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David Richo: Better Than Revenge

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Richo lays out four steps: grieve, say “ouch,” open dialogue, and send goodwill.

The conversation starts with revenge uncomfortably close to home. Caitlin and Ben admit the feeling can run hot and feel a little shameful, then back away from the fantasy of making someone suffer. David Richo comes in softly, which suits the subject. He is not here to scold anyone for having the urge. His point is sharper: retaliation can cut the bond it says it is protecting. That gives the episode its main tension. Richo calls retaliation the opposite of love, while still making room for small tit for tat moments inside ordinary relationships. Caitlin lingers there. The intimate relationships chapter catches her because it treats revenge less like drama and more like exposure. Why would someone hurt the person they love? Richo points to the resentment that can show up when love makes a person feel dependent, needed, and less free. That lands gently, but it stings a bit. He also names resentment, fear, and transference as reasons people strike at people they care about. Caitlin keeps asking him to slow down and explain the terms, so the talk stays usable. The chapter title, from payback to love back, becomes the quiet turn: notice the hurt before turning it into harm. The ending stays warm, with Caitlin and Ben recommending the book and noting that it may stir hard family conversations about the end of life.

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