself is Career Poison (+ the Cure for Unrivaled Growth)

    ·9m
  26. 26

    The REAL Reason Your Inner Critic Won't Shut Up

    ·19m
  27. 27

    Feeling Clenchy? Fascinating Connection Btwn Your Pelvic Floor + Perfectionism

    ·19m
  28. 28

    How to Prevent Passing Anxiety on to Your Kids

    ·16m
  29. 29

    Fascia: The Missing Puzzle Piece for Perfectionists

    ·12m
  30. 30

    The Most Important De-Stress Skill for Perfectionists

    ·12m
  31. 31

    From Pushing Through To Presence (lessons from perfectionist architect)

    ·12m
  32. 32

    On Vacation, Can't Relax

    ·10m
  33. 33

    The Secret Solution to Removing OVERWHELM Revealed

    ·12m
  34. 34

    Upgrade Compartmentalize for Confidence

    ·8m
  35. 35

    How to Harmonize Striving For Excellence w/ A High-Stakes Career

    ·9m
  36. 36

    "I Should Know This" Lies We Tell Ourselves in Rumination

    ·8m
  37. 37

    White Knuckling & the High Price of Powering Through

    ·18m
  38. 38

    Unlearning Learned Helplessness

    ·19m
  39. 39

    How To Let Go Of Resentment (w/o Exploding On Your Partner)

    ·15m
  40. 40

    High Performance ANXIOUS: Building Resilience + Calming Internal Chaos

    ·10m
  41. 41

    Recovering Perfectionist vs REWIRED Perfectionist (lessons from Perfectionist CEO)

    ·22m
  42. 42

    6 Self-Sabotaging Patterns Perfectionists Unknowingly Nurture

    ·11m
  43. 43

    Self Critic Screams: What Your Body Is Dying To Tell You

    ·12m
  44. 44

    Why Am I So Hard On Myself

    ·21m
  45. 45

    Self-Criticism Won’t Quit? Confidently Shut.It.Down

    ·20m
  46. 46

    The Surprising Relief of RAISING Your Standards

    ·16m
  47. 47

    Never Good Enough...Ends Now

    ·13m
  48. 48

    Catastrophize. Ruminate. Overthink. People Pleaser: Upgrading Your Tools

    ·25m
  49. 49

    If I'm Not Judgmental..how do I know i'm right?

    ·17m
  50. 50

    Perfectionism in Relationships: Resentment

    ·18m
  51. 51

    LAST CHANCE: Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator

    ·2m
  52. 52

    How To Rise From Setbacks *without* Beating Yourself Up

    ·16m
  53. 53

    Getting To The Root of Your Overthinking + Ruminating

    ·5m
  54. 54

    Why Asking for Help is Harder for Perfectionists

    ·7m
  55. 55

    Overcome Your Perfectionism the Feel Good Way!

    ·12m
  56. 56

    Lighten Your Load: Caring Deeply without Taking on Too Much

    ·17m
  57. 57

    From Seeking Right Answers to Pursuing the Correct Ones for YOU

    ·12m
  58. 58

    BACK ONLINE: When Perfectionists Broke The Internet

    ·2m
  59. 59

    Maybe it's Not Your Fault: Medical Gaslighting

    ·23m
  60. 60

    Perfectionist Sunk Cost Fallacy: When Loyalty Becomes Lethal

    ·19m
  61. 61

    When You Get Support & It *Sucks* Navigating Advocating as a Perfectionist

    ·13m
  62. 62

    More you Control, Less powerful you Feel?

    ·25m
  63. 63

    I'm So Stressed Out!

    ·14m
  64. 64

    Not A Popularity Contest but if it was...You've Already Won

    ·14m
  65. 65

    Everything You Need to Know About Self Regulation as a Perfectionist

    ·13m
  66. 66

    Will Save Your Sanity (Might Just Change Your Life)

    ·21m
  67. 67

    When Taking A Few Deep Breaths Isn't Enough

    ·22m
  68. 68

    Got that *I have too much to do!!* feeling!?

    ·2m
  69. 69

    When You're Mortified You Made SUCH A Careless Mistake

    ·17m
  70. 70

    Obsessing Over Your Mistakes

    ·10m
  71. 71

    Calm Anxiety + Take Control With the Worry Window

    ·18m
  72. 72

    Catastrophizing

    ·12m
  73. 73

    Meeting Yourself Where You're At NOT Where Think You Should Be

    ·19m
  74. 74

    Never Suffer From Crippling Perfectionism Again

    ·13m
  75. 75

    Finding Your Perfect Episode Just Got Easier

    ·1m
  76. 76

    When You Are So Perfectionist You End Up Doing Nothing

    ·18m
  77. 77

    How to Get Ahead in a Demanding Career (lessons from Perfectionist lawyer)

    ·11m
  78. 78

    Ending Your Self Loathing Legacy: The Gift Every Perfectionist Deserves

    ·12m
  79. 79

    Flipping Your Drama Triangles to Empowerment

    ·15m
  80. 80

    Perfectionistic Drama Triangle

    ·21m
  81. 81

    Why Perfectionists Burnout

    ·27m
  82. 82

    Transform Your Perfectionism Into Strength with Neurosculpting

    ·11m
  83. 83

    Tired of Being A Perfectionist? How Science Gives Perfectionists A Peaceful Path to Change

    ·12m
  84. 84

    "Help! Perfectionism Is KILLING My Dream of Being a Writer"

    ·10m
  85. 85

    Got Health Insurance? Here's How It Can Cover Your Perfectionism Coaching

    ·10m
  86. 86

    How to Start Fail-Proofing your Perfectionism Today!

    ·15m
  87. 87

    Feel Better Faster: Avoiding Perfectionist Mistakes In Expressing EMOTIONS

    ·15m
  88. 88

    Quickest Way To Permanently Overcome Perfectionism

    ·15m
  89. 89

    2 Questions Every Perfectionist Must Ask To Avoid The Trickery of Achievement

    ·14m
  90. 90

    Secret Signs You're a Perfectionist: What You Didn’t Know!

    ·18m
  91. 91

    If You're Hungry For Change Here's YOUR Perfect Start

    ·5m
  92. 92

    Rewiring Perfectionist Habits: "Just One More Minute"

    ·10m
  93. 93

    How To Have Difficult Conversations

    ·12m
  94. 94

    How To Be Less Demanding

    ·10m
  95. 95

    You Must Let Go Of THIS for Inner Peace

    ·18m
  96. 96

    How To Enjoy Your Thanksgiving *No Matter What*

    ·12m
  97. 97

    Ending Your Stress At The Holidays

    ·8m
  98. 98

    Holiday Perfectionism

    ·9m
  99. 99

    What's A Perfectionism Coach (avoiding imposters)

    ·17m
  100. 100

    Perfectionist Unplugged: Enjoying vs Enduring Striving

    The host discusses upgrading from control to power and embracing the challenges of growth as a perfectionist.

    ·26m
  101. 101

    White Knuckling & the High Price of Powering Through

    Perfectionism Rewired examines “white knuckling” through CLG’s 2025 capacity crisis and her decision to stop powering through.

    Jun 22, 2025·18m·1 clip
  102. 102

    How To Feel Your Feelings (So They Stop Controlling You)

    Hidden gem

    This episode teaches how to feel your feelings to stop them from controlling you, debunking myths about thoughts driving feelings.

    May 8, 2025·32m·2 clips
  103. 103

    Access Your Abilities in a Way Burnt Out You Could Never Compete With

    Apr 8, 2025·19m
  104. 104

    The #1 Thing That Stops Perfectionists from Growth

    Mar 28, 2025·17m
  105. 105

    Neuroplasticity

    Mar 24, 2025·7m
  106. 106

    Can’t Stop Ruminating? Here's Why

    Hidden gem

    Perfectionism Rewired episode 250 explains why the perfectionistic brain misses prediction errors, using Courtney Love Gavin's model of predictions, sensory data, and learning.

    Mar 15, 2025·22m·1 clip
  107. 107

    Perfectionist Tendencies Begin In Your Brain

    Mar 1, 2025·17m
  108. 108

    Tired of Feeling Overwhelmed? Start Here

    Feb 17, 2025·22m
  109. 109

    The Right Way To Compare Yourself

    Feb 6, 2025·24m
  110. 110

    Listening to the podcast + interested in learning more about services

    Feb 4, 2025·2m
  111. 111

    How Can I Stop Comparing Myself

    Jan 30, 2025·24m
  112. 112

    Comparing Yourself

    Perfectionism Rewired's Comparing Yourself episode identifies three comparison targets: past self, other people, and an imagined future self.

    Jan 29, 2025·23m·1 clip
  113. 113

    Overexplaining

    Over-explaining is presented as a perfectionistic defense against judgment that can turn clear messages into repeated requests for approval.

    Oct 27, 2024·24m·1 clip
  114. 114

    Needing to Be 100% Certain + Uncertainty Avoidance

    Oct 9, 2024·8m
  115. 115

    Waiting For the Right Time

    Oct 8, 2024·9m
  116. 116

    How to Get More Confidence (Instead of Waiting For It)

    Oct 6, 2024·10m
  117. 117

    What Happens When Perfectionists STOP WAITING FOR More Information

    Oct 6, 2024·17m
  118. 118

    Impeccable Boundaries - Your Path To Peace + Power

    Sep 30, 2024·37m
  119. 119

    It's Always Something! 3 Key Areas Perfectionists Must Fix to Stop Overwhelm

    Sep 24, 2024·16m
  120. 120

    Be Proud of Yourself: Training Your Brain to SEE Your Value

    Sep 11, 2024·14m
  121. 121

    Confessions of an Approval Seeking Perfectionist: From Insecure to Empowered Oscar Winner

    Aug 22, 2024·18m
  122. 122

    How to Stop Feeling Guilty (lessons from perfectionist parent)

    Aug 17, 2024·17m
  123. 123

    What Fear of Failure is Masking

    Jul 21, 2024·19m
  124. 124

    The Crucial Role of Perfectionism Coaching for Women in Leadership

    Jul 13, 2024·15m
  125. 125

    How Proving Yourself is Career Poison (+ the Cure for Unrivaled Growth)

    Jul 10, 2024·9m
  126. 126

    The REAL Reason Your Inner Critic Won't Shut Up

    Jul 5, 2024·19m
  127. 127

    Feeling Clenchy? Fascinating Connection Btwn Your Pelvic Floor + Perfectionism

    Jun 27, 2024·19m
  128. 128

    How to Prevent Passing Anxiety on to Your Kids

    Jun 23, 2024·16m
  129. 129

    Fascia: The Missing Puzzle Piece for Perfectionists

    Jun 20, 2024·12m
  130. 130

    The Most Important De-Stress Skill for Perfectionists

    Jun 15, 2024·12m
  131. 131

    From Pushing Through To Presence (lessons from perfectionist architect)

    Jun 13, 2024·12m
  132. 132

    On Vacation, Can't Relax

    Jun 12, 2024·10m
  133. 133

    The Secret Solution to Removing OVERWHELM Revealed

    Jun 11, 2024·12m
  134. 134

    Upgrade Compartmentalize for Confidence

    Jun 6, 2024·8m
  135. 135

    How to Harmonize Striving For Excellence w/ A High-Stakes Career

    May 11, 2024·9m
  136. 136

    "I Should Know This" Lies We Tell Ourselves in Rumination

    May 3, 2024·8m
  137. 137

    Perfectionism is the New ADHD

    Apr 27, 2024·8m
  138. 138

    Unlearning Learned Helplessness

    Apr 22, 2024·19m
  139. 139

    How To Let Go Of Resentment (w/o Exploding On Your Partner)

    Apr 17, 2024·15m
  140. 140

    High Performance ANXIOUS: Building Resilience + Calming Internal Chaos

    Apr 10, 2024·10m
  141. 141

    Recovering Perfectionist vs REWIRED Perfectionist (lessons from Perfectionist CEO)

    This episode explores the hidden benefits of perfectionism and how to harness it for fulfillment instead of burnout.

    Apr 3, 2024·22m
  142. 142

    6 Self-Sabotaging Patterns Perfectionists Unknowingly Nurture

    Mar 29, 2024·11m
  143. 143

    Self Critic Screams: What Your Body Is Dying To Tell You

    Mar 26, 2024·12m
  144. 144

    Why Am I So Hard On Myself

    This episode explains how to break free from self-criticism and perfectionism by changing one key behavior.

    Mar 18, 2024·21m
  145. 145

    Self-Criticism Won’t Quit? Confidently Shut.It.Down

    Mar 15, 2024·20m
  146. 146

    The Surprising Relief of RAISING Your Standards

    Mar 14, 2024·16m
  147. 147

    Never Good Enough...Ends Now

    Mar 12, 2024·13m
  148. 148

    Catastrophize. Ruminate. Overthink. People Pleaser: Upgrading Your Tools

    Mar 5, 2024·25m
  149. 149

    If I'm Not Judgmental..how do I know i'm right?

    Feb 23, 2024·17m
  150. 150

    Perfectionism in Relationships: Resentment

    Feb 21, 2024·18m