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Episode 381 - Your Mindful Choice Is Your Ego Working For or Against You with Christie Garcia

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After falling three floors, Christy Garcia had a breakdown that exposed how her ego had made her emotionally unavailable.

The episode begins with host Steve Schallenberger introducing Christie Garcia as an ego management expert, speaker, and founder of Mindful Choice Leadership Academy. Garcia starts by describing her background in medical sales and recruiting, where she observed that high-performing individual contributors often struggled when promoted to management due to a lack of human-focused training. This led her to become a life coach and focus on bringing the human element back into leadership development. Garcia defines ego not as arrogance but as the unconscious brain—habits, behaviors, and beliefs that can sabotage intentions. She shares a pivotal personal story: after falling three floors from a fire escape, she had a breakdown during a coaching call, realizing her ego had made her emotionally unavailable and unfulfilled despite career success. This experience motivated her to leave corporate America and start her business. Garcia explains that ego drives 99% of our unconscious decisions, which can be beneficial for individual success but harmful in team settings where it becomes 'I-driven'. She outlines three ego types: the compiler (people-first, but can struggle with accountability), the controller (results-driven, but can lead to micromanagement and lack of fulfillment), and the protector (values-driven, but can be black-and-white and emotionally charged). Garcia advises that a balanced ego uses each type at about 33%, achieved through self-awareness and ownership. She discusses how ego sabotages happiness and success by creating blame, lack of delegation, and compartmentalization between work and family. Garcia emphasizes that ego management is about giving yourself choice rather than being a victim to circumstances. The conversation touches on applying ego principles to parenting and personal relationships, where emotional triggers are common. Garcia concludes by urging leaders to be conscious and take ownership to transform cultures. She shares her website, MindfulChoiceAcademy.com, and LinkedIn details for further resources.

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An ego management expert connects ego awareness with accountability, control, and the everyday impact leaders have on employees and customers.

Leadership advice here turns on a useful discomfort: ego is not just a personal quirk, but something that can quietly steer a business when it goes unexamined.

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