Brian Janes and Mark Dembo
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Coming Inside OUT is a heartfelt podcast where hosts Brian Janes and Mark Dembo create a safe space for gay fathers, men coming out later in life, and anyone exploring their identity within the LGBTQ+ community. Through candid conversations they explore the emotional journey of self-discovery, relationships, and the power of living authentically.Each episode dives into real stories of courage, healing, and connection—covering topics like mental health, therapy, mixed-orientation marriages, dating, fatherhood, and community support. Whether it’s navigating guilt and shame, celebrating Pride, or confronting societal challenges, Brian and Mark remind listeners that no one walks this path...
Based on 6 episodes we listened to · September 2026
Brian Jaynes and Mark Dembo make later-life coming out legible through candid accounts of fatherhood, fear, dating, and changing family relationships.
Coming Inside OUT keeps returning to a difficult question: what happens when coming out intersects with an established marriage, children, and a life built around other people's expectations?
A coming-out TikTok reaches a son's school; you want honesty that includes the kid's side.
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A steady, honest talk about coming out, family strain, and learning to trust your own judgment.
Mark Dembo and Rick Clemens spend the episode sitting with what comes after coming out: the strain on family ties, the distance it can create with friends, and the way work and other people's opinions can weigh on a person. The talk stays plain and grounded. That helps.
A plainspoken holiday conversation about family pressure, presence, and community support.
The episode stays with holiday family time, the effort to remain present, and the strain of sorting through old feelings when a gathering grows emotionally crowded.
A gay fathers night out turns into a clear-eyed look at visibility, grief, and community.
Brian and Mark use a gay fathers group dinner as a doorway into visibility, self-consciousness, and the odd pressure of moving through the world as a visibly gay man.
A candid look at what comes after coming out.
The episode focuses on what follows coming out, with attention on the emotional aftershock of disclosure and the relief that can come from no longer hiding.
A candid gay-dad conversation that makes room for pressure, pride, and community.
Coming Inside OUT opens with a plainspoken check-in between Mark Dembo and Brian Jaynes, then broadens into a talk about external pressure and the work of understanding sexuality all at once.
A candid gay-men's conversation that treats authenticity as practical rather than performative.
This conversation comes across as candid and generous, with authenticity, courage, and less apology at its center. Mark Dembo and Brian Jaynes introduce Rick Clemens, then keep the focus on his long-running message of no excuses, no fears, no apologies.
Clear advice on rejection, consent, and cruising-space boundaries.
Brian Jaynes and Mark Dembo keep the focus on plain, usable advice. They talk through dating-app rejection, consent, and the small courtesy of saying a match is not there without turning it into a long speech.
A candid conversation about coming out, hypervigilance, and the tension between safety and intimacy.
Dr. Joe Kort joins Brian Jaynes and Mark Dembo for a candid conversation about coming out, the shame and hypervigilance that can follow suppressed sexuality, and the way those patterns can echo into adult relationships.
Queer stereotypes, sharpened and set loose.
Queer pop culture, loudly and lovingly overread.
Quick hits with working entertainers.
Brian Jaynes and Mark Dembo open Coming Inside Out with Pride Month, a delayed recording, and a June 1 release tied to current LGBTQ+ politics.
Brian Jaynes and Mark Dembo return after a summer hiatus to talk about gay dating, app culture, and the question “when did you know you were gay?” The episode moves from a TikTok story about Superman and same-sex attraction to Brian’s own childhood memories of lifeguards in Speedos and Bobby Ewing from Dallas.
Brian Jaynes and Mark Dembo keep part two moving with the gay sex coach.
Mark Dembo and Brian Jaynes open by talking about gratitude, coming out later in life, and the relief of being met with love rather than rejection.
Mark Dembo and Brian James open the 50th episode of Coming Inside Out by reflecting on podcast glitches, the show’s May 2024 launch, and the first time the video and audio cut off mid-episode.
Mark Dembo and Brian Janes open with Mark’s trip to Montreal Pride, a tea dance at the Olympic Stadium, and a reunion with other gay fathers and friends from Los Angeles.
Host Brian Jaynes reflects on his podcast's origins stemming from his own coming-out journey as a gay father, discusses recent corporate rollbacks of DEI policies affecting LGBTQ employees and other marginalized groups, and explores ethical consumption dilemmas around boycotting companies with anti-LGBTQ stances.
Hosts Brian and Mark discuss the challenges facing LGBTQ individuals in today's divisive political climate, focusing on issues like Log Cabin Republicans, culture wars, and media misinformation.
In this episode, hosts Brian Janes and Mark Dembo discuss Mark's journey of coming out as gay later in life, including his marriage, therapy, and the emotional process of telling his wife.
Mark Dembo and Brian Jaynes open the door for Rick Clemens.
Mark Dembo and Brian Jaynes open with a familiar check in before moving into a listener question about first Pride and what it feels like to be around other queer people.
A movie night opens the conversation.
Brian James welcomes Mark Dimbo as the show’s new co-host.
Brian Jaynes and Mark Dembo answer a reader's question about whether attraction to men can just be a phase or a passing stretch of curiosity.
Mark Dembo and Brian Janes start with easy banter, then move into coming out, gay men, and the relief of finally saying the hard thing out loud.
Brian Jaynes and Mark Dembo kick off Season 3 with a warm, low-key return.
Mark Dembo opens by saying the show has been on hiatus.
Mark and Brian open by catching up after a few weeks away from the mic.
Brian and Mark return after a busy stretch.
Mark Dembo and Brian Jaynes open the conversation with their usual easy welcome.
Mark and Brian start with the weather, then drift into a January conversation about what still needs saying.
Brian Jaynes and Mark Dembo welcome Dr.
Mark and Brian unpack the intensity and confusion that can come with coming out later in life.
Brian James and Mark Dembo open with Brian moving into a new apartment and facing what it means to live alone for the first time in more than 30 years.
Mark Dembo and Brian Jaynes spend much of Ep.