"I went through my husband’s phone and tried to end it all that night in a ditch." - Dedun Oluwo |#WithChude

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Dedun Oluwo describes the moment she found her husband's cheating messages on his phone, crashing her world.

The episode is an interview with Dedun Oluwo, hosted by Chude. Dedun begins by explaining she entered marriage with a mindset that avoiding fights meant everything was okay. She became a viral star for her successful businesses before marrying. The first major revelation came when she checked her husband's charging phone and saw messages confirming his cheating. This sent her into a spiral, leading her to write a societal note with bank details as she contemplated suicide. She describes a two-year period in 'maintenance mode' where she felt like a failure, especially as a life coach, and her businesses stagnated. A turning point came when the Holy Spirit spoke to her about forgiveness during prayer. The couple attempted reconciliation, including a vow renewal in church, but trust remained an issue. Dedun took on the role of fixer in the marriage. When she developed a gynecological illness over three months, her husband was reluctant to support her, often citing meetings. She had to apologize for not being intimate to receive care. The situation worsened after a surgery where her husband was grumpy at the hospital. Dedun eventually had a mental breakdown, telling her husband she was at the end of her rope. She decided to wait for a mutual decision to end the marriage to avoid persuasion from others. While planning her exit, she took a trip without disclosing her return date. Upon returning home unexpectedly, she discovered fetish items in the house, making her feel unsafe. Another revelation the next morning confirmed her decision to leave, fearing for her safety as her mother's only daughter. The episode concludes with a call to subscribe to the podcast.

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