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(Video) What the top 1% of men do differently that attracts all women (and it's not looks or money)

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Confidence boils down to two things: competence and independence.

1. How To GET THE GIRL - An Ask Women Podcast focuses on what the top 1% of men do differently to attract women. 2. Marnie hosts the conversation with Kit Barris, who is described as an OnlyFans creator with Mathematics and Psychology degrees. 3. The episode asks what women actually notice when men try to get their attention, and whether looks or money matter. 4. Marnie says most men rely on “looks, money, or saying the right line,” but Kit rejects that framing. 5. Kit says attraction centers on “confidence,” then breaks it into “competence and independence.” 6. Competence, in her words, means trusting yourself to handle situations, learn things, and get through most things. 7. Independence means a woman adds to your life instead of making you, and neediness pushes people away. 8. Kit says a confident man does not panic after rejection, manipulate, or collapse into self-blame. 9. She uses a rejection example where a man hears a short answer, gives one more sentence, and then calmly walks away. 10. Kit describes approaching a bartender in Australia by picking up dropped glasses and offering her number with no pressure. 11. She says that approach worked because it was confident, kind, and included permission to say no. 12. Kit says giving people permission to say no can actually produce more yeses because it feels safe. 13. She argues that repeated rejection should make a man evaluate himself or his approach rather than blame everyone else. 14. Her examples include improving style, reading books, joining a hobby community, or leaning into conversation skills. 15. Kit says a good approach can use strengths like intelligence, humor, and conversational ability instead of chasing a single beauty standard. 16. She says attraction can grow from friendship, but usually within “3, 4, 5 months” or “90, 95% of the time.” 17. The tone is conversational and coaching-oriented, with Marnie pressing for concrete examples and Kit answering with stories. 18. The format stays fast-moving, with a lot of back-and-forth, clarifying questions, and practical dating language. 19. People who want blunt dating advice from a female creator will get the most from this episode. 20. People looking for a short celebrity-style chat or abstract theory may skip it.

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Attraction is treated as behavior, not bragging rights.

It treats attraction as behavior rather than bragging rights, and it keeps circling back to how many men misread what actually draws women in.

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