How to Age Up

The Atlantic

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The Atlantic's family-and-community interview franchise, from adult estrangement to midlife reinvention.

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How to Age Up treats aging as more than bodies or decline. Through patient interviews, it follows the practical and emotional questions that surface in marriage, singlehood, parent-child conflict, career reinvention, home, neighbors, and play.

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About How to Age Up

How to Age Up is produced by The Atlantic and draws episodes from the network's family- and relationship-focused 'How To' interview franchise rather than running as a single fixed format. Most episodes are structured as a conversation between an Atlantic host or producer and one or two expert guests, sometimes supplemented by a first-person account from a non-expert subject. Recurring hosts include Olga Hazan and producer Rebecca Rashid on 'How to Start Over,' Julie Beck on 'How to Talk to People,' and Julie Subrin, credited as host of 'How to Age Up' itself; one crossover episode features Radio Atlantic host Hanna Rosen. Guests are drawn from academia and clinical practice: sociologist Eric Klinenberg discusses social infrastructure and loneliness, psychologist Joshua Coleman presents survey research on adult-child estrangement, economist Hannes Schwandt explains the U-shaped midlife life-satisfaction curve, historian Kelly Carter Jackson discusses church-based community care, and psychologist Adam Mastriani covers the illusion of moral decline. Recurring themes include family estrangement and boundary-setting, midlife career reinvention, the physical and institutional infrastructure that enables or blocks community, and the cognitive biases behind nostalgia for a supposedly kinder past. Several episodes braid a researcher's study data together with a guest's personal narrative, such as an immigrant novelist's delayed career pivot or an adoptee's account of estrangement from evangelical parents. The show leans on named studies rather than general advice -- a 1,600-parent estrangement survey, a 1995 Chicago heat wave mortality study, cross-national solo-living data. Some entries in the feed are labeled 'Best of' reruns of earlier installments from these Atlantic series. Listeners interested in family dynamics, aging, midlife transitions, and the sociology of everyday relationships are the core audience, and production stays interview-driven with light narrative framing rather than solo monologue or debate-panel format.

Made for: Adults navigating family estrangement, midlife career shifts, or loneliness who want research-grounded, interview-format perspectives from academics and clinicians.

What sets it apart: Rather than one fixed host and format, it aggregates interview episodes across several of The Atlantic's 'How To' series, consistently pairing named academic studies with a guest's personal narrative.

In their own words

The science around aging is expanding but are our cultural narratives keeping up?

As heard by us

Based on 6 episodes we listened to · September 2026

How to Age Up connects adult turning points to the relationships, resources, and social expectations that make change possible or difficult.

How to Age Up turns ordinary adult dilemmas into careful conversations about how people change without leaving their relationships and responsibilities behind.

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When Can a Marriage Be Saved?Jun 20, 2022

A dry, clear-eyed look at the small fights that shape a marriage.

The episode treats marriage as a chain of small negotiations: recycling fights, irritating sounds, and the odd way a partner's flaws can feel newly sharp after years of familiarity.

When Partnership Is Not the DestinationJun 13, 2022

A calm, unsentimental look at single life and the pressure to treat coupling as the default.

Olga Hazan and Rebecca Rashid treat singlehood as more than a personal choice; they frame it as a social story that still teaches people to fear being alone.

How to Start Over: 'Parents Are Not All Good and All Bad'Jun 6, 2022

A measured look at family stalemates, boundaries, and the possibility of repair.

This episode treats family conflict as a stalemate that can linger into adulthood, especially when parents and adult children carry different ideas about what the relationship should look like.

How to Start Over: When You Think It's Too LateMay 30, 2022

A grounded look at reinvention when practical limits shape what change can actually look like.

The episode treats midlife career change as less of a dramatic leap than a series of hard choices. Olga Hazan keeps the focus on the parts people usually skim past: kids, spouses, money, and the simple fact that time does not wait.

How to Talk to People: ‘Everyone Used to be Nicer,’ And Other Persistent Myths

A thoughtful look at why the past can seem kinder than the present.

The episode starts with a childhood memory of a kinder, more neighborly world, then gently complicates that feeling by asking how reliable the memory really is.

How to Talk to People: The Infrastructure of Community

A quiet argument that community is shaped by design, not by accident.

How to Talk to People uses a small cafe story to make a plain point: public space shapes how willing people are to talk to one another. Julie Beck and Becca Rashid move from that moment to libraries, pools, drive-thrus, and the habits that let people stay sealed off from each…

Best of “How To”: The Infrastructure of Community

A calm case for designing life around connection.

The episode treats community as a design problem: what kinds of places make it easier to slow down, notice other people, and stay present long enough for connection to happen?

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  1. 1

    How to Know What's Real: How to Know What’s Really Propaganda

    This episode explores the nature of propaganda, tracing its historical roots in wartime posters and advertising tactics while examining how emotional appeals and charged language make it effective across different platforms.

    ·24m
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    Best of “How To”: Waste Time

    This episode explores the concept of wasting time as a counter to productivity-obsessed culture, featuring hosts Ian Bogost and Becca Rashid discussing personal experiences with anxiety and the pressure to use time efficiently.

    ·35m
  3. 3

    Best of “How To”: Make Small Talk

    This episode explores how to make small talk by discussing social anxiety and practical tips from experts and socially anxious individuals, using a haircut scenario as an example.

    ·39m
  4. 4

    How to Define Old Age

    This episode explores how people define and experience old age through personal voicemail stories, revealing patterns of both positive reframing and anxieties about aging.

    ·31m
  5. 5

    Best of “How To”: Identify What You Enjoy

    This episode explores how to identify what brings joy in life, featuring insights from a Harvard professor and psychotherapist on applying happiness science.

    ·43m
  6. 6

    Best of “How To”: Spend Time on What You Value

    This episode explores how to identify and prioritize what truly matters in life to make better use of time and increase happiness.

    ·35m
  7. 7

    How to Know What's Real: How to Keep Watch

    The hosts discuss the transition from comforting to unsettling feelings about guardian angels and technology alerts, exploring themes of surveillance and judgment in modern life.

    ·28m
  8. 8

    How to Know What's Real: How to Live in a Digital City

    This episode explores how digital environments and urban infrastructure shape social interactions and cultural norms, comparing walkable cities to car-dominated ones and examining online versus offline relationships.

    ·28m
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    How to Keep Time: Can We Keep Time?

    This episode explores how people preserve memories through time capsules and modern apps like BeReal, comparing historical practices with contemporary digital methods.

    ·42m
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    How to Keep Time: How to Waste Time

    The hosts discuss how technology has changed our relationship with time, using a personal anecdote about waiting at a bus stop to explore anxiety and productivity in modern life.

    ·35m
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    How to Talk to People: What Do We Owe Our Friends?

    This episode explores the common issue of flaking in friendships and how unspoken expectations can lead to conflicts, emphasizing the need for better communication.

    ·35m
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    How to Spend Time on What You Value

    This episode explores how people would use an extra hour in their day, contrasting personal desires with practical advice on aligning time with values for a happier life.

    ·33m
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    The Complexities of Human Love

    This episode explores the tension between using technology like dating apps to find love and the emotional complexity of human relationships, with insights from Harvard professor Arthur Brooks.

    ·28m
  14. 14

    How to Forgive Ourselves for What We Can’t Change

    This episode explores the psychology of regret, how it can drive personal change, and strategies for self-forgiveness and moving forward in life.

    ·32m
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    Best of “How To”: Rest

    This episode explores the concept of rest, its impact on creativity, and how understanding its benefits can help people rest better, drawing from historical and personal perspectives.

    ·35m
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    How to Keep Time: Time Tips From the Universe

    The hosts discuss personal experiences with time perception, including disorientation from naps and jet lag, and how factors like fatigue or caffeine affect their sense of time.

    ·36m
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    Introducing: How to Age Up

    This episode explores modern perspectives on aging, contrasting historical attitudes with today's age-obsessed culture and discussing how people are redefining aging through community and lifestyle.

    ·3m
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    How to Know What's Real: How to be Immortal Online

    This episode explores how Ouija boards work through the idiometer effect and uses this as a metaphor for understanding reality and the internet.

    ·37m
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    How to Know What's Real: How to Win at Real Life

    The hosts discuss childhood games like Monopoly and Twister, reflecting on nostalgia, design evolution, and the timeless human desire for play.

    ·32m
  20. 20

    How To Build a Happy Life: A New Formula for Happiness

    A personal story about realizing childhood dreams of becoming a professional French horn player weren't working out and the difficult transition to finding a new path in life.

    ·29m
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    How to Keep Time: How to Rest

    This episode explores the concept of rest beyond just sleep, examining its historical and cultural significance in Western civilization, particularly through the biblical Sabbath, and discusses modern challenges with achieving quality rest.

    ·35m
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    How to Know What's Real: How to Trust Your Brain Online

    This episode explores how people develop and share false beliefs, using examples like the myth that picking Texas bluebonnets is illegal and the Mandela effect, to discuss trusting one's brain in an online world.

    ·33m
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    The Right Choices in Parenting

    This episode uses the famous 'Gorillas in Our Midst' psychology experiment as a metaphor to explain how parents can become so focused on trivial tasks that they miss important aspects of their children's development.

    ·37m
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    How to Keep Time: How to Leave Work Time at Work

    The hosts discuss the challenge of mentally separating from work after hours, using a personal story about observing a colleague who effortlessly transitions to leisure time.

    ·25m
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    How to Age Up on a Warming Planet

    Two Atlantic staff members discuss how climate change and societal instability affect generational perspectives on aging, future planning, and dream jobs.

    ·41m
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    How to Defy Death

    This episode explores the fear of death and the desire for a long, healthy life, featuring a discussion on aging and longevity from a science and culture perspective.

    ·40m
  27. 27

    How to Know What's Real: How to Know Who’s Real

    This episode explores the nature of reality through a personal story about an imaginary friend named Barfie, discussing false memories, childhood loneliness, and the human need for connection.

    ·29m
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    Introducing Holy Week

    This episode introduces the podcast 'Holy Week', which explores the assassination of Martin Luther King Jr.

    ·8m
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    Trailer: How to Talk to People

    This trailer explores the challenges of building meaningful relationships and community in modern society, highlighting how social norms and individualism make it difficult to connect with others.

    ·3m
  30. 30

    How to Talk to People: How to Make Small Talk

    This episode explores the challenges of small talk and social interactions, featuring insights from experts on communication and relationships.

    ·38m
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    Subtraction as a Solution

    This episode explores how the COVID-19 pandemic led people to simplify social interactions and prioritize meaningful connections over complex activities.

    ·25m
  32. 32

    How to Keep Time: How to Look Busy

    The hosts explore why people claim to be excessively busy with non-work activities like shopping at Crate and Barrel, questioning modern busyness culture and introducing the concept of action addiction.

    ·38m
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    How to Age Up Together

    Two Atlantic staffers from different generations discuss their overlapping cultural identities and personal traits in a lighthearted exploration of generational differences.

    ·37m
  34. 34

    How to Fuel Up

    Two Atlantic staffers discuss recent food trends like cottage cheese protein dips and seed oil fears, examining the hype versus scientific evidence.

    ·37m
  35. 35

    How to Wish You Were 66 Instead of 35

    The hosts reflect on societal expectations about having life figured out by certain ages and share personal experiences of realizing that everyone is constantly figuring things out regardless of age.

    ·39m
  36. 36

    How to Talk to People: How to Not Go It Alone

    This episode explores how to transform everyday conversations into meaningful connections by moving beyond small talk to achieve deeper understanding of others.

    ·39m
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    When Virtues Become Vices

    This episode explores how people knowingly sacrifice happiness for addictive behaviors, using a personal story about an alcoholic roommate to examine broader patterns of self-sabotage.

    ·32m
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    How to Talk to People: How to Know Your Neighbors

    This episode explores the challenges of getting to know neighbors in modern urban settings, featuring personal anecdotes and expert insights on overcoming social barriers to build community connections.

    ·30m
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    How To Season 3: When Expectations Don’t Meet Reality

    This episode explores why people's expectations for happiness, often tied to work or other singular pursuits, frequently clash with reality and how this impacts their well-being.

    ·3m
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    How to Talk to People: What Makes a House a Home

    This episode explores the dynamics and misconceptions of two couples sharing a home through an interview with the residents.

    ·40m
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    The Misgivings of Friend-Making

    This episode explores the challenges of making and maintaining friendships as an adult, featuring expert insights and scientific perspectives on overcoming common social hurdles.

    ·39m
  42. 42

    Best of “How To”: The Infrastructure of Community

    Community needs more than good intentions.

    ·42m·3 clips
  43. 43

    How to Talk to People: The Infrastructure of Community

    Efficiency is the background problem here.

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    How to Talk to People: ‘Everyone Used to be Nicer,’ And Other Persistent Myths

    The memory is sweet, and a little suspicious.

    ·28m·1 clip
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    What It Takes to Reclaim Your Attention Span

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    Why Learn Something That a Machine Can Do for You?

    Aug 17, 2026·33m
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    The Internet Is More Image-Focused Than Ever

    Aug 10, 2026·37m
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    How AI Could Make People More Anxious

    Aug 3, 2026·29m
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    The Power of Pre-Internet Nostalgia

    Jul 27, 2026·37m
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    Introducing How To Touch Grass

    Jul 6, 2026·2m
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    Introducing: How to Know What's Real

    Apr 22, 2024·2m
  52. 52

    Introducing: How to Keep Time

    Nov 6, 2023·2m
  53. 53

    When Can a Marriage Be Saved?

    Marriage gets examined close to home.

    Jun 20, 2022·41m·3 clips
  54. 54

    When Partnership Is Not the Destination

    Singlehood gets treated like a warning sign.

    Jun 13, 2022·32m·2 clips
  55. 55

    How to Start Over: 'Parents Are Not All Good and All Bad'

    Olga Hazan and producer Rebecca Rashid of The Atlantic's How to Start Over examine why adult family conflicts reach a stalemate, interviewing Dr.

    Jun 6, 2022·29m·2 clips
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    How to Start Over: When You Think It's Too Late

    Olga Hazan and producer Rebecca Rashid explore midlife career changes through two guests: Angie Kim, whose bestselling novel Miracle Creek was her fifth career after law, consulting, and a dot-com startup — a path she did not begin until her 40s.

    May 30, 2022·33m·2 clips
  57. 57

    Introducing: How To Start Over

    May 9, 2022·3m
  58. 58

    How to Identify What You Enjoy

    Nov 23, 2021·42m
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    How to Live When You’re In Pain

    Nov 9, 2021·50m
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    How to Find the Secret to Meaningful Work

    Nov 2, 2021·41m
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    How to Know That You Know Nothing

    Oct 26, 2021·38m
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    How Not to Be Your Own Worst Enemy

    Oct 19, 2021·35m
  63. 63

    How to Know You're Lonely

    Oct 12, 2021·41m
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    How to Be Self-Aware

    Oct 5, 2021·37m
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    Introducing: How to Build a Happy Life

    Sep 22, 2021·2m