Bonus Episode: New Year, New You: Sexual Self Mastery

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Sex educators Amy and April dive into sexual self-mastery with expert Fabienne Anik in this bonus episode.

The episode opens with hosts Amy and April introducing the Shameless Sex Podcast and their guest, Fabienne Anik, a sex educator who focuses on sexual self-mastery. Fabienne shares her personal journey into sexuality work, stemming from early challenging experiences and supportive parents, which led her to study trauma release and body work. She initially worked with women but shifted to men due to a lack of resources, and recently returned to working with women. Fabienne defines sexual self-mastery as developing a deep knowing of oneself, emphasizing feeling sensations and breath rather than external performance. She explains that this mastery allows for greater presence and connection in sex. The conversation explores how training for release, common in male masturbation, differs from training for mastery, which involves controlling arousal levels and deepening capacity for sensation. Fabienne debunks myths about male sexuality, including the importance of size, emotional depth, and constant desire. The discussion then shifts to women, focusing on sexual radiance and creating safety to enhance vitality. Fabienne suggests practices like dancing, breathing, and self-pleasure as meditations to unwind conditioning. She highlights sexuality as a mirror for unconscious patterns and emotional wounds, stored in the body and accessible through present-moment awareness. The hosts mention meeting Fabienne in Costa Rica in 2021 and praise her work. Fabienne promotes her free workshops for men and women, a 12-week men's sexual mastery program, and an 8-week women's sexuality program starting in January. The episode ends with calls to action for reviews and support.

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A candid Boxing Day bonus on retraining arousal so pleasure is not reduced to the rush toward release.

Shameless Sex's Boxing Day bonus episode frames sexual self-mastery as something learned, not simply switched on. It separates training for release from building more control over arousal, connecting hurried private masturbation, especially the pattern described for boys, with…

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