Let's Relieve Regret: A self-help podcast about forgiving yourself · Shadoe and Victoria

Asking for help is not easy

·1 hr 2 min·5 clips

Victoria's physiotherapist told her to work out less because she was using fitness to avoid healing her emotions.

Victoria Mirabersia and Shadow Ball co-host this self-help episode about overcoming personal regrets. Victoria shares her past regret of mistaking self-confidence for self-worth during her burnout recovery. She explains she became addicted to fitness for external validation, neglecting her internal emotional healing. Her physiotherapist pointed out she was using exercise to avoid deeper emotional work. Victoria realized self-worth means feeling inherently valuable simply for existing, not for achievements. She now focuses on both self-confidence and self-worth, finding greater happiness despite being less physically fit. Shadow then introduces her regret about not asking for help with defining her professional title and services. She feels stuck between labels like "virtual assistant" or "consultant," disliking both. Shadow admits a voice tells her she should figure this out alone, even though she readily helps others. The consequence is her hesitation to build a website or fully put herself out there. Victoria relates, sharing her own struggle with the title "wellness coach" due to cultural stereotypes. She advises that doing the actual work is more foundational than a perfect title or website. Victoria suggests Shadow's former clients would likely want to help her succeed if asked. Shadow acknowledges she finds giving help easier than receiving it, fearing vulnerability or losing face. The conversation explores how authenticity and sharing struggles can attract clients who relate. They discuss the Mediterranean diet, noting its emphasis on communal eating and connection over just food types. Victoria connects this to self-worth, explaining that deep, non-transactional relationships reinforce inherent value. The episode has a conversational and supportive tone, blending personal storytelling with practical advice. Listeners interested in self-improvement, especially around self-worth or entrepreneurial identity, would find it valuable. Those seeking highly structured, clinical advice on regret might find the anecdotal style less engaging.

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