Dig Sites, Dawg, and Woke Porn

March 9, 2026·41 min·4 clips

Hayes describes being fed moldy bread and one hard-boiled egg daily at an archaeology dig in Italy.

Em opens by confirming she just completed a proof-based college math final and has officially graduated with an undergraduate degree after six gap years. Hayes then delivers an extended account of the week: immediately after their last recording, Hayes drove two hours to New Hampshire to see someone from a dating app, who called them dog, invoked a Black friend as racial credential, and claimed their therapist had diagnosed them a genius. Despite all this, the hookup proceeded and Hayes reports the sex was good while the conversation was exhausting. The Italy story concerns a study abroad program nominally about data science that turned out to be an archaeology dig on a mountain with no running water, 100-degree heat, moldy bread, and one hard-boiled egg per day — while faculty drank with underage students at night. Hayes tried to organize a labor revolt, failed because students feared losing letters of recommendation from the small network of men who control all the digs, left early after emailing the school they were in danger, and later learned the program has since been banned. Karaoke on Thursday was triumphant, though Hayes admits a competitive tendency when the spirit of karaoke is communal. Em and Hayes then discuss a Lex app event posting that restricted attendees to ages 18-32, which both find unjustifiable for a public park fundraiser for a public library. The conversation expands into how queer spaces can both infantilize younger members and exclude older ones, and how late-transitioning trans people sometimes give unsolicited advice to those who have been on hormones for years. Hayes discusses being stealth at work, noticing voice changes, and weighing whether to come out before a company beach retreat in Florida in August. The episode ends with Hayes announcing the OnlyFans plan — motivated by wanting more fat bipoc trans men represented in adult content.

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Math finals, karaoke etiquette, and porn politics in a loose hangout.

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