Unperform with Tiffany Han (formerly Raise Your Hand Say Yes)

EP. 369: How It Looks vs. How It Feels (and Everything in Between!)

·40 min·4 clips

Tiffany Hahn reveals why the journey to radical self-belief never feels like standing on a mountaintop with a trophy.

Tiffany Hahn opens the episode by welcoming listeners to her show, which focuses on transforming life from black and white to radiant technicolor through radical self-belief. She explains this week's topic arose from her own behind-the-scenes work that doesn't look productive externally. The core thesis is that when in a process of discernment or change, the experience never matches the idealized image of success, like holding a trophy on a mountain peak. She discusses the value of 'inconvenient feelings' like sadness or frustration, framing them not as problems to fix but as part of expansion. Tiffany contrasts acting from radical self-belief—a calm, even if nervous, pursuit—with frantic striving driven by fear or not-enoughness. She uses the metaphor of life as a woven tapestry, with threads of commitments, clarity, and margins interwoven, acknowledging knots and messes are part of the art. Reflecting on her own business, she challenges the common advice to 'do less,' arguing instead for 'channeling' her enthusiasm like directing water into a trench for power. She announces a shift: after almost seven years and 369 episodes, she is prioritizing her podcast as the lead vehicle for her message. Tiffany encourages listeners to focus on the feeling they're after—like delight, creativity, or power—rather than just the logistical vehicle. She describes the 'slingshot effect' where stepping back and slowing down creates forward momentum. The episode addresses how doubt and overthinking are inevitable for creatives, but the goal is to shrink the time it takes to return to oneself. Tiffany identifies 'task numbing'—socially approved distractions like laundry or scrolling—as a barrier. She concludes by affirming that holding contradictory feelings like certainty and uncertainty is okay, and the longing within listeners matters to the world.

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A warm, searching episode about treating an unfinished life as part of the art.

Tiffany Han's episode sits with the gap between how a life appears from the outside and how it feels to live through it. She keeps returning to the uneasy stretch between point B and point A, treating that in-between state as part of the work rather than a delay before the real…

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When you feel caught in the in-between, press play for a patient way to sit with the questions instead of forcing them into a soundbite.

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