Sexologist Maxime Brusselaars explains why the vulva and vagina are two completely separate body parts.
In this episode of Weetikveel, host Kobe Ilsen speaks with sexologist and psychological consultant Maxime Brusselaars, author of a book on the vulva. The episode begins with a basic anatomical distinction: the vulva refers to external genitalia like the lips and clitoris, while the vagina is the internal tube. They discuss terminology, noting efforts to use neutral terms like 'vulva lips' instead of 'shame lips' to reduce stigma. The conversation addresses representation, with Maxime citing that roughly half of women have visible inner vulva lips, challenging the standardized image often seen in porn or textbooks. This leads to a discussion on labiaplasty, its increase due to aesthetic concerns, and the lack of medical necessity. Hygiene is covered, emphasizing that the vulva and vagina are self-cleaning with a pH around 5.5 and that overwashing can cause infections. Sexual health topics include the importance of lubrication, which is linked to clitoral arousal, and the recommendation to urinate after sex to prevent bladder infections. The clitoris is detailed as a complex organ that swells with blood during arousal, similar to a penis, and the concept of vaginal orgasms is explained as stimulation of internal clitoral structures. Pain during sex is highlighted as abnormal and a signal to seek medical help. The hymen is clarified as an elastic membrane with an opening, not a reliable indicator of virginity. Aging effects like dryness and reduced elasticity are compared to male erectile issues. Contraception, particularly the pill, is critiqued for its side effects on desire and lubrication, with a note on the historical rejection of male birth control pills. The episode concludes with a call for open communication and body positivity.
