Gayish: 457 Spanking

·1 hr 22 min·5 clips

Mike and Kyle reluctantly dive into spanking, a Sniffies filter topic they've avoided for 450 episodes.

["Mike and Kyle introduce the episode by explaining spanking was selected from Sniffies filters, a topic they haven't covered in over 450 episodes.", "They start with listener feedback on a previous nude beaches episode, addressing critiques about lack of firsthand experience.", "The hosts transition to news segments, covering a threat to a Phoenix gay bar linked to Charlie Kirk's death and Kamala Harris's memoir revealing she considered Pete Buttigieg as a running mate but deemed it 'too big of a risk.'", "Another news item discusses California Democrat Sarah Jacobs debating Republican Keith Self over a bill to ban gender pronouns in State Department communications.", "Mike and Kyle then delve into the history of spanking, noting ancient hunter-gatherer societies used little corporal punishment, while agricultural societies increased it, possibly tied to property ownership.", "They mention the Mesopotamian fertility goddess Inanna, who whipped subjects until sexually aroused, an early link between spanking and sexuality.", "The phrase 'spare the rod, spoil the child' is explored, revealing it comes from Samuel Butler's 1662 poem 'Hudibras,' an erotic work about BDSM, not the Bible.", "The hosts discuss corporal punishment in schools, noting it's legal in some U.S. states like Texas and Florida but banned in many other developed countries.", "A 2022 study in the Journal of Homosexuality analyzed 415 gay porn scenes, finding 20% depicted spanking, compared to 32% in straight porn.", "The study also reported 34% of gay porn scenes showed condom use, which Mike disputes based on personal observation.", "Other findings include 28% of gay porn scenes depicted kissing, lower than the 75% of gay men who report kissing in real life.", "Mike and Kyle note that aggression like choking and slapping is less common in gay porn than straight porn, possibly due to more egalitarian power dynamics.", "They highlight organized spanking communities, such as Atlanta's ASS (Atlanta Area Spanking Society), which hosts monthly 'munches' and an annual Georgia Spanking Party.", "Other groups include New York's SCONY (Spanking Club of New York) and Texas's Lone Star Spanking Party, featuring themed events like a Wizard of Oz spanking party.", "A Grindr article on erotic spanking is summarized, explaining endorphin release, consent, and aftercare, with terms like 'spankos' for enthusiasts.", "The hosts share personal experiences: Mike was spanked hard without consent during sex, which he associated with feminization from straight porn, while Kyle recalls lighter, incidental spanking.", "They discuss Madonna spanking Anderson Cooper on stage during her 2015 Rebel Heart tour, gifting him a banana.", "An Ask Reddit thread on spanking is reviewed, with responses ranging from positive experiences to emotional triggers related to past trauma.", "The episode includes segments like 'Gayest and Straightest,' where listeners share stories, and a local gay bar review of Midnight Sun in San Francisco.", "Mike and Kyle conclude by thanking patrons and encouraging consensual spanking, wrapping up with their signature sign-off."]

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Gayish compares porn statistics with reported sexual behavior and finds kissing surprisingly absent.

Spanking supplies Gayish with its blunt hook, but the stronger thread is the gap between gay porn habits and what gay men report about their own sex lives.

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You want queer sex statistics where 28 percent kissing runs straight into 75 percent of reported last sexual experiences.

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