Let's Relieve Regret: A self-help podcast about forgiving yourself · Shadoe and Victoria

Grief and Trust (with guest Sam Mitchell)

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Sam reframes trust as evidence-building: "every time you do something... you're giving your brain evidence."

1. Let's Relieve Regret focuses on grief and trust, with Shadow and Sam Mitchell connecting self-forgiveness to the way people handle loss. 2. Victoria Mirabersia and Shadow Ball host the discussion, and guest Sam Mitchell brings experience from Autism Rocks and Rolls, a podcast he says has thousands of downloads. 3. The episode asks what happens when grief does not look "proper" and when trust has to be rebuilt after bullying, loss, and self-doubt. 4. Shadow says her grandmother died on April 1, 2019, and that no official ceremony happened because family and friends had already said goodbye. 5. She says she expected to do something "really incredible" in her grandmother's memory, but five years later she has not done it. 6. Shadow connects that regret to later losses in her life and says she feels stuck because she wants grief to have a particular shape. 7. Victoria responds that grief does not follow a fixed timeline and says, "grief is love that has nowhere to go" after watching a movie the night before. 8. Sam says he lost his grandfather in December and that two family dogs died after that, which makes the conversation more personal. 9. Sam says his way of coping is to mourn, then "brush it off and just go on" because stopping to dwell would make him feel overwhelmed. 10. Shadow says her grandmother kept a journal with only a few sentences a day, and she remembers a birthday entry that read, "Dave and Lynn had had a child and then shadow and exclamation mark question mark exclamation mark question mark." 11. She also tells the story of her grandmother reacting with "Oh brother" after hearing the name Shadow on a party line, which she treats as a perfect memory of her personality. 12. Sam says grief can be personal and that he does not think there should be judgment or expectations around how long it takes. 13. Shadow says she does not want to be angry at her mother, father, or uncle for how they handled the death, even if the process was not right for her. 14. Victoria and Sam both describe the lack of closure as something that can leave a person in "limbo" and make later grief harder to process. 15. The discussion then moves to Sam's childhood bullying, where he says he was excluded, stereotyped, and had only one friend for a long stretch. 16. Sam says he still feels like he is "running from the change" even after making friends, joining a group chat, and building a more social life. 17. Victoria explains the difference between self-confidence and self-worth, and says repeated actions can give the brain evidence that someone is a good person. 18. Sam agrees that he is not in denial, but says he still struggles to believe people who tell him he is kind, worthy, or trustworthy. 19. The show keeps a conversational, supportive pace, with the hosts asking direct questions, sharing their own experiences, and ending with three guided breaths. 20. Listeners who want grief talk, autism advocacy, and self-worth language will likely stay; listeners wanting light entertainment may skip it.

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