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S2-Ep2: Guest Interview - Erotic Expression with Eleanor O'Brien

·1 hr 6 min·5 clips

Eleanor describes how an Irishman's cunnilingus made her realize she was a temple for worshipping the goddess.

Dr. Tiffany Kaye, a board-certified sexologist, interviews Eleanor, the artist behind Stand Up Smut and Dance Naked Creative. Eleanor creates erotic open mics and theatrical shows to foster authentic sexual expression. Her work spans 17 years and includes solo performances, ensemble shows, and workshops designed to give adults permission to share original erotica. Eleanor describes her show "How to Really, Really, Really Love a Woman," which transforms a personal story of cunnilingus into a theatrical piece about worshiping the goddess. She developed a character called the Goddess Dom for her show "Dominatrix for Dummies is GGG" to embody a sexually confident woman. That show intertwines a humorous story of her failed attempt at professional domination with her discovery of ecstatic dance and the Five Rhythms practice. Eleanor's early exposure to a progressive play about gay life at age eight and a teen sexuality education tour with Planned Parenthood shaped her artistic path. Her current project, "Plan B," imagines a global organization where people gather to talk about pussy and includes real audience stories. A memorable moment involves a tech crew member and their non-binary partner being visibly moved when Eleanor highlighted how trans men contributed clitoral tissue to a key OHSU study. Eleanor recalls a powerful audience interaction where she had people choose mantras like "I am so fucking special" during a seminar on radical self-lust. She shares a personal revelation about asking a partner to wash hands before sex, which removed a barrier to her pleasure. The episode includes a discussion on the common feeling among women that they are solely responsible for providing lubrication during sex. Eleanor uses an earworm song called "Pussy in My Face" by artist Katie Cookie in her shows to subvert traditional sexual messaging. She critiques the porn-influenced expectation for performative sex, recalling a partner who asked her to be "more corny" during intimacy. The conversation touches on the value of events like the Hump Festival for showcasing diverse, joyful bodies in amateur porn. Eleanor's artistic evolution led "Plan B" to replace her earlier show's title to be more inclusive beyond just women. The tone is conversational, enthusiastic, and deeply personal, with both hosts sharing their own experiences freely. The style is educational yet playful, focusing on empowerment through artistic and communal storytelling. Listeners interested in sex-positive theater, erotic writing, and alternative sex education would find this episode compelling. Those uncomfortable with explicit discussions of sexuality or first-person narratives about sexual experiences might choose to skip it.

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A candid, arts-forward conversation that folds erotic performance and sex education into one easygoing exchange.

The conversation between Dr. Tiffany Kaye and Eleanor O'Brien treats erotic expression as a creative practice, with a clear invitation to read original erotica, poetry, music, and other work aloud.

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