F*ck Buddies: A Sex and Dating Advice Podcast · Dain Miller & Niall Spain

Tactical Wake Up

·58 min·1 clip
It's essentially gaslighting and love bombing mixed together - it's particularly dangerous because of the damage it could do.
The Closet discusses manipulative dating tactics, specifically 'Tactical Wake Up Seduction' (feigning exhaustion to create dopamine spike when becoming attentive) and Hooters pickup guides. Hosts deconstruct these as gaslighting/love-bombing hybrids, examining psychological harm potential especially on vulnerable people. Anecdote about verbatim-repeated boyfriend reveals performative dating collapses under real relationship scrutiny.

As heard by us

Blunt dating advice that cuts through a strange withholding routine.

Dan Miller and the housemate spend the episode taking apart a strange seduction tactic built on withholding attention and turning people into props.

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Why you'd press play

For when you want dating advice with less perfume and more side-eye.

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