How to Deal When the Shit Gets Real Podcast · Rietta Boksha

Lindsey Love: Survival and Self | Escaping Abuse, Healing Trauma, and Living with DID

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Lindsay starts by saying that when life gets overwhelming, she tends to redirect herself. She mentions TikTok Lives as one of the ways she does that. She introduces herself as 37, living in Florida, and obsessed with her dog Kirby. She jokes that she is boring now and says she earned that boring life. The conversation then moves into the harder parts of her history. She talks about abuse and says she could not even tell her mother what had happened. Her mother still does not acknowledge it. Her sister knows some of the truth, but even that has taken time. For a while she was staying in Jacksonville with Chelsea, Josiah, and their family. Chelsea eventually brought her to Orlando to meet her grandmother and Sandy. The house is described as beautiful, with a pool, and one back room served as Sandy’s office. Sandy asks her questions and has her draw. She listens closely to what Lindsay says and then looks her in the eye. Sandy tells her that she knows who she is and that she can explain why Lindsay feels the way she does and how this all looks on the inside. She names dissociative identity disorder without softening it. Lindsay says the diagnosis makes sense right away. The moment lands with relief as much as shock. From there the conversation stays with the human fallout rather than trying to tidy the story up. Lindsay keeps speaking plainly, and Rieta gives her space to keep going. The episode closes with advice that is simple but hard-won. Be kind. Notice people. Remember that someone can be carrying a whole private world and still look fine on the outside. Lindsay repeats that nobody is alone.

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A hard story told plainly, with a diagnosis that gives it shape.

Lindsay's story centers on living with dissociative identity disorder and the relief of finally hearing a name for what was happening. The conversation stays close to the practical side of that reality, moving from how she gets through day to day to the moment someone helped…

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Press play for a raw, practical conversation about getting through the shit and finding language for what was happening.

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