Go Help Yourself: A Comedy Self-Help Podcast to Make Life Suck Less · Misty Stinnett & Lisa Linke

LADS: A Guide to Respect and Consent by Alan Bissett

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A party can flip into danger when “that guy” starts making women uneasy.

The episode starts in banter mode and then settles into a review of a self-help book centered on consent and respect. The hosts present it as a guide for everyone, while making it clear that straight men, and the friends who have to deal with their behavior, may get the most out of it. The core message is straightforward: consent and respect matter, which means honoring boundaries, other people, and yourself. They stress that pressure and coercion can show up in more than one form, not just the obvious ones. They also point out that the book still lands even when listeners are not in the exact situations being described. The hosts walk through the six chapters and sketch the structure of the book. Flirting comes first, and they spend time there because it sets the tone for everything else. They highlight the book’s insistence that women are autonomous and owe men nothing. They also note the emphasis on safety and security as a major reason female behavior can seem guarded. Red flags are treated as a self-check, not just a way to judge other people. Negging gets called out as one of the uglier examples. The book’s definition of negging shows how a put-down can hide inside something pretending to be a compliment. The hosts link that behavior to the wider logic of manipulative pickup culture. They also underline the reminder that rejection hurts, but that pain is part of being human. That gives the episode a more grounded feel than a standard advice recap. From there, the discussion widens into how bad behavior gets normalized in group settings. Locker room talk becomes part of a larger pattern rather than a throwaway joke. The hosts keep circling back to the value of calling things what they are. They frame the book as useful because it avoids euphemism and excuse-making. When they talk about the good guys, the focus is less on heroics and more on everyday responsibility. The episode closes on the idea that culture changes when enough people say, plainly, that something is not cool. The final note is practical rather than lofty: safety in numbers matters, and so does speaking up.

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A funny, pointed look at consent, respect, and calling out bad behavior.

The episode frames the book as a plainspoken guide to consent and respect, and that reading fits the material. Misty and Lisa keep the tone light, but they never lose sight of the book's central point: boundaries matter, and so do the people on both sides of them.

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Want a funny, plainspoken guide to self-help that calls out red flags without losing the joke?

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