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Episode 14 | Talking to Your Kids About Sex | Season 2

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They argue that saying “sex is bad” creates half-truths, curiosity, and adult sexual dysfunction.

Ibrahim Suleiman and Linda Idrako Suleiman welcome their returning friends, Bio Arimoro and Robba Arimoro, and the room starts with teasing before the subject settles in. The episode centers on how to talk to children about sex. It also shows how quickly that kind of talk can spill into other hard subjects once a child asks what sounds like a simple question. Robba Arimoro shares a moment when his son asks why people embrace gayness. He says he does not want to answer in a way that turns the child into someone who attacks other people. Instead, he tries to let the boy think for himself. That means asking what the boy thinks after the adults have talked through the issue. The conversation leaves room for what the parents believe without turning the child into a lecture target. Robba Arimoro carries that same approach into Christianity. He says he did not tell his son that he had to be a Christian just because he was the father. He describes introducing prayer and other practices, then letting the child arrive at his own sense of God. The hosts keep returning to the tension between conviction and pressure. They want children to understand what their parents believe. They also want the children to have a mind of their own. The exchange stays loose, with interruptions, corrections, and little side jokes about phones and singing. That looseness fits a conversation about parenting, because the episode is about one of those family discussions that never arrives in a neat package. At several points the adults admit that parenting is not always cleanly planned. One of them even says that a lot of it is fluke. The episode still keeps its footing because everyone stays with the same basic problem: how to tell the truth without crushing curiosity. The closing stretch turns toward praise for the parents' approach and a plug for the guests' YouTube page, True Love and Everything In Between. The sign-off keeps the same warm, conversational feel as the rest of the episode. By the end, the episode lands on a simple idea with a lot behind it. Children can be guided through hard questions, and the adults around them can do it without losing warmth or turning every answer into a fight.

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A candid parent-to-parent talk about sex, faith, and the questions children ask early.

The Duke Parenting Podcast brings together Ibrahim Suleiman, Linda Idrako Suleiman, Bio Arimoro, and Robba Arimoro in a candid, lightly joking conversation about how parents talk to children about sex.

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When your child asks a sex question you did not rehearse for.

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