Between The Dream

Dealing With Toxic Shame: Men In Mending

·7 min
The episode begins with host Richard Taylor Jr. greeting listeners from the Workhorse HQ in Edmonds, Washington. He thanks the audience and introduces the topic of toxic shame as part of a 'men in mending' conversation series, prompted by October's domestic abuse awareness events. Taylor reveals he is a survivor of domestic abuse, a part of his story he rarely discusses. He frames this as a two-part series, with this episode covering the dangers of shame and a follow-up on conquering it. The host gears the conversation toward men but invites all listeners to gain insights. He first discusses anger as a common symptom of toxic shame, noting it stems from pain and disappointment. Taylor shares that his own shame manifested as anger, leading to self-harm and feelings of unworthiness. He mentions other potential reactions like alcohol and drug abuse. The second symptom explored is withdrawal, where individuals pull away from community and comforting spaces. Taylor explains this withdrawal makes people feel unworthy of friendship and love, opening the door to greater issues. He connects both anger and withdrawal to unhealthy coping mechanisms that often go unchecked. The host argues these behaviors become normalized but are detrimental. He concludes by stating shame-induced traits and habits are not normal, urging listeners to take care of themselves to prevent shame from overtaking them. The episode ends with Taylor encouraging sharing the episode and providing his social media handles, along with his signature closing phrase about being 'between the dream.'
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