Episode 293. Brandon Kilty. How to win the battle within.

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Brandon Kilty describes his five assault charges and the fight where he nearly killed a man, leading to a court wake-up call.

["The episode begins with the host thanking listeners and promoting past episodes and the Outback Mind Foundation's film 'When the Dust Settles' about male suicide.", "He introduces guest Brandon Kilty, noting Brandon's upbringing involved chaos, drinking, and partying that led to adult issues like depression and anxiety.", "Brandon describes his childhood in Diggers Rest, Melbourne, as involving fighting, arguments, and alcohol, which he normalized until later.", "He started drinking early and continued until almost 30, dealing with neglect, seeking validation, and people-pleasing.", "At 32, Brandon reflects on his past, including being a confused and angry kid with low self-esteem.", "He shares that he doesn't regret his experiences, as they gave him wisdom, but details specific regrets like his involvement in fights.", "Brandon had five assault charges in Melbourne, with one incident where he knocked a man out and nearly caused critical injury, leading to 300 hours of community service.", "He also faced a period where two friends died within 10 months\u2014one by suicide and another in a motorcycle accident\u2014which led to emotional turmoil.", "During this time, he assaulted two police officers, was tasered, and went to court, where a magistrate showed compassion and warned him not to return.", "Brandon then dove into personal development, which he calls the best decision, and has been sober for eight months.", "He recounts a traumatic event at age 16 where his friend's brother was murdered with machetes in an organized fight, highlighting youth violence.", "The host and Brandon discuss the lack of rite of passage for young men, leading to confusion and self-sabotage, with Brandon agreeing that forgiveness is key.", "Brandon talks about losing old friends after his transformation, not from resentment but because their paths diverged, and he now surrounds himself with supportive people.", "He emphasizes the importance of men's groups and sharing stories to create a ripple effect, criticizing tall poppy syndrome.", "Brandon explains that his shift began after the magistrate's leniency and the deaths of his friends, fueling his personal growth.", "He previously worked as a sprinkler fitter in the mines, earning a high income but feeling unfulfilled, before moving into online business and content creation.", "Brandon attributes 99% of his past problems to alcohol, describing it as a legal neurotoxin, and notes how sobriety has improved his life, including sober travels.", "He discusses the challenge of not drinking in environments like footy clubs, but finds people respect his choice, and he aims to inspire others.", "Brandon outlines future plans: a free Instagram broadcast channel called 'The Chain Reaction', a four-week mentorship for men, and his network marketing business.", "The episode ends with Brandon sharing his Instagram handle for contact and the host encouraging listeners to take action on their own paths."]

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A candid conversation about inherited behaviour, men's groups, and the difficult choice to break a family cycle.

Brandon J Kilty's conversation looks at how men can notice inherited patterns before those patterns quietly become their own. The episode is most persuasive when it moves from big ideas about compassion, collaboration, and purpose into the more familiar pressure of wanting…

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Press play when "just carrying on" starts to look suspiciously like something your family has been practising for generations.

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