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Healing, Hope, and a Husband: How to Stop Waiting and Start Dating

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Megan realized she had to actively search for an apartment like a job—so why not do the same for dating?

This episode features hosts Kait and JJ interviewing Megan and Brian, an engaged couple from their dating community. Megan and Brian both participated in the hosts' 11-week mentorship program, The School of Dating, before meeting. Megan describes her biggest struggle as a passive mindset ingrained by the book *I Kissed Dating Goodbye*, which taught her that dating was wrong and she should simply wait for God to bring a spouse. Brian shares that his primary struggle was dating centered solely on physical attraction and personality, without a spiritual foundation, until a personal shift during the pandemic. The hosts use the analogy of job hunting to argue that finding a partner, like finding employment, requires active effort rather than passive waiting. Brian explains how the School of Dating taught him to value emotional, spiritual, and intellectual attraction over immediate physical appeal, which changed how he saw Megan. A pivotal moment for Megan was realizing that "waiting" in the Bible is an active verb, which compelled her to start a singles ministry at her church. Brian details how the program helped him identify his core wound of rejection and move from an avoidant attachment style toward a secure one. Both Megan and Brian attended the Heart of Dating conference solo, with Megan aiming to practice social skills and Brian seeking a spiritual community. They met incidentally through conference activities, with JJ playing a role in encouraging their initial conversation. Their first date was ambiguously scheduled for mid-March after the conference, leading Megan to directly ask Brian if they were actually going out. Brian admits he initially ran internal stories about age differences and family timelines that almost prevented the relationship. The episode has a conversational, encouraging, and transparent tone, blending personal storytelling with practical dating advice. Listeners interested in Christian dating, personal growth stories, or moving past religious guilt around relationships would appreciate this episode. Those seeking a debate on dating philosophies or a purely comedic take might find it less engaging.

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A warm dating story that stays practical by tying advice to lived risk and real relationship work.

Kate and JJ tell a warm story of healing and breakthrough, with two people from harder pasts now engaged to be married. The talk stays grounded in what changes when faith, self knowledge, and vulnerability enter real dating life, especially when someone has to risk closed doors…

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