Let's Relieve Regret: A self-help podcast about forgiving yourself · Shadoe and Victoria

Maybe it will go away on its own

·1 hr 2 min·4 clips

Victoria says she fears being labeled a hypochondriac because colleagues accused her of faking anxiety for time off work.

1. Let's Relieve Regret: A self-help podcast about forgiving yourself focuses this episode on scars, exercise shame, and self-advocacy after medical care. 2. Victoria Muir hosts with co-host Shadow Ball, and both matter because Victoria shares the regrets while Shadow pushes back with feedback and questions. 3. The episode asks what happens when someone keeps hoping “maybe it will go away on its own” instead of taking action. 4. Victoria opens with a two-year timeline from her abdominal surgery on April 1 and says the fibroids were grapefruit sized. 5. She explains that the surgery required a full 10- to 11-centimeter incision because the fibroids were too large for another method. 6. She says the scar healed as a keloid, which left it puffy, raised, and about a centimeter wide across the original line. 7. She describes adhesions under the scar that make the tissue feel stuck to her abdominal wall. 8. Victoria says the adhesions limit abdominal exercise and have kept her from rebuilding core strength after surgery. 9. She gives a concrete example from rowing, where a different sitting position left her so inflamed she could not go to the bathroom for 24 hours. 10. She says she called her doctor that day and booked an appointment to ask for a plastic-surgery referral. 11. Victoria names “toxic gratitude” as part of the problem, saying she told herself to be thankful for the surgery and not complain about the scar. 12. She also says she fears being labeled a hypochondriac because coworkers once accused her of faking anxiety and a mental breakdown to get time off work. 13. Shadow Ball tells her it is okay to care about how the scar looks, not just how it functions. 14. Shadow also points out that Victoria was sold the idea that the surgery would solve the problem, which makes the scar harder to trust. 15. In the exercise section, Victoria says she regrets not asking for help earlier with maintaining a workout routine. 16. She says she has already picked out a personal trainer, but cash flow has become the excuse she puts ahead of the actual exercise problem. 17. Shadow Ball says everyone, including Olympic athletes, needs coaches, and that exercise goals often require more than willpower. 18. The tone moves between candid confession and practical coaching, with a lot of back-and-forth, self-correction, and laughter about health-nerd habits like bunion correctors and neck traction. 19. People who like honest conversations about fibroids, scars, and rebuilding fitness will likely connect with this episode. 20. People looking for a fast, light, or purely medical discussion may skip this episode.

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