Gay midlife, spoken plainly.
40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk. treats midlife gay experience as something messy, funny, physical, and unfinished. Rick Clemens steers frank conversations on relationships, sex, body image, illness, and the pressure to perform confidence.
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40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk. is a short-format conversation show about gay life after the easy myths have worn off. Its recurring question is simple: what happens when a man over 40 stops performing and starts telling the truth? Rick Clemens brings a direct, teasing, sometimes bracing tone to subjects that can feel loaded even among friends. Body shame gets airtime. So do sex, desire, aging, loneliness, dating frustration, debt anxiety, relationship patterns, grief, illness, and the fear of not belonging. The show can be funny and blunt. It can also sit still when the topic requires it. Episodes move from pretty privilege in gay spaces to death awareness, naked yoga, cancer treatment, prostate health, and the need for safer forms of presence. Guests widen the lens without turning the show academic. Mike Elliott talks about relationships as mirrors. Rich Burns connects gay aging to the online series The Disappointments. Kit Roughhouse brings male-to-male erotica into a conversation about reinvention and honest desire. Devin Scott speaks to belonging, safety, perfectionism, and the body. Dallas Oliver shares a cancer journey and the role of support. Dr. Arthur L. Burnett II appears in a prostate cancer conversation that makes prevention and survival feel personal rather than abstract. The show’s strongest moments come when humor and vulnerability occupy the same room. It does not pretend that coming out, getting older, or finding love automatically fixes anything. Instead, it keeps asking what men do next, especially when confidence, health, sexuality, or community feel less secure than they expected. For listeners who want polished lifestyle advice, it may feel too raw. For gay men who recognize the private panic beneath a competent exterior, that rawness is the point. 40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk. offers a candid place to hear midlife treated as unfinished business, not decline.
Made for: This show is for gay men over 40 who want candid conversation about aging, sex, health, relationships, body image, and belonging. It also suits listeners interested in LGBTQ midlife without sanitized self-help polish.
What sets it apart: The show blends blunt humor with vulnerable, practical conversations about subjects men often dodge. It treats gay aging as physical, emotional, sexual, social, and still very much in motion.
Welcome to the only podcast exploring the messiness, awesomeness, of masculinity of being a gay man over 40. Each episode is about sparking idea, addressing challenges, and diving deep into what it looks like to be a vulnerable gay guy. We talk about the stuff us gay guys have a hard time talking about, man-to-man: masculinity, sex, careers, our bodies, parenting, sexuality, failures, success, and aging, relationships, coming out - nothing is off limits. 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk is the revamped version of 40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk podcast and is a short format podcast that's easy to digest. We take deep dives - one topic at a time - digging up the truth of what it’s like to be a gay man,…
Based on 6 episodes we listened to · September 2026
Rick Clemens makes aging, illness, body image, and private shame discussable through candid interviews, solo reflection, humor, and practical questions.
Rick Clemens turns questions gay men can find difficult to say aloud into direct interviews and solo reflection. Across conversations about belonging, mortality, serious illness, eating-disorder recovery, and appearance, 40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.
Rick Clemens gets from prostate fears to pretty privilege without asking you to pretend either is trivial.
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Rick Clemens considers how envy and objectification shape the way gay men see one another.
Rick Clemens starts with a familiar comparison: another man's hair, abs, legs or smile can make someone feel lacking. In this solo episode of 40 Plus Gay Men Gay Talk, he admits to envying men with wavy hair.
Rick Clemens and Devin approach belonging through coffee, music, and small moments of attention.
Belonging can feel like a test when every moment becomes a chance to measure yourself. Rick Clemens and Devin talk about that pressure through things a listener can actually try: music without multitasking, coffee without the news, a breath or a pause in a familiar routine.
Dallas recalls his cancer diagnosis, the quick move into care and Roy Sobel's support.
Dallas remembers the first steps after his cancer diagnosis with Roy Sobel beside him. He calls Roy his right hand person throughout the journey.
A frank conversation about prostate health, sex, and dating after cancer.
Rick Clemens talks with Dr. Arthur L. "Bud" Burnett about prostate concerns and men's health, including subjects Clemens says men tend to ignore. He recalls a past guest who ran a prostate cancer survivor group for gay men.
Kyle describes how his husband learned about his bulimia and why he began to address it.
Kyle describes a struggle with bulimia that he kept from his husband. His husband knew he was thin and particular about food, but did not know about the disorder. Kyle's mother knew he had struggled.
Philadelphia stories with civic patience.
Chicago questions, reported with curiosity and context.
National parks with queer history and trail banter.
Rick Clemens uses a solo episode of 40 Plus: Gay Men.
Rick Clemons and Ken Breniman discuss why gay men over 40 must confront mortality, grief, and intimacy issues, including the practice of naked yoga to foster death awareness.
Rick Clemons introduces a conversation with mentor Mike Elliott about how men's relationships reflect their inner selves and the importance of living authentically.
Host Rick Clemens interviews Rich Burns about his web series 'The Disappointments,' which explores the realities and disappointments of gay life after 40.
Rick Clemons interviews author Kit Roughhouse about gay erotica, reinvention, and telling the truth after 40.
Rick Clemens and Devin Scott use "40 plus gay men gay talk" to trace why gay men often feel they "don't belong" and keep adapting to social expectations.
Dallas Oliver says an Emory endoscopy, 11 biopsy sites, and a week of waiting ended with the words "you have esophageal cancer" at age 39.
Burnett says one in nine men, and one in six African-American men, will get prostate cancer.
Rick Clemons interviews Emmy-winning journalist and podcaster Kyle Ridley about the eating disorder -- bulimia rooted in being bullied as a 'chubby gay kid' in the 1990s -- that he hid for most of his 20s.
Rick Clemens interviews author Ricky Baxter about maintaining creativity and authenticity as gay men age, with a Halloween theme.
Rick Clemens interviews author C.
Rick Clemens and matchmaker Tammy Shaklee discuss overcoming app fatigue and finding real connection for gay men over 40.
Rick Clemons interviews Brad Pritchett, interim CEO of Equality Texas, about the changing face of Pride and LGBTQ+ activism in a challenging political climate.
Rick Clemens kicks off Pride season with Damian Pelliccione, a non-binary CEO, to discuss embracing queer joy and thriving in the media world.