@mammadimerda: Non farcela come stile di vita

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Francesca Fiore and Sara Malnerich from the blog Mamma Di Merda present a guide for mothers who feel they can't do it all.

The episode features Francesca Fiore and Sara Malnerich, hosts of the blog Mamma Di Merda, discussing their book 'Non Farcela Come Stile Di Vita', published by Feltrinelli Urra. They begin by explaining the book's purpose as a guide for parents, particularly mothers, who feel overwhelmed by societal expectations. Sara highlights their aim to offer a counter-narration to female empowerment narratives, emphasizing the need to restore dignity to non-exceptional women. Francesca shares a personal story about mistakenly bringing the wrong daughter to a dermatologist appointment, illustrating the absurdity of hyper-performance. The hosts critique the myth of multitasking and the unrealistic demands placed on women, referencing examples like astronaut Samantha Cristoforetti. They conduct a humorous self-evaluation test with questions about wardrobe organization and planning, engaging the audience in reflecting on perfectionist standards. Francesca discusses her experiences with anxiety attacks and the shame associated with maternal imperfection, while Sara talks about her daughter's reaction to unsalted potatoes. The conversation delves into the sense of guilt mothers face regarding children, partners, and extended family. They explore the political gesture of self-identifying as 'mothers of shit' to disarm criticism and claim legitimacy. The hosts address the anger women feel, linking it to unpreparedness for motherhood and undeconstructed gender roles, citing Emily Ratajkowski's memoir. They discuss disparities in how mothers and fathers are treated, such as questions about childcare during work trips. In the Q&A segment, they advise lowering expectations, building networks among women, and offering children models of failure. Francesca mentions the theory of attachment by Bolbi, emphasizing that a reference figure for care need not be the mother. They conclude by calling for rethinking maternal and paternal roles, advocating for 'shitty mothers' and 'good parents' to meet in the middle.

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