F*ck Buddies: A Sex and Dating Advice Podcast · Dain Miller & Niall Spain

Divorce Encouragers

·49 min

Hosts Dane Miller and Niall Spain answer listener questions about sex and dating with blunt, humorous advice. This episode tackles three distinct dilemmas: a single woman's urgent quest for an engagement, a wife's conflicted desire regarding oral sex, and a fiancée's secret about her diet. The first question comes from "Delulu is the Salulu," a 29-year-old woman who has decided she will get engaged in 2026 despite being single. The hosts dissect her plan to find a husband within 11 months, warning it's a dangerously short timeline to truly know someone. They argue this mindset will attract manipulative or desperate partners, not well-adjusted ones, and compare it to forcing a novel to be written without any ideas. A wife writes in about her disgust with semen, despite newfound arousal from giving oral sex while using a toy. The hosts suggest her "in-the-moment" desire might be "sex brain" talking and advise against forcing it. They recommend gradual exposure, like having her husband finish on her chest first, and stress open communication and having an "emergency kit" ready. The final question involves a woman whose fiancée lied about being a vegetarian for two years, even excluding her from a dinner to maintain the secret. The hosts find the elaborate lie over something "inconsequential" more troubling than the dietary change itself. They probe whether the letter-writer's parents, who mock a non-vegetarian in-law, create a toxic environment that motivated the fiancée's secrecy. A surprising insight is the hosts' strong advocacy for divorce in rushed marriages, labeling themselves "divorce encouragers." They point out the social embarrassment of a "shotgun" marriage that quickly fails is worse than the stigma of being single. The advice for the oral sex question highlights that arousal can create conflicting desires that don't always align with one's genuine comfort level. The hosts emphasize that an engagement is not a social achievement but a commitment to a specific partner, and prioritizing the title over the person is a recipe for disaster. They challenge the young male listener's view that ejaculating in a partner's mouth is inherently degrading, calling that a "shit fucking attitude" that objectifies women. The tone is consistently conversational, candid, and laced with sarcastic humor, as the hosts freely curse and use analogies like "forcing a fart." Their style is direct and opinionated, offering unfiltered perspectives rather than neutral mediation. Listeners who appreciate no-nonsense, comedic advice on navigating modern dating and sexual anxieties will enjoy this episode. Those uncomfortable with explicit language, strong opinions, or critiques of traditional relationship timelines might want to skip it. The episode is best suited for adults seeking blunt, pragmatic takeaways rather than gentle, therapeutic guidance.

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A filthy, funny, unexpectedly practical guide to saying the awkward thing first.

The episode takes a specific bedroom aversion and turns it into blunt, funny advice. Dane Miller and Niall Spain keep the focus on clear communication and pacing, then work through the problem in practical steps: talk about it ahead of time, start smaller if that feels safer,…

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Blunt sex advice for when you want to try something new without spiraling.

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