Let's Relieve Regret: A self-help podcast about forgiving yourself · Shadoe and Victoria

convincing ourselves we're fine

·1 hr 34 min·5 clips

"Standing up for yourself does not make you difficult and loving yourself does not make you selfish."

The episode opens with the show’s invitation to let go of past hurts, old grudges, self-doubt, and self-shame. Victoria Mirabersia and Shadow Ball greet listeners with their familiar back and forth and frame the show as a place for stories, tools, and strategies for letting go. The conversation then turns to the way people minimize their own limits. One speaker describes starting out as easygoing and accommodating, then failing to signal when something has become uncomfortable. That pattern, they suggest, makes it harder to change course once it has taken hold. They raise the possibility that this is not simple politeness, but a deeper need to be liked. They also sit with the wish not to make other people carry a heavy weight. The hosts spend time with the idea that emotional honesty can feel like imposing on others. They test that feeling against a practical example about food restrictions. If an allergy could cause real harm, would you still stay quiet just to avoid inconvenience? The question shows how different the stakes can look when the issue is framed as safety instead of preference. From there, the episode widens into the way people assume burden before they have evidence for it. It asks whether listeners may be taking on shame that does not really belong to them. The exchange stays conversational and unhurried. The hosts double back when needed and keep clarifying what they mean. That gives the episode its shape. It is less a lecture than a shared attempt to name why self-protection can feel so hard. The show also reminds listeners that it welcomes guests and anonymous write ins. The result is a gentle, emotionally fluent conversation about how being "fine" can become a way of staying hidden.

As heard by us

A thoughtful talk about people pleasing, hidden needs, and the fear of being a burden.

The episode keeps circling a plain but stubborn problem: people telling themselves they are fine while carrying discomfort, resentment, or limits they have not said out loud.

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Why you'd press play

For the listener who keeps saying yes while quietly reaching a limit.

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