A grounded pastoral guide to sharing a friend group with an ex after a breakup.
JP, Kathy, and Nate treat the question of whether an ex can stay in the same friend group as a matter of boundaries, consequences, and service, not lingering romance.

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Fast talk, real questions, biblical counsel.
Becoming Something with Jonathan Pokluda is a conversational Christian advice show built around the pressures of young adulthood. JP, Nate, Kathy, and featured guests move from jokes and studio teasing into scripture-shaped guidance on relationships, news, mental health, faith, and calling.
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Becoming Something with Jonathan Pokluda is a Christian conversation show for young adults who want practical counsel without a formal pulpit tone. The energy is immediate. JP, Nate, and Kathy trade jokes, interrupt each other, and let the room feel genuinely unscripted before steering toward a real question. That looseness is part of the appeal. A segment may begin with a bit about Nate rapping, Disney World, news anchors, boots, or a lost wedding ring, then turn into a serious reflection on anxiety, dating, friendship, church life, or spiritual discernment. The show’s Christian center is clear even when the opening minutes are chaotic. It assumes choices matter. A breakup is not just awkward social math; it becomes a chance to consider love, liberty, and serving another person well. A crowded mental-health conversation becomes an opportunity to bring spiritual language and psychological help into the same frame. A conversation about news is treated as something that shapes the heart, not just the feed. Scripture is not decorative here. Proverbs 4, Romans 12, John’s letters, and broader biblical categories are used to pressure-test ordinary decisions. The show also benefits from guests who broaden the table. Shannon Bream, David Nasser, Jon Passavant, Jennie Allen, Preston Sprinkle, Jason Woodruff, and Craig Groeschel appear across recent episodes, giving the panel outside voices for impossible-looking moments, revival, faithfulness, lies people believe, church roles, news habits, and mental health. The best moments come from the swing between ridiculous and earnest. One minute someone is roasting a replacement voice idea; the next, the group is trying to make a hard Christian ethic feel possible in everyday friendships. That rhythm keeps the counsel approachable. It also keeps the show from sounding like a lecture. Becoming Something is most useful for listeners who already want a biblical framework but need help applying it to the messy middle of adult life. It is warm, quick, and sometimes blunt. Under the joking is a steady question: what kind of person is this decision forming?
Made for: Young Christian adults in their 20s and 30s who want practical guidance for relationships, mental health, faith, media habits, and church questions. It especially suits listeners who like panel chemistry more than polished monologues.
What sets it apart: The show blends loose studio banter with direct biblical application, moving quickly from jokes to scripture-informed counsel. Its strength is making ordinary dilemmas feel spiritually serious without making the conversation stiff.
We’re all becoming something. What are you becoming? It's our goal for you to intentionally become the person God has called you to be. We'll release an episode each week with answers to real questions that college students and young adults are asking us. Listen in as Jonathan Pokluda, Nate Hilgenkamp, and Kathy Davidson help you navigate life in your 20's and 30's!
Based on 6 episodes we listened to · September 2026
Christian teaching meets the awkward particulars of dating, friendship, prayer, and mental health in candid, practical conversation.
Jonathan Pokluda, Nate Hilgenkamp, and Kathy Davidson treat Christian formation as something worked out in dating, friendship, prayer, and emotional strain.
The ex is still in your friend group; JP brings scripture and a plan for the awkward conversation.
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A grounded pastoral guide to sharing a friend group with an ex after a breakup.
JP, Kathy, and Nate treat the question of whether an ex can stay in the same friend group as a matter of boundaries, consequences, and service, not lingering romance.
A Christian conversation about anxiety, the brain, and the help that can lower a ladder into the pit.
The episode gives Christian language to anxiety and a hurting mind, beginning with the host's own shift from teaching about worry to recognizing anxiety in his life.
A pastoral challenge to dating expectations, centered on the gap between butterflies and lasting love.
Modern dating gets a skeptical but pastoral reading here, as the host pushes back on romance built around ease, fantasy, and the chase for constant butterflies.
A warm, practical conversation about praying for a future husband without reducing singleness to a waiting room.
Preparing for marriage becomes a grounded conversation about prayer when the future is hard to read. JP and Christian return to disappointment honestly, holding together the desire to ask God for what is wanted and the harder work of staying open to faithfulness in the waiting.
A Russia mission story turns hearing God's voice into a grounded reflection on spiritual intimacy.
Hearing God's voice is framed here less as a chase for dramatic signals and more as a matter of spiritual closeness. JP, KD, and Grant Trout ease in with loose studio banter about Nate being away, kids, and replacement cohosts before the conversation turns to a mission trip in…
A direct Christian case for friendships strong enough to carry unequal weight.
JP, Kathy Davidson and Nate Hilgenkamp frame friendship as more than a fair exchange. Using the Gospel story of friends carrying a man on a mat, taking him to a roof and lowering him toward Jesus, they ask whether Christian friendship can survive seasons when one person gives 90…

Armenia-centered analysis for a volatile region.





Jonathan Pokluda, Nate Hilgenkamp, and Kathy Davidson answer a listener question from Kayla about maintaining godly friendships amid busy lives.
JP, Nate, and Kathy discuss the concept of giving others the benefit of the doubt with guest Craig Groeschel.
The hosts introduce guest Madi Prewett Troutt and discuss her new book 'Dare to Be True' with personal anecdotes.
Grant Trout joins hosts Jonathan Pokluda and Kathy Davidson to explore how to discern God's voice amid modern anxieties like OCD.
A new father named Noah, whose daughter is 36 hours old, calls in asking how to avoid living in fear for his baby.
Shannon Bream joins the Becoming Something hosts for a lighthearted interview about her career and potential news anchor role.
In Becoming Something episode 366, Jonathan Pokluda interviews David Nassar, who describes fleeing Iran at age nine after the 1979 revolution and later becoming a Christian speaker.
Jonathan Pokluda interviews Jon Passavant, a former top male model who appeared in Times Square billboards and on Men's Health covers, on staying faithful while working in fashion.
Jennie Allen discusses a common but unrecognized lie that many people believe, and how it impacts their faith and life.
An interview with theologian Preston Sprinkle about gender roles in the church.
A conversation about how to handle news and media consumption with a focus on maintaining mental health and faith.
Rebecca calls in to ask whether friendship with an ex can be done righteously, how it affects a future spouse, and whether the answer changes with emotional capacity and the way a relationship ended.
Craig Groeschel and Jonathan Pokluda spend much of this episode on mental health, burnout, and how anxiety changes the way people think about help.
JP says “your feelings will mislead you” and argues that love should start with character, not butterflies.
Christian Bevere says prayer for a future spouse is about surrender, not getting a “genie in the bottle.”
JP and Nate interview John Bevere about discovering and living out your God-given calling.
JP and Nate introduce the episode with banter about a warm Diet Coke and discuss the podcast's mission to help young adults become who God desires them to be.