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From surviving into thriving in the first year

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Kristen links chronic survival mode to anxiety, brain fog, and difficulty making decisions.

Twin Talks opens with the familiar barrage of questions and jokes that twin parents hear before and after the babies arrive. That noise sets up the reality of early twin parenting. Christine Stewart Fitzgerald introduces Kristen Eberle, a twin mom and coach behind Harmony in Multiples. Kristen works with twin moms who want to move from surviving to thriving. The conversation stays focused on the first year, when everything can feel endless. Kristen describes survival mode as a state where a parent keeps going but starts to disconnect from feelings and emotions. She treats that as a stress response, not a personal failure. The first step is not a big fix. It is slowing down enough to pay attention. She suggests looking for even one minute or thirty seconds. In that pause, she asks parents to take a deep breath and notice what they are feeling right then. The point is to retrain the body and nervous system to make room for awareness again. Christine connects the idea to her own first year with twins. She says the first answer she would have given was simple tiredness. But that tiredness held more than one thing. Some of it was physical. Some of it was emotional. Some of it came from frustration about how things were getting done. Some of it came from wanting more time or more help. She talks about the early negotiations with a partner when nobody has done this before. Feeding, roles, and responsibilities all have to be figured out in motion. Even with family help in the mix, there are still a lot of moving pieces. The episode keeps circling back to the same practical point. Twin parents need language for what they are feeling before they can change anything. Naming the feeling opens the door to action. Small check-ins can interrupt the autopilot of survival. That is the path Kristen keeps pointing toward. The conversation never pretends the first year is easy. It does make room for the possibility that it does not have to stay stuck at just getting by.

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A calm reset for twin parents trying to move beyond survival mode.

Christine Stewart Fitzgerald hosts a conversation with Kristen Eberle, a twin mom coach and founder of Harmony in Multiples, about the first year of twin parenting and the slow shift from survival mode to something more livable.

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When twin-parent tired is really physical tired, emotional tired, and survival-mode tired at once.

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