Allie Treen
34 episodes listed below
Trauma recovery, talked through in real time.
Not to Make This About Me But... treats recovery as something messy, practical, and still worth naming clearly. Allie Treen works through narcissistic abuse, coercive control, gray rocking, embodiment, self-love, and self-advocacy with a conversational style that makes heavy material feel close to daily life.
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Not to Make This About Me But... is a trauma recovery podcast built around narcissism, coercive control, and the strange discomfort of learning to advocate for oneself after long periods of adaptation. It is direct, personal, and restless in its thinking. Allie Treen often starts from whatever is immediately in the room: a hard week, a work situation, a live running in the background, a meditation retreat, a body-health tangent, or the small embarrassment of trying a new format. Then the episode gradually finds its way into the deeper pattern. The result is a show where ordinary moments become evidence. A workplace contract change becomes a question about whether speaking for the team is actually meeting one's own needs. A discussion of gray rocking becomes less about managing another person's reaction and more about refusing to hand over vulnerable material to someone likely to weaponize it. A term like suicidal empathy is treated carefully, as a way to describe compassion that overrides logic, self-protection, and reality-checking in coercive dynamics. Shorter tools sit beside bigger themes. Self-love is not framed as a slogan; it is tied to the slow repair of identity, emotion, and self-trust. Embodiment gets handled through the body as it is actually experienced: shoulders braced, the mind overthinking, the nervous system waiting for the next argument. The show can be funny, but it does not soften the harm it is describing. Melissa's guest story about a hostile neighbor gives the series a more narrative register, with screenshots, property stress, tenants, and escalating behavior turning abstract abuse dynamics into something concrete and exhausting. Earlier episodes with Allison have more back-and-forth, using casual banter and personal updates before moving toward diagnostic criteria, retreat reflections, and trauma memories. Across formats, the core appeal stays consistent. This is recovery talk for people who want language they can use in real conversations, not a glossy wellness script. It is especially strong when it distinguishes empathy from self-erasure, boundaries from punishment, and self-advocacy from creating more chaos.
Made for: For listeners recovering from narcissistic abuse, coercive control, CPTSD patterns, or relationships where empathy became a trap. It also suits people who want practical recovery language without clinical distance.
What sets it apart: The show turns messy personal processing into usable distinctions about boundaries, gray rocking, embodiment, and self-advocacy. Its strength is the movement from everyday anecdotes to trauma frameworks without sanding off the emotion.
Join host Allie as she explores her experiences with narcissism & coercive control, using laughter, learning, and self connection to prove that trauma recovery is possible.Allie is also a somatic coach at Glimmer & Bloom Somatic Coaching.Head over to practicalsomatic.com if you'd like support beyond the podcast.Head to the podcast page for more information about the podcast and other resources.
Based on 5 episodes we listened to · September 2026
Allie Treen makes coercive dynamics legible by connecting boundaries and self-advocacy to the small decisions recovery requires.
Allie Treen turns recovery from narcissism and coercive control into a conversation about everyday choices: what to disclose, how to advocate for yourself, and when empathy becomes self-erasure.
Allie Treen turns gray-rocking from reaction management into a way to protect your own energy.
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A plainspoken reminder that self-advocacy works better when it stays direct and measured.
This episode is about the awkward, necessary work of speaking up without turning a real problem into a bigger one. The speaker contrasts an earlier habit of carrying a whole team's frustration into the room with a more direct ask that stays on her own needs.
A grounded look at how coercive control turns daily life into documentation and damage control.
Melissa's account offers a grounded look at narcissism and coercive control, showing how they drain time, attention, and confidence until ordinary life becomes a cycle of evidence gathering and damage control.
A body-aware conversation about recovery and self-love.
This episode treats embodiment and self-love as practical tools for survivors of narcissistic abuse or coercive control. Allie Treen starts with a personal update, then moves into a plainspoken definition of embodiment and the way trauma can leave someone braced through the day,…
A clear, grounded episode on how empathy can become costly inside coercive or narcissistic control.
Allie Treen frames the episode around suicidal empathy: the point where care stops helping and starts pulling someone deeper into a harmful relationship.
A practical, unsentimental look at gray rocking and the cost of using it.
This episode treats gray rocking as a plain, workable way to protect yourself: stay neutral, say less, and stop making someone else's reaction the center of the exchange. Allie Treen folds in a quick look at New Year's resolutions too, and that turn keeps the point grounded.
Jonquilyn Hill chases one listener question per episode to the experts who can answer it.
Three hosts and psychologist Dr Emily talk vulnerability, therapy, and imperfection with guests.
Fearne Cotton interviews guests like Boy George and Bryony Gordon about mental health and identity.
Dr. Joy Harden Bradford pairs therapy insight with Black TV recaps, maternal health, and history.
The host opens by noting this is an old episode recorded in July 2024 and shared later.
Allie Treen brings Melissa on as the podcast's first guest.
Allie Treen opens with a quick personal check-in and notes that she is also live on TikTok.
A survivor and somatic coach discusses the effects of narcissistic abuse, including PTSD, and shares strategies for healing.
On Not to Make This About Me But..., Allie Treen explains “suicidal empathy,” a term she attributes to Dr.
Allie Treen opens by circling back to New Year’s resolutions.
Allie and Allison discuss the final three criteria of narcissistic personality disorder from the DSM-IV.
Allie and Allison discuss the positive aspects of a meditation retreat and the importance of incorporating silence and meditation into daily life.
The hosts of a podcast about narcissism and coercive control take a break from their usual format to chat about their lives, plans for 2024, and the healing power of laughter.
Allie and Allison discuss the first three criteria of narcissistic personality disorder based on the DSM-4, sharing personal insights and experiences related to coercive control.
Two friends with psychology backgrounds introduce a podcast about narcissism and coercive control, sharing their different experiences and plans to discuss therapy and academic insights.