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The 'down-ass chick'

August 7, 2018·15 min·1 clip

Melinda Fekwade defines a 'down chick' as a woman who takes less than she deserves so a man feels he gets what he deserves.

James D. Green introduces culture intern Melinda Fakuade, whose essay reclaims the literal meaning of holding someone down from tattoo appointments and drunken nights before pivoting to the down-ass chick. Fakuade defines the archetype as a woman willing to accept less so a man can have more. She places the term's lineage in long-standing patriarchy and specifically in Ja Rule and Charlie Baltimore's Down Ass Chick, which she first encountered watching BET at her cousin's big-screen TV as a minister's daughter. She connects the essay to a current preoccupation with male entitlement and the baseline confidence men carry into any room. She cites Sarah Hagi's well-known line about the confidence of a mediocre white man, extended here to any man. For the piece she interviewed Dr. Robin Boylorn, who wrote about once aspiring to the archetype before rejecting it; Boylorn argues women are expected not to complain and people of color are expected not to complain, and that women of color absorb the compound load. Fakuade sharpens the definition: a down-ass chick may complain privately to friends and family but will not act on her complaints or issue ultimatums, while men in the same relationships freely issue ultimatums about clothing, friendships, and public behavior. She analyzes why anyone would opt in, naming security, dependability, and the belief that resolving never to leave guarantees the relationship. Green presses her on whether such arrangements can be consensual, and Fakuade answers yes, people can be happy there, but the relationships are still structurally unequal because the man can get away with things the woman cannot. She names Cardi B and Offset as a contemporary case, citing Cardi B's handling of infidelity rumors and her pregnancy, while refusing to judge Cardi B's choices. The episode closes with the Cardi B lyric She is my rock, underscoring the tension between admiration and critique.

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