Let's Relieve Regret: A self-help podcast about forgiving yourself · Shadoe and Victoria

Starting Over (with Guest Emily Reagan)

·1 hr 28 min·5 clips

Shadow says she used to think happy people were 'being delusional' and felt disgusted by them.

The episode opens with the show’s familiar invitation to ease worry and set down what has been weighing on people. Victoria Mirabersia introduces Emily Regan and frames the conversation as one about moving forward with less self-doubt. Emily is described as a mom of four, a former Air Force spouse, a cheap-a-doodle owner, and someone who has built a career around digital marketing and techie skills. Her work helping women grow, nurture, and monetize their online audiences gives the discussion a practical edge. The hosts and guest then move into the emotional territory underneath the title, especially the difference between useful feedback and judgment. They reflect on how conversations about regret can shape the way people show up for their friends. Victoria describes hearing from a listener who said the podcast had changed how they talk with their own friends. That turns the chat toward the show’s larger purpose and the kind of example it wants to set. The hosts say they did not originally mean to do that, but now see it as part of what the podcast has become. From there, the discussion settles into the role of friendship and what it means to be supportive without turning corrective. Victoria says she has learned not to judge other people’s choices, not to hand out unsolicited advice, and not to treat her opinion as the final word. The emphasis stays on love, listening, and making room for different lives without turning every difference into a problem. That sentiment connects back to the show’s broader interest in regret, self-shame, and the relief that comes from lowering the temperature. Shadow and Victoria keep the tone intimate and direct rather than polished or formal. The conversation shifts naturally between personal development, therapy, and the small social habits that shape trust. It also touches on how women can become especially quick to critique one another, even when the intent is kind. The episode does not try to force a dramatic breakthrough. Instead, it keeps returning to the same practical question: how do you support people without making them defend themselves? The answer it leans toward is simple and hard at once. Be less judgmental. Listen more closely. Let people speak for themselves. In that way, the episode becomes as much about how to be a friend as it is about how to let go of regret.

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A warm, reflective conversation about letting go, being less judgmental, and showing up as a better friend.

This conversation on Let's Relieve Regret comes back to one plain idea: letting go can mean dropping old hurts, grudges, self-doubt, and shame.

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Press play if you want a calm conversation about letting go without shame.

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