6 Money Dates for Married Couples with Dr. Shane Enete

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Couples argue about money 58 times a year—Dr. Shane Enete explains how to turn financial conflict into connection.

Dr. Shane Enete, a finance professor at Biola University and FaithFi contributor, joins host Rob West to transform financial tension into marital connection through structured "money dates." A study of 2,000 couples reveals half avoid money talks to prevent conflict, yet they average 58 money arguments annually. Enete's first money date involves sharing your "money story," including earliest memories and family messages about finances. Date two focuses on establishing a joint "giving adventure," like setting a giving goal, joining a giving circle, or creating a stretch percentage for donations. The third date, "cook the books," combines preparing a meal at home with planning a budgeting rhythm and assigning financial tasks. For discussing debt, Enete suggests a "day spa pass" experience to soften the emotional weight while reviewing credit reports and setting boundaries. Date five, "number your days," addresses estate planning, including wills, trusts, and selecting guardians, inspired by Psalm 90:12. A key insight is that understanding a spouse's financial background fosters empathy and reduces judgment over spending habits. Enete emphasizes that intentional, fun settings make difficult conversations about debt or estate planning feel constructive rather than critical. The episode reveals that couples can develop a shared "giving ethos" and celebrate milestones, making generosity a unifying family adventure. It challenges the notion that budgeting is a dry chore by pairing it with a collaborative activity like cooking. The tone is consistently encouraging and practical, blending biblical wisdom with actionable relationship advice. Listeners seeking to strengthen their marriage and align financially will find creative, manageable steps. Those uncomfortable with faith-based perspectives or already content with their financial communication might skip it.

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Practical relationship advice for turning money stress into more intentional habits.

Money is one of those ordinary topics that can still carry a lot of strain in a relationship, and this episode handles that tension without making it feel abstract. Dr.

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When money keeps turning into fights, this gives you a calmer way in.

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