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DVAM with Survivor Ally Stephens

·1 hr 34 min·5 clips

He kicked her off the bed, then called two days later and told her to lie to the president.

1. Sirens | A Southern True Crime Podcast centers this episode on Allie Stevens and her account of domestic violence with Gage. 2. Allie Stevens appears as both a 22-year-old University of Oklahoma student and a domestic violence lawyer, which gives her testimony added context. 3. The episode asks what abuse looks like when it starts with charm, gifts, and apologies instead of obvious danger. 4. Allie says she met Gage through a dating app in high school and later dated him after Alpha Chi bid day at OU. 5. She describes him as 6'5" with blue eyes and says her family thought the relationship looked like "Barbie and Ken" at a date party. 6. She says the pattern changed after one or two months in October 2019, when he became controlling about her clothing, friends, and sorority life. 7. Allie says he took her phone and sent strange messages in GroupMe chats to make her look odd to other students. 8. She says he would break up with her, block her on everything, then return two weeks later and say he missed her. 9. She says he bought her flowers, gifts, and a puppy while also cheating at frat parties and blaming her for not being there. 10. Allie says his family in Muskogee, Oklahoma, excused his behavior by saying, "That's just Gage" and "It's just how they are." 11. She says his father had been abusive to his mother, that CPS took Gage away around age 9 or 10, and that he used those family stories to explain away his own violence. 12. Allie says the first physical incident involved him kicking her off a bed, after which someone in the frat house heard the impact. 13. She says Gage later called and told her to lie to the president so he would not get kicked out of the fraternity. 14. She says he locked her in a closet, turned off the lights, and slid a cracker under the door while she waited to be let out. 15. Allie says his 21st birthday led to a breakup on her birthday, followed by him buying her a puppy and then throwing her things out a window. 16. She says one assault in Muskogee ended with him throwing her to the ground, kicking her, spitting on her, and leaving her on the floor while his father watched. 17. The episode shifts into a discussion with Rick Rollins and Debra Campbell about how Oklahoma now treats strangulation as a felony and why that matters in domestic violence cases. 18. Debra Campbell, a registered nurse and sexual assault nurse examiner, explains petechiae, ligature marks, fingerprint bruising, and the tactics perpetrators use to hide injuries. 19. Listeners who follow domestic violence cases, survivor testimony, and forensic response will get the most from this episode. 20. Listeners wanting light conversation or no abuse content will probably skip this episode.

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A straightforward domestic-violence episode with detailed strangulation discussion and a later shift into broader explanation.

The episode centers a domestic-violence conversation anchored by Allie Stevens, who says she is 22, has a two-year-old, and attends the University of Oklahoma.

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For when you want domestic violence talk grounded in a lawyer's perspective and practical strangulation details.

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